Ugly Betty star Michael Urie has opened up about his sexuality, insisting he’s never felt comfortable labelling himself “gay” because he’s enjoyed relationships with women in the past.
The actor, who plays fashion assistant Marc on the hit sitcom, is currently in a long-term relationship with a man but he refuses to categorise his sexual orientation.
He tells ‘The Advocate’ magazine, “I’ve never said I was straight, and I’m not saying I’m gay now. I never lie, and I’ve never shied away from the topic… I am not a hypocrite — certainly not now. I’ve been in a relationship for a while now, and if you just met the two of us together we’d be ‘gay’. But that somehow means anything that happened before (we met) didn’t count — and I don’t feel that way.”
So is Urie a heterosexual who turned homosexual? Or has he always been homosexual but didn’t realise? Perhaps bisexual even? Or maybe Urie is confused, undecided or still in the process of deciding?
You know what? It doesn’t matter. And it shouldn’t matter to anybody BUT Urie. It’s his life, his choice and his decision to make.
We label people and things because it helps us make sense of the world we live in. It brings an order to the chaos and uncertainty of life. Again and again, I am learning that the world is not always straight forward or black and white. We are all different, unique, special. One’s sexual identity, gender orientation and sexual preferences are not always clear and it should be determined by oneself — not others.
Rather than be hung up on labels, look for the beauty inside each person. You might not always agree and do not even need to understand how one person can be so different from another. Just appreciate the person for who he or she is.
“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”
– William Shakespeare