I was my senior year in high school and I was the only one of all my friends that was still a virgin. Looking back on it, I think that made me feel pressure to have sex. I thought it over and decided to “do it” with someone I was friends with. That was definitely a good decision because I knew we would always be friends and I didn’t have to deal with any heartache.
My parents had gone away for a week, leaving me and my sister home alone. I invited my friend over and I don’t know if he had anticipated what was about to happen. He wasn’t a virgin, but he knew I was.
There was no talk about “doing it” ahead of time but I guess we both just went with the flow. I had heard stories of it hurting the first time, but also heard stories of the pleasures. So with that I was a little scared, but I figured “what the hell” it would have to happen eventually. Then it happened! It wasn’t as romantic as I imagined, but maybe it was because I had no idea how to “do it.”
The very first insertion of his penis into my vagina was pretty painful, but after that it wasn’t as painful. Being so scared and unsure of myself I did not achieve an orgasm, but he (being semi-pro at it) did get satisfaction. Of course I couldn’t wait to tell all my friends about it, but what was I going to tell them…that I was scared, unsatisfied and the experience wasn’t what I expected?!?!
So I lied; told them how great it was and couldn’t believe what I had been missing out on all this time. Me and my friend continued our friendship “with benefits” on and off for several years. After time “doing it” got so much better and I started to feel more comfortable.
Then I wanted it all the time…is that normal for a woman?!?! Even if it wasn’t normal, my friend certainly wasn’t complaining. We would “do it” in my car, in corn fields, or any other spot we could find privacy. I definitely do not regret the who, what, where, when or how I lost my virginity… as a matter of fact I couldn’t have chosen a better person to share the experience with.
The only advise I would give to someone who’s still a virgin is to stay a virgin as long as you can and when you do “do it” make sure it’s with someone special… the memory of your first time will be one of the few memories you will always remember and the worst thing would be having a regretful memory, so make it special!