This week, I want to share a new video I made while in Bali.
Growing up, I was often told to sit down, and shut up – afterall, children are meant to seen, not heard. Familiar?
Even as a grown up, I often worry about whether what I wanted to say was going to bear negative consequences. For years, I struggled with speaking up out of fear of hurting others or being hurt myself.
It really wasn’t until I was training to be a sexologist that I realised just how important the concept of authentic consent when it comes to sex – and by extension, authentic communication. This means being able to speak our truth, including our yes and no, without fear of negative repercussions.
With this lack of communication skills (ironic that my first degree was actually a Bachelor of Arts -Communications), I recognised that it is about conscious practice so what is unfamiliar and uncomfortable becomes more natural and effortless. I now teach them in private sessions and workshops.
In this video, I want to share 3 common reactions people have to difficult conversations – not just sex. Which of the three are you? What of the three is the default mode of your partner? Is there something I should have mentioned but is not there?
Also, let me know whether you agree or disagree. I’d love to hear from you.
Hire Martha to get better at speaking your truth and handling difficult conversations here.
Who is Martha?
Dr. Martha Tara Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and relationship coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. She is the author of the books Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, and Orgasmic Yoga. She is also the host of the weekly radio show Eros Evolution on OMTimes Radio. For more, visit www.ErosCoaching.com or email firstname.lastname@example.org.