Counselling is a helping approach that highlights the emotional and intellectual experience of a client, how a client is feeling and what they think about the problem they have sought help for.
- The process that occurs when a client and counsellor set aside time in order to explore difficulties which may include the stressful or emotional feelings of the client.
- The act of helping the client to see things more clearly, possibly from a different view-point. This can enable the client to focus on feelings, experiences or behaviour, with a goal to facilitating positive change.
- A relationship of trust. Confidentiality is paramount to successful counselling. Professional counsellors will usually explain their policy on confidentiality, they may, however, be required by law to disclose information if they believe that there is a risk to life.
Counselling is not about:
- Giving advice.
- Being judgemental.
- Attempting to sort out the problems of the client.
- Expecting or encouraging a client to behave in a way in which the counsellor may have behaved when confronted with a similar problem in their own life.
- Getting emotionally involved with the client.
- Looking at a client’s problems from your own perspective, based on your own value system.
I am offering free counselling via Skype towards fulfillment of my Masters in Counselling.
I decided to pursue this Masters in Counselling by Monash University (through Kaplan) so as to enhance the services I offer my existing clients. I have received confirmation that I can fulfill 80 of the required 160 direct client contact hours through my own agency which I work in. For every 4 hours of counselling, I will have one hour of supervision at my own cost.
If you require in-person counselling, do note that they need to be conducted in a neutral and safe space. To cover the cost of space rental, I ask for S$50 per session (lasting 50 minutes) only.
These are some appropriate client issues:
- Grief / loss
- Weight loss / Smoking
- Unhappy / sad
- Stress / worry
- Anger management
- Career choice
- Sleep hygiene
- Social skill training
- Telling lies
- Managing poor / chronic health
- Despair about the future
- Adjustment issues (e.g. child leaving home, retirement, relocation etc.)
- Worry about money
- Loneliness and feelings of rejection
- Time management
Inappropriate Client Issues
- Eating disorders (clinical) including Bulimia and Anorexia
- Bipolar Disorder
- Severe Trauma
- Heavy / serious drug use
- Sexual offenders
- Sexual dysfunction (which I do work with as a sexologist)
- Gender identity disorders (which I do work with as a sexologist)
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
- Depression (clinical)
- Suicidal clients including ideation
- Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
- Sociopaths and psychopaths
- Anxiety (clinical) including:
• Phobias (e.g., Agoraphobia)
• Panic disorder
• Panic disorder
Let me know if you’re interested to take up this offer by dropping me an email here.
Difference between Coaching and Counselling
Both Coaching and Counselling helps you get from point A to point B – where you are at, to where you want to go.
However, the approach is different.
Your coach or counselor would never tell you what to do, but instead facilitate the process.
Coaching focuses on taking action – with one small step in moving forward.
Counselling focuses on emotional clarity helping you move forward.
For more about the differences, watch this video.
Work with me by emailing me here.
Work with Martha
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to right this societal injustice in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
Since 2011, she has been (and still is) the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. This accolade is only for those who meet the stringent requirements determined by AASECT, which is the leading professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists in the United States. In short, she strives to be the one of the best sexologists in the world.
She takes prides in making sure all her events are fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here.
Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published two books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, and Orgasmic Yoga. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
Definition of counselling from http://www.skillsyouneed.com/general/counselling.html