- What is a Clinical Sexologist?
The field of sexology draws upon many disciplines, such as sociology, psychology, anthropology, medicine, and the arts to understand human sexuality. For example, a sexologist will have knowledge of how sexual behavior and attitudes differ from one culture to the next. They will have also studied how hormones affect sexuality and the various physiological mechanisms involved in sexual arousal. A clinical sexologist is someone who applies their knowledge of sexology through counseling and education.
- Why should I see a Clinical Sexologist and not a regular therapist?
Think of a clinical sexologist as a specialist. When you have sexual questions or concerns you want to consult someone who has the greatest knowledge of your particular concern.
- What are some objectives clients hope to achieve?
Each client has his or her own unique circumstances and experiences. Possible objectives might include:
- Accepting varying definitions of sex and sexuality
- Augmenting dating and social skills
- Communicating better (with and without words)
- Confronting sexual trauma
- Defining monogamy and setting rules within a relationship
- Embracing your sexual orientation
- Enhancing sexual satisfaction
- Enjoying sex toys (or going on a field trip with me to buy sex toys)
- Eroticizing safer sex
- Fueling sexual desire
- Increasing sexual stamina
- Learning about sex (anatomy, physiology, health, etc)
- Loving your body
- Negotiating diplomatically (in and out of bed)
- Overcoming erectile and ejaculatory concerns
- Practicing BDSM with safety and pleasure
- Raising children who are sex-positive and grounded
- Releasing sexual inhibitions
- Sharing a life together while living apart
- Stating and achieving sufficient sexual needs
- Touching with love and intimacy
- Triumphing over internal and societal homophobia, biphobia, transphobia, shame, and stigma
- What happens during a session?
Your first session is a great opportunity for you to decide if I am the right person for you. Ask as many questions as you like. When you are satisfied with what you hear/ see/ feel you will be asked to make choices about further sessions.
During our one hour session, I expect you to talk about the primary concerns and issues in your current sex life. Between sessions, I may give you home assignments. It will also help you think about and process what we discussed. The amount of change you see in your sexual life is directly related to the amount of effort you put in.
- What are the differences between counseling and coaching?
There are large overlaps between what Coaching and Counseling offers you, however, the broad differences are:
more focused on the Past and Present
more oriented on feelings
and who you are ‘being’ as a person.
more focused on the Present and the Future
more oriented on projects or goals or skills
and what you are ‘doing’ as a person.
- Is sex counseling and coaching confidential?
I do not disclose information without your written permission. However, there are number of exceptions to this rule:
- If a client is threatening serious bodily harm to another person/s. I must notify the police and inform the intended victim. This is bodily harm outside of a consensual BDSM scene.
- If a client intends to harm himself or herself. I will make every effort to enlist your cooperation for your own good. If you do not cooperate, I may take further measures – without your permission, to ensure your safety.
- Suspected child abuse or dependant adult or elder abuse. The law requires me to report this to the appropriate authorities.
- Can you elaborate on your Skype coaching and counseling sessions?
Sessions are traditionally done face to face. Occasionally, depending on your circumstances, it may suit you better to have a phone session or two. Phone sessions are also available at times when it is not practical to do face to face sessions. There is no additional charge if both parties are using Skype. If I need to call a land line, it will be charged at cost.
- Do you teach tantra?
Tantra is a spiritual path that takes years to master. Most Tantra teachers and workshops teach a small segment of the Tantric philosophy that focuses on sexuality, massage, and breathing. While I incorporate some Tantric ideas and methods into my work, I neither believe that any kind of sexual expression is the best nor insist that you adopt a new language or complicated types of breathing.