Websites:

• resolve.org–referrals, support, advocacy
• asrm.org—American Society for Reproductive Medicine
• sart.org—Society for Assisted Reproductive Technology
• webmd.com—support and resources
• infertilityeducation.org—resources, down-loadable factsheets
• pcossupport.org—Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome
• endometriosisassn.org—Endometriosis information, resources
• hannah.org—Christian support for fertility challenges
• ONNA.org – online infertility support group
• MISSfoundation.org—perinatal loss support groups
• fertilityplus.org—miscarriage support groups
• miscarriagesupport.org
• dailystrength.org
• arni.org – AdoptionResourceNetwork.org
• Child Free Network – 916-773-7178
• Parents Through Surrogacy – 847-394-4116
• childbirth.org – fertility information
• infertilitymindbody.com – holistic interventions

Books:

• Conquering Infertility by Alice Domar and Alice Kelly
• Resolving Infertility by Diane Aronson and Staff of Resolve
• Six Steps to Increase Fertility: An Integrated Medical and Mind/Body Program to Promote Conception by Robert Barbieri, Alice Domar, and Kevin Loughlin
• Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom by Christiane Northrup, MD

This educational talk covers what any savvy women should know about common female sexual concerns. Just how would you overcome low sexual desire, pain during sex and problems with sexual communication?

Taking charge of your sexual life involves preparing yourself mentally, emotionally and physically for a lifetime for eros. It will also cover practical physical exercises any women can do to better take care of her sexual health.

This talk is open to all including men. Event page is here.

Date: Sat 11 May 2013

Time: 2 – 4:30p.m.

Venue: Exhibition Room, Singapore Chinese Chamber of Commerce & Industry, 47 Hill Street, Singapore 179365

These were the testimonials received:

“It is a good start should you think that sex is only about things/ activities that happens in the bedroom.”

“The course was fun, open and easy to digest. It reminded me of some things and taught me news as well.”

“Very supportive & encouraging.”

“Easy explanations”

“Making a conservative topic comfortable to discuss.”

“Martha’s attitude.”

“Humorous and willing to share anecdotes”

I was recognised as one of Top 100 Inspiring Women by CozyCot in 2011. I made this speech at the CozyCot International Women’s Day at t at Orchard Central on Sun 13 March 2011. More about it here.

Good afternoon. I am very pleased to be recognized as one of the top one hundred inspiring women in Singapore by CozyCot. This afternoon, I would like to take a few minutes to share why I think I inspire women through my work.

As you probably already know, I am a clinical sexologist by profession. I have a doctorate in human sexuality, as well as certificates in counseling, coaching and sex therapy. I do not prescribe medication. Most of my work involves working with individuals and couples who have sexual difficulties or concerns. I also conduct sexual education workshops.

You can rightly assume that, as a clinical sexologist:
• I am comfortable talking about sex and sexuality
• That I have positive attitudes towards sex, sexuality, relationships and, most importantly,
• And am comfortable in my own skin.

That hasn’t always been the case.

For the longest time, being a woman, to me, meant being:
• seen and not heard;
• expected to help, serve (for instance cook, clean, iron) and please people around me, especially the men;
• fertile, and being expected to bear children.
• expected to look good, smell nice, and happy and positive at all times.

I have resented being born a woman and all the societal and cultural expectations that comes with being a woman. If I were to laugh or speak at all, I was asked to, please, not do so too loudly, in order to not inconvenience those around me. I was not expressly told, but I knew better than to oppose a man – not if I wanted him to love me. To oppose a man is to risk being hit, because as a woman, I am not just physically smaller in build, but also weaker in strength. And because men are stronger, have been taught all their lives to lead, protect, defend and take care of the weaker sex – the women; I just assumed that they knew better.

I had, unwittingly, been living life in less than my full capacity because nobody, including myself, had ever expected much of me.
Through a series of events that happened in my life, including being abandoned by my first husband, I learnt that I could not love without first loving myself. I learnt to and finally began to embrace my identity as a woman – all of it. I realised that these ‘shackles’ of being a woman were ones that I had chosen to stay in. Some of these ‘shackles’ were placed upon me, others were probably figments of what I thought was real, and the rest I had put myself into.

Rising above these shackles simply meant being aware of what is, being focused on what could be, and being resigned to some of what will always be, yet ultimately being conscious and deliberate in taking baby steps going towards what I really want.

During my period of soul searching, I asked myself what I would do if I was not afraid. I knew my life purpose had to do with helping people. I also recognized that I have also been interested about sex. I thought I knew a lot before going to sex school. I look around and questioned why nobody was acknowledging the importance of sex and sexuality to one’s sense of well-being, not to mention the role it plays in a relationship. Surely, there was more to understanding sex and sexuality than learning to protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs), making babies, and getting your period?

In my practice, Eros Coaching, I work with many women and men in furthering their understanding of human sexuality, developing an understanding of their sexuality and better expressing themselves through sex and intimacy.

Female sexuality is certainly close to my heart, being a woman myself. For most of my life, I have been told that as a woman, I should not be so forthright or outspoken. Now, I am grateful for what seems like the instant rapport and comfort women have when they communicate with me – women who would otherwise not seek my support if I weren’t a woman. I work with them to come into their sexual power – recognising, reclaiming, embracing and honouring their sexuality as wonderful and positive, often by working with them one step at a time.

Sex is not everything, but it certainly is important. We all have options– including doing nothing. I choose to be plunged into life and live it fully in the ways I know how. I am a woman who has made peace with being a woman.

For more about Dr. Martha Tara Lee, click here.

“Know how to stretch the limit, break the limit by inserting the part in spanking.”

“Learning new experiences.”

“Interesting, debunking.”

“Awareness of D-S sensations.”

In conjunction with National Masturbation Month in the United States in May, Eros Coaching is running the first Masturbation Month campaign in Singapore. Eros Coaching wants to promote masturbation as healthy, safe and natural way to express one’s sexuality, thereby removing much of the shame and stigma have so long colored the act masturbation.

The campaign aims to

• Educate more people about masturbation and the benefits through demystifying this aspect of sex and sexuality
• Help those already enjoying themselves to delve further
• Encourage more positive conversations about sex and sexuality

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In conjunction with National Masturbation Month in the United States in May, Eros Coaching is running the first Masturbation Month campaign in Singapore. Eros Coaching wants to promote masturbation as healthy, safe and natural way to express one’s sexuality, thereby removing much of the shame and stigma have so long colored the act masturbation.

The campaign aims to

• Educate more people about masturbation and the benefits through demystifying this aspect of sex and sexuality
• Help those already enjoying themselves to delve further
• Encourage more positive conversations about sex and sexuality

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In conjunction with National Masturbation Month in the United States in May, Eros Coaching is running the first Masturbation Month campaign in Singapore. Eros Coaching wants to promote masturbation as healthy, safe and natural way to express one’s sexuality, thereby removing much of the shame and stigma have so long colored the act masturbation.

The campaign aims to

• Educate more people about masturbation and the benefits through demystifying this aspect of sex and sexuality
• Help those already enjoying themselves to delve further
• Encourage more positive conversations about sex and sexuality

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In conjunction with National Masturbation Month in the United States in May, Eros Coaching is running the first Masturbation Month campaign in Singapore.  Eros Coaching wants to promote masturbation as healthy, safe and natural way to express one’s sexuality, thereby removing much of the shame and stigma have so long colored the act masturbation.

The campaign aims to

• Educate more people about masturbation and the benefits through demystifying this aspect of sex and sexuality
• Help those already enjoying themselves to delve further
• Encourage more positive conversations about sex and sexuality

Receive future updates from Eros Coaching

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1. Irregular bleeding. Can include many different variations, such as irregular periods, an increased or decreased flow during your period, and spotting at other times.
2. Hot flushes. Doctors only prescribe hormone replacement thearpy (HRT) when women have severe symptoms and its benefits outweigh the risks).
3. Breast tenderness.
4. Premenstrual syndrome. Keep a log for a period of several months so that you can describe to your doctor exactly what’s happening to you. The more information your doctor has, the more likely he or she will be able to help you. This is also true if your symptoms suddenly worsen as you enter perimenopause.
5. Increased fatigue. One of the best things you can do to reduce these feelings of fatigue or depression is to exercise (assuming there is no underlying physical ailment that is making you feel tired). Exercise causes your body to release endorphins, which will elevate your mood and thur reduce fatigue.
6. Vaginal dryness. In additional to producing less lubrication after menopause, the tissues that make up your vagina get thinner and become less elastic (after all, your vagina no longer needs to stretch to allow a baby to get through). These changes can also make sex less comfortable and even painful.
7. Sleeping difficulties. Can stem from hot flashes that wake you up in the middle of the night and then don’t allow you to fall back to sleep, or they can come from your having to get up several times to go to the toilet.
8. Frequent urination. One of estrogen’s many duties is to maintain your bladder and urethra in a healthy condition. When your levels of estrogen begin to drop in perimenopause and menopause, one result is the weakening in these parts of the body. As a result, you may find that you have to go to the toilet more foten or that you leak urine at certain times, such as when you cough or sneeze.
9. Mood swings. It is important to try to judget what exactly is happening to you. If you feel sad because of an actual symptom, it may be easier to overcome that on your own than it is if you feel depressed because of a drop in hormone levels, which you can’t control.
10. Changes in your sex drive. Some women discover that without the risk of pregnancy and with interruptions because of “that time of the month”, their sex lives blossom. It may also help if their children are gone, and the couple has added privacy.

Extracted from Sexually Speaking: What Every Woman Need To Know About Sexual Health (2012) by Dr Ruth K Westheimer and Amos Grunebaum and Pierre Lehu, pp. 184 – 190.

Don’t allow your hormones to set the rules when it comes to your sex life.

Extracted from Sexually Speaking: What Every Woman Need To Know About Sexual Health (2012) by Dr Ruth K Westheimer and Amos Grunebaum and Pierre Lehu, pp. 212.