My 'Why' in Creating a Women Support Circle

When I was going through my divorce, the last thing I wanted to do was go into circle with other women going through the same thing because I did not view what I was going through as same-same as others. I didn’t want to be surrounded by more pain, negativity, fears, drama, and stories. I didn’t want pity, being told what I should have done, or what I could do. I was already overwhelmed, suffocating, and barely keeping myself afloat.

This is why people can be resistant to go to support group of people who seem to be like them e.g. divorce, single parents, assault etc. Yet there are of course others who can find support, solace, and solidarity in support groups. We are individuals, and there is no one size fits all.

This is why when I met one person recently who shared she couldn’t and wouldn’t go to a divorce support group, but preferred a women support group – I got it immediately. She touched and affected me more than she would ever know. I was her. This is why I felt compelled to and decided to spring into action to a Women Support Circle (monthly for a start, and hopefully bi-monthly from next year).

Older and wiser with more knowing of who I am and what my strengths and weaknesses are… it became more important that the group succeed – for the right reasons. I knew I needed a community of women who were already secure within themselves to offer the safe space other women needed. They would support, not take away from. They would love even strangers – because they embody love already. I needed my sisters to do this with me and they are: Dianna Lane, Linda van Laer, Teoh Seok Hean, Jacqui Kay. I love each of them. And you will too. Come into circle with us. More here!

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.