Press Release – 3rd Sugar & Spice Mar 23 – 27, 2021

Posted On: March 6, 2021

Sugar and Spice 3rdAsia’s first virtual sexuality festival – Sugar and Spice returns for the third time!

Sugar and Spice was founded by Singaporean Chinese doctor Martha Tara Lee, a relationship counsellor and clinical sexologist holding a doctorate in human sexuality and a masters in counselling.

Dr Martha was inspired to launch Sugar and Spice after noticing a lack of sexual education and discussion within Asia. After participating in several sexuality festivals – held virtually due to the Covid-19 pandemic – she discovered that at each of these events she was one of the few, if not the only, Asian sex experts taking part.

“I saw all this amazing work my colleagues were doing and I asked myself. ‘If I did a virtual sexuality festival (not  just for the sake of it), what would it be?’ The answer came: an Asian one.”

The first two Sugar and Spice Festivals were held in the second half of 2020 and the third instalment is taking place online from March 23-27, 2021.

She says the Sugar and Spice Festival will question the conventional thinking that people raised in traditional societies and households are unable to express themselves with confidence and purpose when it comes to sex – their preferences and attitudes, and the impact of social discretion and judgement.

“I wanted to create a platform to debunk the misconception that ‘We Asians don’t talk about sex’, ‘We Asians aren’t like that’, and to support them in their sexuality. There are many of us (sexuality educators or sex-positive advocates), and many voices and messages are needed to bring about a healing around our sexuality and help us reclaim it”.

Due to the often conservative nature of Asian culture that makes sex a taboo topic at home and in schools, Sugar and Spice aims to impart positive messages and learning around sex – dealing with the good and the bad, the importance of sexual wellness, and empower participants to listen, observe, learn and attain sexual freedom on their own.

Dr Martha has seen first hand how a lack of sex education can harm an individual’s attitude towards their sexual health, which also affects how they view themselves and others. She says that this can lead to sexual inhibition and problems experiencing pleasure, and their ability to achieve an orgasm when they  are both by themselves or with partners.

The online nature of Sugar and Spice Festival allows participants from all over the world to connect and interact with others who may have had similar experiences. The speakers and facilitators involved are all skilful and empathetic experts in their fields, ensuring that the sessions will be dynamic, interactive and informative.

The Festival programme includes a range of presentations,  workshops, panel discussions and guided movement sessions. Participants will discuss the impact of growing up in Asian households,  debunk sexual myths, sex issues involving the disabled, misconceptions about of BDSM, and ways to harness the power of your vulnerability.

Sugar and Spice Festival aims to help close the gap in sex education in Asia and provide positive role models regarding sexual wellness.  It’s time to encourage openness and understanding inside communities that are quick to shun any discussion about sex.

For information on the schedule, times and more, please visit:

To contact any of the participants, please email Dr Martha Lee at

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Date: 23rd – 27th March 2021

Hosted throughout the week via zoom.
People who purchased the tickets will be invited to join a closed FB group – where you will get the Zoom link to attend sessions LIVE, or choose to access the recordings for up to 30 days.
Pass price levels: All Access Festival Pass, Donate a Festival Pass Or apply for a free ticket, Is stated SG$27

Programme discussions:

Are You a Sex Addict? Clear Your Myths!
Hypersexual; High Sex Desire and Sex Addiction are widely used synonymously.

These 3 concepts are scientifically different and still misunderstood to be the same thing; they hold social and cultural stigma and are associated with Sexual Negativity.  Join Dr. Anita Shyaam while she unfolds these 3 concepts and clears some common myths.
– Presenter: Dr Anita Shyaam, MD, USA (1 hour)

Recharging Sexual Batteries: The TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) Approach
According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), a low libido is usually due to an imbalance of vital energy known as Qi, within key organ systems in the body, specifically the kidney and heart. Join TCM physician Edmund Pang, M.Med(TCM Gynaecology) and B.Sc(Hons) Biomedical Science for a modernised TCM approach on how to recharge your sexual batteries naturally!
– Presenter: – Edmund Pang, M.Med Singapore (1 hour)

The Power of Vulnerability
In the words of Brene Brown: “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” We often go out of our way to avoid situations that make us feel exposed or ashamed. We put up a wall emotionally so that we can side-step the familiar feelings of nakedness and fear. On the other hand, Vulnerability is also the key to close relationships and the driving force of connection.

– Presenter: – Dr. Simon Neo (SG) has a Doctorate of Psychology in Group Psychotherapy. He is a Certified Group Psychotherapist. His portfolio includes a private practice known as The Psychotherapy Clinic both in Singapore and Bangkok. Simon loves life and embraces love, he thrives on humour and gravitates towards meaningful connections.  (1 hour)

Living the Dream: Long-term BDSM Relationship
So you have found someone whom you would like to spend more time with and go into a D/s (Dominant/submissive or Dominant/slave) relationship with and both of you want a more publicly recognised relationship. What do you do? Discussing living in a long term BDSM relationship, trust, boundaries, responsibilities and a Q+A.
– Presenter: – Karen Evers-Foo (Thailand) a Intuitive Life Coach with a BA in Psychology from Syracuse University works with individuals who seek to regain control over their lives, empowering them to lead more fulfilling lives, (1 hour)

Body as Poetry
In this session, I will guide you to experience for yourself different ways you can listen attentively to your body. Likely through stillness, movement, breath, synesthesia. Within the rich soil of this deep listening and feeling, we could let our bodies go and burst forth in poetry, dance, art, Doing what you learn from this session daily could thaw whatever that is blocking the creative forces that are all inside of us. Perhaps set you free to create fluidly, almost effortlessly, all the time.
– Presenter:  – Oliver James (AUS) is an experienced curator always seeking to transcend and include. He collects experiences like how some people collect fine bone china. He has been regularly practicing orgasmic meditation all over the world since 2014. It’s a key practice to his living life in the realms of the erotic. (1 hour)

Bringing the Oh-Yes back to Burlesque!
Madame Rouge, founder of Madame Rouge’s Burlesque Theatre in Bangkok, will be talking about her experience navigating the fine line between empowerment and exploitation of women through the sensual artform of burlesque in the east: specifically, Southeast Asia.
– Host: Madame Rouge, a performer and costume designer with a flair for theatrics and an avid appreciation for vintage aesthetics founded the first and only authentic neo-burlesque theatre in Bangkok in 2019. During an extended stay in France, she was introduced to the world of Parisian cabaret, and ever since then, her life has been entangled with the art of seduction. – 1.5 hour
Performer: Scarlett Oh

– In this Panel: Living with Vaginismus, a condition involving a muscle spasm in the pelvic floor muscles that can make vaginal activity, from sexual intercourse, masturbation, gynecological exams and inserting a tampon difficult, painful and emotionally debilitating. This session discusses what it is, and how to take back your sexuality and how to feel more comfortable in your own skin.
– Moderator: Rica Cruz, RPsy is a Psychologist, Sex and Relationship Therapist and a Faculty Member of the Department of Psychology at the Ateneo de Manila University. She has a PhD in Psychology and had further training and certifications in sex and relationships therapy from the University of Guelph, Cambridge Alliance-Harvard Medical School and the Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality.  – 1.5 hour
Panelists: Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Singapore; Ye Ruoshi, Singapore; Aleeza Hanee, Vibrance, Malaysia

Being Male
– In this Panel: In this discussion we talk to 4 men of Asian heritage about growing up male. They will explore topics from attraction, racism, their families and uprbinging and their views on sexuaity from then and now.
– Moderator: Multi-talented Renaissance man Luke Elijah was born into a family of holistic healers and spiritual practitioners dating back four generations. Luke is certified in Theta Healing, aromatherapy, hypnotherapy, sound healing, Reiki, yoga, and much more  – 1.5 hour
Panelists:  – Daanish Hambali; Balan Gopal, Singapore; Edwin Chan, HK

Sexuality, Illness and Disability
– In this panel: We explore the unchartered territory of sex with disabilities and illness. We have Lionel Koh, a caregiver; Mina Kakiya (has HIV and HIV advocate); Sydney Rae Chin (assault survivor), and Reguina Aun (a parent with a child with down syndrome).
– Moderator: Dr Rachael Winston is a medical doctor graduated from the National University of Malaysia (MD UKM) and a Certified Clinical Sexologist from the American College of Sexologist International. (1.5 hour)
Panelists: Lionel Koh, Singapore; Mina Kakaiya, UK; Sydney Rae Chin, USA; Regina Aun Singapore

– In this panel: We hear from 4 individuals about their experiences growing up GLBTIQA in Asia, where sexual activity between same sex couples is outlawed in several Asian countries including Singapore, how they came out and how they fought the backlash and stigma.
– Moderator: Joyen is a Performance-style Dominatrix specializing in rope bondage and BDSM performances and is also the Philippines’ first homegrown international burlesque performer. She is currently training as a slutty ballerina, exotic pole dancer, and silks aerialist and is developing Aerial Bondage (1.5 hour)
Panelists: Joyen; Sherry Sherqueshaa, Singapore; Star Ore, Philippines; Chang Yuwen, Singapore; Joshua Simon, Singapore

Sexual Violence
– In this panel: We explore the theme of sexual violence through the voices of our panelists who are involved in sexuality educationa and advocacy.
– Moderator: Shivli Shrivastava is the founder – director of Shivtensity. She is a practicing Counselling Psychologist and Sexuality Educator in India. She has extensive experience in delivering training & counseling sessions over the years, while encouraging the idea of a ‘safe- inclusive space’ for all. She has worked with Educational Institutes, Police training academy, UNICEF, Anganwadi Workers and State Commission for Child Rights, among others to spread awareness and educate people of different age groups

Panelists: Paromita Vohra (Agents of ISHQ), Levy Luke (Students for Safer NUS), Dr. Vani Khare (Sanrakshan)

Sexual Aids Sharing
There are a lot of fears and misconceptions around sex toys and the use of lubricants. Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee will talk about how sexual aids can support, even enhance one’s sexual health and wellness.
– Presenter: Dr Martha Tara Lee, Singapore


For more about Sugar & Spice, please visit

About the Founder of Sugar & Spice, Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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