Date(s) - 16/05/2020
10:00 am - 5:00 pm
This workshop was once called ‘Kink 101’; it includes the fundamental things you need to know in order to safely and happily explore more adventurous forms of touch, intimacy, and sexual expression. It’s about half-half theory and practice, and is surprisingly accessible.
If you’re curious about forms of play and intimacy that are more adventurous, or you’ve already played with some things that might be regarded as kinky or from the world of BDSM but want more of a grounding in how to do it well, then this workshop is for you. It will provide you with the knowledge and attitude you need to pursue your interests safely, at your own pace, while giving you a feel for what is possible. It will present information in a way that is positive, accessible, fun, and empowering.
You don’t need any background knowledge or experience in kink or BDSM (but at the same time, people that do have experience also report gaining a lot from this workshop). The subject material is approached with a sense of humor and a deep respect for getting the fundamentals correct first. The workshop will establish:
• A quick look at the types of play and intimacy that are available – what’s possible, what it’s about, and why people like it.
• Safety – what parts of your mind and body are good to play with, and what you should leave alone. We cover information relating to how to negotiate play in a lot of detail, and we touch on how to pick a wickedly good play partner from one to avoid.
• Adventurous play for those in relationships: Plenty of things to sustainably keep play with a long-term partner exciting.
• A discovery of your own pleasure, pain, and limitations, and simple techniques to provide this feedback to a partner.
• Roles and jargon – what’s a sub, dom, top, bottom, switch, and how do you fit into all that? (Do you even need to fit into all that?)
• The curve of a typical scene: Negotiation, foreplay, warm-up, peak, cool-down, and after-care.
• How communication is your gateway to a world of adventure.
We’ll have an introduction to: Language and concepts; power play; issuing instructions; scene structure; basic rope-work; communication, and negotiating a scene; basic impact play; and safety and safe-words.
Version for Couples (all orientations) & Singles (paired with any gender):
INTENSITY: Two out of four chillies. Most people experience this workshop as a gentle introduction, some people experience it as challenging (kink can be triggering).
WHO FOR: The curious. Couples where one or both parties have played a little, and want more information and guidance. Couples who haven’t played with kink, but might like to. Couples of any any gender or sexual orientation. Singles with a similar level of curiosity, and who are happy to do defined partner activities with other singles of any gender.
WHO NOT FOR: Probably not for highly experienced players, unless they’re just checking out how other folks do things. Single people who are only willing to do partner work with people of a specific gender – you should either find a buddy and come as a couple, or look for other versions of this workshop that will be more to your liking.
WHAT EXERCISES / ACTIVITIES?: Verbal sharing of interests, issuing instructions, green / orange / red, simple chest-harness and blindfold, impact play warm up.
WILL THERE BE PAIR-WORK? Yes.
HOW WILL PAIRING BE DONE? Couples (of any gender or sexual orientation) are welcome, and welcome to work exclusively with each other. People arriving as singles (or couples that want to play with other people) will be paired via a random number system, without regard to gender or anything else. Please note, all exercises can be taken only to the level that’s right for you at the time. Also note, there is a ‘hetero’ version of this workshop.
CAN YOU WORK EXCLUSIVELY WITH ONE PARTNER? Yes – please buy ‘couples’ tickets.
NUDITY: Some participants may choose to work with partial nudity for some exercises but this is not an expectation.
SEXUAL CONTENT: The workshop is primarily about various forms of sexual expression.
COMMITMENT: You may sit out of any activity, or participate only to a level that’s right for you.
RATIO OF DISCUSSION TO EXPERIENTIAL: About 50/50 percent.
BRING: Water bottle, your own snacks.
WEAR: Whatever you’re comfortable in. There is no dress code.
“A revelation. It was comfortably confronting, it felt safe, and was inspiring. By doing this workshop my husband and I found ways to talk about things we’d kept locked inside for 30 years of our marriage. I am confident we will be enjoying the benefits of this exploration for the rest of our lives together.”
“it was really great to learn this stuff properly in a safe, well thought through structured program. i’ve dabbled with a few partners that i’ve met through tinder and never felt safe or supported so this i found quite empowering so hopefully i can find some better, more enlightened partners soon to use all my new found knowledge on! I also love how enthusiastic, open, honest and sharing the facilitators are. It really helped everyone get into the spirit of it and let down our [defenses]”
“I loved everything about it – no negatives to think of. I can’t tell you the last time I had so much fun on a Saturday. I felt very safe and able to ask questions without judgement, really enjoyed being in the space and the other participants were fantastic. Roger really put us at ease and guided us well. I’ll be back.”
CURIOUS CREATURES – ROGER BUTLER
Curious Creatures believes in a world where personal empowerment, sexual freedom, diversity of expression, and spectacularly good communication skills are the norm. It’s one thing to agree that, in theory, consent and communication and safety are important. Putting that into practice, however, is a little harder. In some ways, Curious Creatures exists as a response to that challenge.
Roger Butler is the driving force behind Curious Creatures, along with some very special co-facilitators. Roger Butler was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. In addition to that lineage, they now identify as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious. Their training is in Process Oriented Psychology and the facilitation of groups, coupled with an extensive education in sexuality.
Rog has been creating and facilitating Curious Creatures sexuality workshops for six years. Prior to this they facilitated well over a thousand workshops across various industries. They’re easily one of Australia’s most prolific sexuality workshop facilitators.
On their podcast Curious Conversations about Sex, Rog speaks on topics as broad as complex relationship dynamics, body image, gender issues, sex in long-term relationships, kinky sex, abuse and trauma, modern tantra, and sex work. If you’d like to book Rog as a speaker or interview them on your show, please contact us.
In 2000, Rog completed the one-year training offered by the Groupwork Institute of Australia, later accredited as the Advanced Diploma of Group Facilitation. This is Australia’s most advanced training dedicated to the facilitation of groups.
From 2001 until now, Rog has extensively studied in Process Oriented Psychology, focusing on very robust models of conflict resolution and group facilitation, relationships and sexuality, power and rank issues, and general counselling skills. These studies have included: ANZPOP Two-Year Certificate in Process Oriented Psychology, 710 hours of in-person training, 300 hours of private practice, 86 hours of supervised practice, 300 hours of personal therapy.
Additionally, Rog has undertaken professional development and study relating to sex and sexuality, including training with the Institute of Somatic Sexology, Barbara Carrellas’s Urban Tantra Professional Training Program, Seani Love, and Dossie Easton.
Curious Creatures believes that sex is about delicious, hedonistic experience as well as being a path of self development and a contribution to a less violent world. They run workshops in a whole range of related topics in cities across Australia.
Curious Creatures take health and safety, and the regulatory environment, seriously. They are apparently the only workshop providers in Melbourne with a license class that allows for sexual contact between participants. For the roughly one-quarter of workshops that fall under this category, Curious Creatures meet and exceed their obligations in relation to providing an appropriately safe workshop environment.
ABOUT TESS DEVEZE
Tess is a qualified occupational therapist with a deep passion for, and experience working in, sexuality in neurological rehabilitation and disability in community and clinical settings. They co-facilitate several Curious Creatures workshops, and co-host intimacy party, Curiosity.
Tess is determined to enable all humans (regardless of gender, culture, lifestyle) to explore sexuality, sexual expression and embodiment regardless of/including persons with injury, chronic illness, differently abled bodies and neurological conditions.
With facilitation experience in clinical & non-clinical settings, wrapped up in a career history including teaching the circus arts internationally, health care, performing theatre, global festival hopping and a long-standing love of kink, Tess is determined to expand the sex positive culture and the freedom to explore sexuality to all.
Find out more at www.connectabletherapies.com.au