Date(s) - 18/05/2020
6:30 pm - 10:00 pm
Roleplay offers a way to explore erotic fantasies that can be playful, liberating, revealing, and sometimes intense. They’re a powerful way to get away from established patterns and discover new aspects of yourself and your sexuality. And they’re a very compelling way of exploring taboos – which, let’s face it, we all have.
This sex roleplay workshop begins with some general information and case studies about role-play, highlighting how things like consent, safe-words, safety, pre-negotiation, and public consent fit into role-play. Then, we head off in the direction of inner-work around your erotic fantasies, because that’s where the juice is!
We meander through the things that interest you, compel you, and attract your attention, and we milk them for ideas on how they might work as a sexual roleplay – we tap into your core erotic themes, and your fantasies.
Finally (and optionally – participation is not mandatory), we work out how to break those themes down into small, bite-size pieces, and we forge them into a simple roleplay. For the optional practice, couples are welcome to work together for 45 minutes each, and singles are put in three different groups of three people, for 30 minutes each. The emphasis is on going slowly, rather than diving in the deep end; however, tapping into our fantasies and playing them out can often be very juicy and deep work!
Your practice piece includes negotiation and consent-setting processes, and debriefing.
INTENSITY: You can keep your roleplay capped at whatever level is right for you at the time. But some may take it to some juicy territory. So, two or three out of four chillies.
WHO FOR: Anyone with an interest in roleplay, particularly as it fits within self-development or self-expression. It’s recommended that you’ve already done Curious Creatures’ workshop ‘Adventurous Touch & Intimacy’ (formerly ‘Kink 101’), or ‘Curiosity’, before this one.
WHO NOT FOR: Not for people taking their first steps into exploring sexuality. And see fine-print for general workshop exclusions.
WHAT EXERCISES / ACTIVITIES?: Inner work (reflecting on your sexual interests). Couples: 45 minutes each of roleplay practice. Singles: Three rounds of practicing roleplay (including one built around your interests, and two around other people’s interests).
WILL THERE BE PARTNER WORK?: Yes. Couples can work together, and singles work in three different groups of three.
HOW WILL PARTNERING BE DONE?: Using a random-number system.
CAN YOU WORK WITH AN EXISTING PARTNER / FRIEND?: Yes, couples can. Singles will be put into trios using a random number system.
NUDITY: It is possible some participants will use nudity in their practical exercise, but there is no expectation that you or anyone will get naked, nor is there a focus on nudity.
SEXUAL CONTENT: The workshop is mostly geared around roleplay as a form of sexual expression. Your practical exercise does not need to include sexuality or arousal, however.
COMMITMENT: If you decide that, after the theory and inner-work, the practical exercise is not for you, you are welcome to leave. The workshop will still have given you insight into how role-play is done.
RATIO EXPERIENTIAL / THEORETICAL: The first ~third of the workshop is theory and discussion. The second ~third is guided inner-work, helping you to explore your fantasies and erotic themes. The final ~third is a structured roleplay practice.
BRING: A water bottle, whatever snacks you might need.
WEAR: Whatever makes you comfortable – it is a ‘non-scene’ event, meaning you don’t have to dress up. If you already have a hunch what your sex roleplay themes might be, you are welcome to bring clothing or accessories in support of that.
“I’ve now done this workshop 3 times because I get so much out of it (and I’m at a different stage of growth each time thanks to what I’ve practiced from the time before). I loved doing it as a couple – that was very intimate, and helped me trustfully explore some very edgy territory. I’ve also loved doing it as a single, especially being exposed to fantasies/roleplays that I’ve never considered for myself (and finding these so juicy). The shame/fear I used to feel around my ‘most taboo’ fantasies is almost gone, as I face them head-on, and play with them mindfully. What’s there now is a sense of fun, curiosity, arousal, and gratitude.”
“It was awesome. I loved the actual practice after receiving all the tips of how to do it safely. I liked how Rog made all the different kinks accessible by modeling not-judging-them when they came up in conversation, and being enthusiastic about them (eg. age play, animal roleplay, consensual non-consent etc).”
“This workshop has helped me start approaching my deepest fantasies in real life, by taking baby steps as modelled in the exercises and group roleplay. So … thank you for helping me make my kinky dreams come true!”
CURIOUS CREATURES – ROGER BUTLER
Curious Creatures believes in a world where personal empowerment, sexual freedom, diversity of expression, and spectacularly good communication skills are the norm. It’s one thing to agree that, in theory, consent and communication and safety are important. Putting that into practice, however, is a little harder. In some ways, Curious Creatures exists as a response to that challenge.
Roger Butler is the driving force behind Curious Creatures, along with some very special co-facilitators. Roger Butler was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. In addition to that lineage, they now identify as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious. Their training is in Process Oriented Psychology and the facilitation of groups, coupled with an extensive education in sexuality.
Rog has been creating and facilitating Curious Creatures sexuality workshops for six years. Prior to this they facilitated well over a thousand workshops across various industries. They’re easily one of Australia’s most prolific sexuality workshop facilitators.
On their podcast Curious Conversations about Sex, Rog speaks on topics as broad as complex relationship dynamics, body image, gender issues, sex in long-term relationships, kinky sex, abuse and trauma, modern tantra, and sex work. If you’d like to book Rog as a speaker or interview them on your show, please contact us.
In 2000, Rog completed the one-year training offered by the Groupwork Institute of Australia, later accredited as the Advanced Diploma of Group Facilitation. This is Australia’s most advanced training dedicated to the facilitation of groups.
From 2001 until now, Rog has extensively studied in Process Oriented Psychology, focusing on very robust models of conflict resolution and group facilitation, relationships and sexuality, power and rank issues, and general counselling skills. These studies have included: ANZPOP Two-Year Certificate in Process Oriented Psychology, 710 hours of in-person training, 300 hours of private practice, 86 hours of supervised practice, 300 hours of personal therapy.
Additionally, Rog has undertaken professional development and study relating to sex and sexuality, including training with the Institute of Somatic Sexology, Barbara Carrellas’s Urban Tantra Professional Training Program, Seani Love, and Dossie Easton.
Curious Creatures believes that sex is about delicious, hedonistic experience as well as being a path of self development and a contribution to a less violent world. They run workshops in a whole range of related topics in cities across Australia.
Curious Creatures take health and safety, and the regulatory environment, seriously. They are apparently the only workshop providers in Melbourne with a license class that allows for sexual contact between participants. For the roughly one-quarter of workshops that fall under this category, Curious Creatures meet and exceed their obligations in relation to providing an appropriately safe workshop environment.
ABOUT TESS DEVEZE
Tess is a qualified occupational therapist with a deep passion for, and experience working in, sexuality in neurological rehabilitation and disability in community and clinical settings. They co-facilitate several Curious Creatures workshops, and co-host intimacy party, Curiosity.
Tess is determined to enable all humans (regardless of gender, culture, lifestyle) to explore sexuality, sexual expression and embodiment regardless of/including persons with injury, chronic illness, differently abled bodies and neurological conditions.
With facilitation experience in clinical & non-clinical settings, wrapped up in a career history including teaching the circus arts internationally, health care, performing theatre, global festival hopping and a long-standing love of kink, Tess is determined to expand the sex positive culture and the freedom to explore sexuality to all.
Find out more at www.connectabletherapies.com.au