Heterosexuals, Come on out

Heterosexuals, Come on out

Posted On: June 22, 2010

I am a contributor towards The Online Citizen. This article first appeared here. You might have come across the term ‘Coming out’. What does it mean? It is a figure of speech used by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community in disclosing their sexual orientation and/or gender identity. Also referred to as ‘Coming […]

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Sex is Learned

Sex is Learned

Posted On: June 15, 2010

This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. Sex is a learned act. That’s right: l-e-a-r-n-e-d. I remember contributing an article to an online portal a few months back. I had written the sentence: “For most people, sex is a learned act.” When the portal owner’s edits come back, she had written: “Don’t you mean, […]

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Vulvas and vaginas are pink

Posted On: May 26, 2010

This article first appeared on The Online Citizen where I am a contributor. I didn’t know I had a vulva until I went to sex school. Don’t get me wrong. Of course, I do have a vulva (pronounced as ‘vuhl-vah’) and a vagina (pronounced ‘vha-gine-a’). I just didn’t know what they were called. I couldn’t […]

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Sex is not the same as sitting for the ‘10-year series’

Posted On: May 19, 2010

This article first appeared on The Online Citizen where I am a contributor. I tell my clients that sex is not the same as sitting for the ‘10-year series‘. For those who don’t know, the 10-year series is a colloquial term unique to Singapore where students refer to official compilation books of examination papers for the […]

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Vulva Drawing Experience

Posted On: May 17, 2010

I am grateful to a brave workshop participant Elaine Lau, 32 who attended my workshop called ‘Sexual Self Discovery’ and came forward with her story. She did so because she wanted to help encourage women to embrace their sexuality and be comfortable with their bodies. It was published in this month’s issue of Simply Her. […]

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Audio: Faceoff, 938Live

Posted On: May 15, 2010

I appeared after Anisa Hassan, owner of It’s Just Lunch on radio programme, ‘Faceoff’ on 938Live on Thurs 13 May, 1 – 2p.m. Host: Anita Kapoor. Listen to it here.

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Don’t lie back and think of England

Posted On: May 14, 2010

This same article first appeared in The Online Citizen. I am surprised that, in this day and age, I still am asked: “What can women do in bed besides lying back and thinking of England?” In case you are not familiar with this expression, it is an English saying with roughly the same meaning as […]

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Why I Became a Sexologist

Posted On: May 4, 2010

First published on The Online Citizen. If there is one question I am asked almost every time I meet somebody new, it is this: “Why did you become a sexologist?” Even complete strangers on Facebook find it is their business to pose one-liner questions along the lines of: “Is your job for real?” Occasionally my […]

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Vaginismus – When a Woman’s Body Says ‘No’

Posted On: April 23, 2010

Recently a girlfriend admitted that until she met me, she had always thought that vaginismus was a myth – a disease that was made up, or had been eradicated in the ’80s, and most definitely did not exist in modern day. In fact, vaginismus is a very real sexual concern that women experience, and more […]

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The elephant in the bedroom: Talking about sex

Posted On: April 17, 2010

This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. Click here to read the article I wrote for The Online Citizen. For most people, sex is a sensitive and difficult subject to talk about. I have come across a man who, after 15 […]

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Still out of bounds? by The Star

Posted On: March 14, 2010

I partnered with holistic shop and therapy centre, ‘The Violet Flame’ in giving a preview in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia last month. The Star attended the talk and interviewed me subsequently. This is the article which just appeared on Saturday, 13 March. ************ In a land of taboos, an unassuming woman decides to follow the path […]

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On Facebook Bra Color Campaign

Posted On: January 23, 2010

This is my first piece for The Online Citizen. It is a personal commentary on how I felt the Facebook Bra Color campaign hurt more than help. And of course you can read for yourself how one reader claimed I was the one who didn’t get the plot.

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