12 Things I Don’t Do Anymore

12 Things I Don’t Do Anymore

Posted On: October 17, 2019

Over the last few days, I realise these are some things I don’t do anymore: I don’t interrupt (I wait for the unfolding of people’s stories. I can tell if they are finished through their micro expressions, and don’t talk until they are completely done.) I ask one question at a time. I don’t think […]

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Buyers Beware: Practitioners May be Manipulating You for Their Personal Benefit

Buyers Beware: Practitioners May be Manipulating You for Their Personal Benefit

Posted On: October 15, 2019

When I was pursuing my diploma in Mass Communications, I got a rare A in one of my school projects on Communications (which surprised even myself). In that module, we were taught to appreciate and understand the difference between verbal and non-verbal communication – and naturally we had the assignment of demonstrating our understanding between […]

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Your Presence is a Present

Your Presence is a Present

Posted On: October 14, 2019

I used to hate (and probably still do to some extent) social gatherings because there was little else to do other than look pretty, sit quietly, and just smile and/ or eat/ drink. My mom would drag me to visit grandparents every weekend till they passed on. It would be loud, noisy, and relentless. I […]

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My Pagoda Office has ‘Love’!

My Pagoda Office has ‘Love’!

Posted On: October 13, 2019

Thank you Luke Elijah Lim @lukelijah for installing “Love” in my office. It’s a reminder to my clients and me about why I do what I do and what this is really about: Returning to Love. The back story – V came before the other letters. L, O, E came from different shops. Luke and I […]

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Invite to Women Support Circle

Invite to Women Support Circle

Posted On: October 13, 2019

There is the archetype of the Maiden, Mother, and Crone in Triple Goddess. More here  In my own words Maiden – Prime of her youth Mother – Prime of her fertility Crone – Prime of her wisdom Behavioral Maiden – Young, fun, open, learning, beautiful (Shadow side: Wilful, childish, spoilt, manipulative) Mother – Mature, nurturing, […]

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The Power to Design Your Own Birthday Celebration

The Power to Design Your Own Birthday Celebration

Posted On: October 13, 2019

Birthdays are what you make of them My ex husband would withdraw himself and sink into depression on each of his birthdays. It wouldn’t be an occasion of acknowledgement, or celebration for him. For him, it was a time he needed to be left alone as he delved on what a loser he is and […]

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What is Sexual Empowerment?

What is Sexual Empowerment?

Posted On: October 10, 2019

“Do you know what the word ’empowered’ means?” I used to volunteer in the only women advocacy group in Singapore, and this question was one of the first questions one of the ex-Presidents and my one-time mentor asked me. I didn’t know. I felt I should have. I certainly heard it many times. So cool […]

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The Vows We Make May Need Unmaking

The Vows We Make May Need Unmaking

Posted On: October 8, 2019

Have you ever Scalded your hand with boiling water, and been afraid of drinking any hot drink? Fallen down, and vowed never to run/ skip/ dance again? Failed in something, and vowed not to try again? Been heartbroken, and vowed never to open your heart again? The vows we make doesn’t always serve us. We […]

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Movie Review: Hustlers

Movie Review: Hustlers

Posted On: October 5, 2019

I watched Hustlers tonight and I was bored. Don’t get me wrong: it IS fun, entertaining, sexy, and all about girl-power/ friendship/ sisterhood/ camaraderie no doubt. What’s there not to like? Beautiful, expressed, confident women! Beyond all that glitz, the movie itself was drawn out and could have been condensed. The movie has just crossed […]

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Schedule + Guard Your Joy Time

Schedule + Guard Your Joy Time

Posted On: October 4, 2019

What gives you joy? What makes you happy? What causes you to feel ecstatic (or as this Sexologist likes to ask… orgasmic)? For me, these are some of the things. When… The wind blows against my face/ hair I dangle my feet from a swing/ basket chair (like in this pic) I drink tea/ do […]

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How to Manage Your Energy Despite Overwork

How to Manage Your Energy Despite Overwork

Posted On: October 2, 2019

It isn’t enough to just show up at work, and be paid for just what we do anymore. We can’t just show up physically and mentally, and park the rest of ourselves at home under the blanket. We are, and rightly so, expected to bring our best game, and show up fully and completely. We […]

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Heal and Move On from our ‘Mistakes’

Heal and Move On from our ‘Mistakes’

Posted On: October 1, 2019

We tend to live in a black-and-white world – things are either right or wrong; good or bad; normal or abnormal. There isn’t much space for the shades in between. This need and fixation for polarity is especially so in areas where this is much ignorance (lack of knowledge/ education) around including in sexuality. As […]

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