Become a Patron!What if the biggest problem in your relationship isn’t sex, but how you talk about it?
Many people grow up believing sex should happen naturally. Yet couples often spend years avoiding conversations about intimacy, only seeking help when the relationship is already breaking down.
Dr Martha Lee, Singapore’s First Clinical Sexologist, explains why communication, emotional connection and pleasure are just as important as physical attraction. She also answers common questions about libido, vaginismus, pornography, masturbation, dating apps and maintaining intimacy throughout different stages of life.
In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why couples should seek help earlier
- The real difference between libido and sex drive
- How men and women experience intimacy differently
- Common myths about painful sex and sexual health
- How parenthood and stress reshape intimacy
- Why there is no “normal” amount of sex
Whether you’re single, dating or married, this conversation offers a thoughtful perspective on one of the least talked about aspects of relationships.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Master’s in Counseling, she founded Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualized and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples in unconsummated marriages, individuals with sexual inhibitions or desire discrepancies, men facing erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. She welcomes people of all sexual orientations and offers both online and in-person consultations in English and Mandarin.
Dr. Lee is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region since 2011, and became an AASECT-certified sexuality educator supervisor in 2018. Her fun, educational, and sex-positive approach has been featured in international media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, and South China Morning Post. She currently serves as Resident Sexologist for the Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Sincere Healthcare Group, and is the host of the podcast Eros Matters.
An accomplished author, Dr. Lee has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhibited (2019). Her contributions have been recognized with numerous honors, including Her World’s Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40 (2010), CozyCot’s Top 100 Inspiring Women (2011), Global Woman of Influence (2024), the Most Supportive Relationship Coach (Singapore Business Awards, APAC Insider, 2025), and the Icon of Change International Award(2025).
You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
