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Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to be an advocate for positive sexuality in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she also has a masters in counseling and remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She has worked with a lot of couples (international and local) who have unconsummated marriage; men and women with sexual inhibitions and sexual desire discrepancies; men with erection and ejaculation concerns; as well as with GLBTQQ and kink folks. A born and bred Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations, and is available via Skype or face-to-face in Singapore. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.
Since 2011, Dr. Lee has been (and still is) the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Southeast Asia. Eros Coaching became an AASECT CE Provider in July 2017, and Dr. Lee also became an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor in July 2018. These accolades are only for those who meet the stringent requirements determined by AASECT, which is the leading professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists in the United States. In short, she strives to be the one of the best sexologists in the world.
She takes pride in making sure all her events are fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore (since 2009), and Men’s Health Malaysia (since 2010). She also contributes regularly towards Elephant Journal and YourTango. She was host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio between 2014 and 2017. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).
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Latest Presentations
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has presented at numerous conferences and events in these cities: Brisbane, Perth, Sydney, Kuala Lumpur, Penang, Manila, London, Manchester and, of course, her hometown Singapore. For a full list, click here.
| Sexuality Beyond Menopause, Malaysian International Conference on Menopause, Malaysian Menopause Society, Le Meridien Putrajaya, Malaysia | 7 July 2019 |
| Three presentations “Body Image and Sexual Function”; “Therapeutic Concepts of Tantra and Orgasmic Yoga”and”Positioning Aids and Assistive devices for Patients with Sexual Dysfunction” at Sex & Spine, Nspine conference, London, United Kingdom | 2 July 2019 |
| Orgasmic Breath, Manchester Tantra Festival, Manchester, United Kingdom | 29 June 2019 |
| Emotional Resilience, Beehive Lofts, Manchester, United Kingdom | 27 June 2019 |
| Emotional Resilience, three different co-working offices in Bali: Biliq, Livit, and Hustlers Villa Ubud, Bali, Indonesia | 3 – 6 June 2019 |
| Sex, Fertility & Pregnancy, An Evening Session with Breast Cancer Foundation (BCF), Singapore | 17 April 2019 |
| Conscious and Mindful Eroticism (4 workshops), Makati City, Philippines | 31 Mar 2019 |
| Art of Deep Listening, and Art of Soul Gazing, Flow Festival, Philippines | 29 – 30 Mar 2019 |
| Conscious and Mindful Eroticism (6 workshops), Pineapple Lab, Makati City, Philippines | 15 – 17 Mar 2019 |
| “Sex after 50 – the resurrection” at Malaysian Menopause Society’s annual event to commemorate World Menopause Day, Sunway Lagoon Resort Hotel, Bandar Sunway, Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia | 18 Nov 2018 |
| “Sex is not a mental illness” at Global Summit for Mental Health Advocates (Theme – Unite for Mental Health), Silver Ribbon Singapore, Singapore |
8 Oct 2018 |
| Panelist on Sex, Gender & Tech, SheSays Singapore, JustCo Robinson Road, Singapore | 1 August 2018 |
| “Sex at 50” (Symposium 5) and “Dealing with Female Sexuality” (Plenary 12) at Malaysian International Scientific Congress of Obstetrics and Gynaecology (MISCOG 2018), Obstetrical and Gynaecological Society of Malaysia (OGSM), Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia | 26 – 29 July 2018 |
| Speaker “Sexual Health and Counseling” at 2018 edition of the Certificate Course on Practical Andrology, The Society for Men’s Health Singapore, Academy for Men’s Health, The Malaysian Society of Andrology and The Study of the Aging Male (MSASAM), Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia | 28 July 2018 |
| Panelist H4ardness Matters alongside Urologist Dr George Lee and Comedian Dr. Jason Leong moderated by Bernice Chan. H4ardness Matters, Subang, Malaysia | 21 July 2018 |
| Sexual health and function for women with pelvic floor disorders at Urofair Nursing Symposium, Grand Hyatt Singapore | 14 July 2018 |
| Sexual Healing after Breast Cancer, Breast Cancer Foundation, Singapore | 30 June 2018 |
| Sex after Prostate Cancer Treatment, Tan Tock Seng, Singapore | 11 June 2018 |
| Sex after Prostate Cancer Treatment, Singapore Cancer Society, Singapore |
13 Jan 2018 |
For a full list of presentations, click here.
Academic Qualifications
| Masters in Counseling, Monash University, Australia | 2018 |
| Doctorate in Human Sexuality, Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, USA | 2009 |
| Masters in Public Policy and Management, York University, United Kingdom | 2007 |
| Bachelor of Arts (Communications), Monash University, Australia | 1999 |
Other Relevant Training
| The Science of Happiness, University of California, Berkeley through edX |
9 May 2018 |
| Psychology of Popularity, The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Coursera |
15 Feb 2018 |
| Prepare/ Enrich Facilitator, Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Singapore |
8 July 2017 |
| Diversity & Inclusion in the Workplace, Coursera, Online |
July 2017 |
| Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA), Institute for Adult Learning, Singapore | 22 Aug 2016 |
| Working with Clients Who Grapple with Sexual Compulsivity, Promises Healthcare, Singapore | 11 May 2015 |
| Managing Sexuality Issues of Adults with Intellectual Disabilities, Social Service Training Institute, Singapore | 7 – 8 April 2015 |
| Relationship Coach for Couples, Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) | 2015 |
| Level 1 and 2 Teacher Training, The Art of Feminine Presence, Melbourne | Dec 2014 |
| Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator, Star of Ishtar (Online) | June 2014 |
| Certificate in Meditation and Holistic Human Development, Inner Voyage (Online) | June 2013 |
| Urban Tantra Professional Training, Barbara Carrellas | Oct 2013 |
| Professional Sex Coach, Sex Coach University and World Association of Sex Coaches (Online) | 2012 |
| Certified Laughter Yoga Leader, Laughter Yoga International, Singapore | Mar 2012 |
| Diploma for Master Hypnotist, Banyan Hypnosis Center, United States | 2010 |
| Certificate in Life Coaching, Life Coach Academy of Australia, Australia | 2010 |
| Certificate in Sex Therapy, Florida Sex Therapy Institute, Uniputed States | 2009 |
| Certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, United States | 2008 |
| Reiki Master (Level 3) | 2008 |
| Certificate in Practical Counseling, Academy of Human Development, Singapore | 2006 |
Publications
| {Un}Inhibited (My Fourth Book) |
2019 |
| From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (My Third Book) |
2017 |
| Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (My Second Book) |
2015 |
| Love, Sex and Everything In Between (My First Book) |
2013 |
| Sex in Love (Essay) in The World Book of Love edited by Leo Bormans |
2013 |
| The Ugly Duckling Who Became A Sexologist (Essay) in A Walk In My Shoes by Raymond Anthony Fernando |
2013 |
| Essay in Her Story: SCWO’s 25th Anniversary — Celebrating Womanhood edited by Tisa Ng | 2005 |
Affiliations
Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Sexuality Educator Supervisor, and Continuing Education (CE) Provider, AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)
Certified Sexologist, ACS (American College of Sexologists)
Provisional Clinical Member, Singapore Association of Counseling
Premium Member, Women Speakers Association
