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Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to be an advocate for positive sexuality in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she also has a masters in counseling and remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She has worked with a lot of couples (international and local) who have unconsummated marriage; men and women with sexual inhibitions and sexual desire discrepancies; men with erection and ejaculation concerns; as well as with GLBTQQ and kink folks. A born and bred Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations, and is available via Skype or face-to-face in Singapore. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.
Since 2011, Dr. Lee has been (and still is) the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Southeast Asia. Eros Coaching became an AASECT CE Provider in July 2017, and Dr. Lee also became an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor in July 2018. These accolades are only for those who meet the stringent requirements determined by AASECT, which is the leading professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists in the United States. In short, she strives to be the one of the best sexologists in the world.
She takes pride in making sure all her events are fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore (since 2009), and Men’s Health Malaysia (since 2010). She also contributes regularly towards Cleo, Elite Daily, and Elephant Journal. She was the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio between 2014 and 2017. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).
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Latest Presentations
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has presented at numerous conferences and events in these cities: Brisbane, Perth, Sydney, Kuala Lumpur, Penang, Manila, London, Manchester and, of course, her hometown Singapore. For a full list, click here.
| “The Pleasure of Play” at virtual sexuality festival The Pursuit of Pleasure (2nd run) | 28 Nov 2020 |
| Orgasmic Yoga” at virtual sexuality festival One World Tantra Festival (2nd run) | 27 Nov 2020 |
| “Pity Party” at virtual sexuality festival One World Tantra Festival (2nd run) | 25 Nov 2020 |
| Men who have sex with men (MSM) and related diseases” at two-day “Advances in Andrology and Sexual Medicine – An Update” by Hanoi Medicial University via Zoom | 8 Nov 2020 |
| Sex Ed for MINDS MYG volunteers | 23 and 301 Oct 2020 |
| Sexual Development in Teens/ Young Adults with Special Needs for Special Teens Sports Ministry of Breakthrough Academy, Malaysia via Zoom | 15 Sept 2020 |
| Effective Counseling Skills module towards Graduate Diploma in Social Psychology and Counselling and Graduate Diploma in Psychotherapy and Counseling offered by Aventis Singapore | 12 – 13 Sept 2020 |
| Enabling Sex Education for Intellectually Disabled Youngsters for Disabled People’s Association (DPA) | 30 July 2020 |
| Releasing our Blocks to Pleasure at The Pursuit of Pleasure virtual festival | 11 July 2020 |
| Panelist on Let’s Talk about Sex for Real, Student Health Forum organised by Asian Medical Students’ Association (AMSA) of the International Medical University (IMU) of Malaysia (AMSA IMU) | 18 July 2020 |
| Releasing our Blocks to Pleasure at The Pursuit of Pleasure virtual festival | 11 July 2020 |
| Virtual Enabling Sex Education for Intellectually Disabled Youngsters for Disabled People’s Association (DPA) | 3 July 2020 |
| Panelist on Conversations: Male Sexual Health virtually by Pratisandhi | 28 June 2020 |
| Sex, Love and Cancer for Breast Cancer survivors for Singapore Cancer Society (Completion of 4 of 4 sessions – biweekly) | 26 June 2020 |
| The Art of Unserious Sex as part of Erotic Living Festival | 11 June 2020 |
| Emotional Releasing with the Banging on Pillows and Laughing and Crying Our Hearts Open for virtual One World Tantra Festival | 2 – 6 June 2020 |
| Orgasmic Healing at Merkava Ascension Dimension | 24 May 2020 |
| Sexpert in Ask Us Anything panel of Femhealth Tech virtual conference | 23 May 2020 |
| Sexuality Counseling for Sexually Inhibited People at Women of Sex Tech (WoST) Virtual conference | 2 May 2020 |
| 4 workshops at Taste of Love, Gold Coast | 14 – 17 Mar 2020 |
| 7 workshops in Brisbane | 7 – 11 Mar 2020 |
| Soul Gazing workshop at Mind Body Spirit festival in Bangkok, Thailand | 1 Mar 2020 |
For a full list of presentations, click here.
Academic Qualifications
| Masters in Counseling, Monash University, Australia | 2018 |
| Doctorate in Human Sexuality, Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, USA | 2009 |
| Masters in Public Policy and Management, York University, United Kingdom | 2007 |
| Bachelor of Arts (Communications), Monash University, Australia | 1999 |
Other Relevant Training
| Sexual Assault First Response, Sexual Assault Care Centre, Aware Singapore |
29 April 2020 |
| The Science of Happiness, University of California, Berkeley through edX |
9 May 2018 |
| Psychology of Popularity, The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Coursera |
15 Feb 2018 |
| Prepare/ Enrich Facilitator, Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Singapore |
8 July 2017 |
| Diversity & Inclusion in the Workplace, Coursera, Online |
July 2017 |
| Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA), Institute for Adult Learning, Singapore | 22 Aug 2016 |
| Working with Clients Who Grapple with Sexual Compulsivity, Promises Healthcare, Singapore | 11 May 2015 |
| Managing Sexuality Issues of Adults with Intellectual Disabilities, Social Service Training Institute, Singapore | 7 – 8 April 2015 |
| Relationship Coach for Couples, Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI) | 2015 |
| Level 1 and 2 Teacher Training, The Art of Feminine Presence, Melbourne | Dec 2014 |
| Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator, Star of Ishtar (Online) | June 2014 |
| Certificate in Meditation and Holistic Human Development, Inner Voyage (Online) | June 2013 |
| Urban Tantra Professional Training, Barbara Carrellas | Oct 2013 |
| Professional Sex Coach, Sex Coach University and World Association of Sex Coaches (Online) | 2012 |
| Certified Laughter Yoga Leader, Laughter Yoga International, Singapore | Mar 2012 |
| Diploma for Master Hypnotist, Banyan Hypnosis Center, United States | 2010 |
| Certificate in Life Coaching, Life Coach Academy of Australia, Australia | 2010 |
| Certificate in Sex Therapy, Florida Sex Therapy Institute, Uniputed States | 2009 |
| Certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, United States | 2008 |
| Reiki Master (Level 3) | 2008 |
| Certificate in Practical Counseling, Academy of Human Development, Singapore | 2006 |
Publications
| Essay in Sex Positive Now edited by Allena Gabosch & Jeremy Shub | 2019 |
| {Un}Inhibited (My Fourth Book) |
2019 |
| From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (My Third Book) |
2017 |
| Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (My Second Book) |
2015 |
| Love, Sex and Everything In Between (My First Book) |
2013 |
| Sex in Love (Essay) in The World Book of Love edited by Leo Bormans |
2013 |
| The Ugly Duckling Who Became A Sexologist (Essay) in A Walk In My Shoes by Raymond Anthony Fernando |
2013 |
| Essay in Her Story: SCWO’s 25th Anniversary — Celebrating Womanhood edited by Tisa Ng | 2005 |
Affiliations
Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Sexuality Educator Supervisor, and Continuing Education (CE) Provider, AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)
Certified Sexologist, ACS (American College of Sexologists)
Provisional Clinical Member, Singapore Association of Counseling
