Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to be an advocate for positive sexuality in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she also has a masters in counseling and remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She has worked with a lot of couples (international and local) who have unconsummated marriage; men and women with sexual inhibitions and sexual desire discrepancies; men with erection and ejaculation concerns; as well as with GLBTQQ and kink folks. A born and bred Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations, and is available via Skype or face-to-face in Singapore. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

Since 2011, Dr. Lee has been (and still is) the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Southeast Asia. Eros Coaching became an AASECT CE Provider in July 2017, and Dr. Lee also became an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor in July 2018. These accolades are only for those who meet the stringent requirements determined by AASECT, which is the leading professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists in the United States. In short, she strives to be the one of the best sexologists in the world.

She takes pride in making sure all her events are fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well as sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore (since 2009), and Men’s Health Malaysia (since 2010) before the magazines closed down in 2020. She also contributes regularly towards  Cleo, Elite Daily, and Elephant Journal. She was the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio between 2014 and 2017. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013),  Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).

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Latest Presentations

Dr. Martha Tara Lee has presented at numerous conferences and events in these cities: Brisbane, Perth, Sydney, Kuala Lumpur, Penang, Manila, London, Manchester and, of course, her hometown Singapore. For a full list, click here.

Virtual Cord Cutting Ceremony as part of Evolve festival	5 Dec 2021
Virtual Sexual Rights & Boundaries workshop for Persons with Disabilities for Disabled Peoples’ Association	30 Oct 2021
Virtual Sexual Rights & Boundaries workshop for Parents of Persons with Disabilities for Disabled Peoples’ Association	23 Oct 2021
Virtual Sexuality and Breast Cancer public awareness talk for Singapore Cancer Society	23 Oct 2021
Virtual Prostate Cancer talk for members of support group Walnut Warriors, Singapore Cancer Society	16 Oct 2021
Virtual workshop Loving Well for Stellar Women x Lancome, Indonesia	18 Sept 2021
Sexual Health & Wellness virtual training for Individuals with Disabilities for Disabled People’s Association on Zoom	4 Sept 2021
Sexual Health & Wellness virtual training for Parents of Individuals with Disabilities for Disabled People’s Association on Zoom	29 August 2021
Virtual workshop Orgasmic Access as per of One World Tantra Festival (returning for third time)	18 June 2021
Navigating Dating 101 for Youths with Disabilities through Disabled People’s Association on Zoom	12 June 2021
Sexual Health Post-Ostomy: Maintaining Healthy Sexual Life for Singapore Cancer Society on Zoom	12 June 2021
Navigating Dating 101 for Parents/ Allies of Youths with Disabilities through Disabled People’s Association on Zoom	5 June 2021
“Where does 100% at work leave you for your relationship?” with MindFi	28 May 2021
Honest about Sex & Cancer virtual session for a private breast cancer support group	27 May 2021
Sexual Aids sharing as part of 3rd virtual sexuality festival Sugar & Spice	26 Mar 2021
On Vaginismus Panel as part of 3rd virtual sexuality festival Sugar & Spice	24 Mar 2021
Body Positivity for People with Disabilities through Disabled People’s Association on Zoom	13 Mar 2021
Zoom live on Sexual Harassment with IFN – Indonesia Family Network	12 Mar 2021
Body Positivity for Parents/ Allies of People with Disabilities through Disabled People’s Association on Zoom	6 Mar 2021

For a full list of presentations, click here.

Academic Qualifications

Masters in Counseling, Monash University, Australia	2018
Doctorate in Human Sexuality, Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, USA	2009
Masters in Public Policy and Management, York University, United Kingdom	2007
Bachelor of Arts (Communications), Monash University, Australia	1999

Other Relevant Training

Sexual Assault First Responder, Sexual Assault Care Centre, Aware Singapore	29 April 2020
The Science of Happiness, University of California, Berkeley through edX	9 May 2018
Psychology of Popularity, The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Coursera	15 Feb 2018
Prepare/ Enrich Facilitator, Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Singapore	8 July 2017
Diversity & Inclusion in the Workplace, Coursera, Online	July 2017
Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA), Institute for Adult Learning, Singapore	22 Aug 2016
Working with Clients Who Grapple with Sexual Compulsivity, Promises Healthcare, Singapore	11 May 2015
Managing Sexuality Issues of Adults with Intellectual Disabilities, Social Service Training Institute, Singapore	7 – 8 April 2015
Relationship Coach for Couples, Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI)	2015
Level 1 and 2 Teacher Training, The Art of Feminine Presence, Melbourne	Dec 2014
Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator, Star of Ishtar (Online)	June 2014
Certificate in Meditation and Holistic Human Development, Inner Voyage (Online)	June 2013
Urban Tantra Professional Training, Barbara Carrellas	Oct 2013
Professional Sex Coach, Sex Coach University and World Association of Sex Coaches (Online)	2012
Certified Laughter Yoga Leader, Laughter Yoga International, Singapore	Mar 2012
Diploma for Master Hypnotist, Banyan Hypnosis Center, United States	2010
Certificate in Life Coaching, Life Coach Academy of Australia, Australia	2010
Certificate in Sex Therapy, Florida Sex Therapy Institute, Uniputed States	2009
Certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, United States	2008
Reiki Master (Level 3)	2008
Certificate in Practical Counseling, Academy of Human Development, Singapore	2006

Publications

Essay in Letter to My Mother edited by Felix Cheong	2021
Essay in Sex Positive Now edited by Allena Gabosch & Jeremy Shub	2019
{Un}Inhibited (My Fourth Book)	2019
From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (My Third Book)	2017
Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (My Second Book)	2015
Love, Sex and Everything In Between (My First Book)	2013
Sex in Love (Essay) in The World Book of Love edited by Leo Bormans	2013
The Ugly Duckling Who Became A Sexologist (Essay) in A Walk In My Shoes by Raymond Anthony Fernando	2013
Essay in Her Story: SCWO’s 25th Anniversary — Celebrating Womanhood  edited by Tisa Ng	2005

Affiliations

Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Sexuality Educator Supervisor, and Continuing Education (CE) Provider, AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)

Certified Sexologist, ACS (American College of Sexologists)

Provisional Clinical Member, Singapore Association of Counseling

Milestones

In 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2016, 2017, 2018, 2019 and 2020!

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