Hi, I am Dr. Martha Tara Lee!

I’m a Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist in practice since 2009. I have done my Doctorate in Human Sexuality to ensure the highest level of training so as to support individuals and couples to lead self-actualized and pleasure-filled lives. This was followed by a Masters in Counseling amongst my many other trainings. 

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Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to be an advocate for positive sexuality in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she also has a masters in counseling and remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She has worked with a lot of couples (international and local) who have unconsummated marriage; men and women with sexual inhibitions and sexual desire discrepancies; men with erection and ejaculation concerns; as well as with GLBTQQ and kink folks. A born and bred Singaporean Chinese, Martha welcomes individuals as well as couples of all sexual orientations, and is available via online or face-to-face in Singapore. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

Since 2011, Dr. Lee has been (and still is) the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Southeast Asia. Eros Coaching became an AASECT CE Provider in July 2017, and Dr. Lee also became an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor in July 2018. These accolades are only for those who meet the stringent requirements determined by AASECT, which is the leading professional organization for sexuality educators, sexuality counselors and sex therapists in the United States. In short, she strives to be the one of the best sexologists in the world.

She takes pride in making sure all her events are fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Ofnoah.sg, and PinkLifestyle.com. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013),  Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).

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Latest Presentations

Dr. Martha Tara Lee has presented at numerous conferences and events in these cities: Brisbane, Perth, Sydney, Kuala Lumpur, Penang, Manila, London, Manchester and, of course, her hometown Singapore. For a full list, click here.

Guest speaker of Sex(less) in the City @Singapore Urological Association	30 Sept 2022
Delivered How to give mind-blowing sex for the Walnut Warriors prostate cancer support group members of Singapore Cancer Society	10 Sept 2022
Presented on Sex, Tech, and Beyond on World Health, Fitness and Wellness Festival by Fit Summit	15 June 2022
Conducted Sex & Sexuality in Lonely Singapore | Singles event for TLC	24 May 2022
Conducted 1.5 hour virtual sexuality talk on Lymphoma & Sexuality for Tan Tock Seng Hospital (TTSH)	21 May 2022
Q&A on Vaginismus for Get2Toegther, UK	20 April 2022
Conducted Masterclass: Pure Pleasure for Horny.sg in partnership with pjur	3 April 2022
Conducted virtual Pure Pleasure for www.Horny.sg in partnership with pjur	24 March 2022
Guest speaker of Facebook live session on Revenge Porn by IFN-Indonesian Family Network Singapore	18 March 2022
Conducted virtual Unwinding workshop for One World Tantra Festival (returning for 3rd time)	4 March 2022
Conducted It’s Not Love virtual workshop for TLC Dating	25 February 2022
Facilitated Support Group for Breast Cancer Survivors for Singapore Cancer Society. Theme: Body Image	24 February 2022
Conducted virtual workshop How to have Better Sex for Get2Togther, UK	23 February 2022
Was part of closed-door Valentine’s Event panel for Sky Premium	11 February 2022
Conducted virtual workshop Beyond Vanilla for Mego Events	11 February 2022
Conducted virtual workshop Intimately Yours 101 for Mego Events	8 February 2022

For a full list of presentations, click here.

Academic Qualifications

Masters in Counseling, Monash University, Australia	2018
Doctorate in Human Sexuality, Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, USA	2009
Masters in Public Policy and Management, York University, United Kingdom	2007
Bachelor of Arts (Communications), Monash University, Australia	1999

Other Relevant Training

Psychological First Aid Online, Singapore Emergency Responder Academy (with cert)	21 December 2022
Managing Mental Health in the Workplace, Achieve Centre for Leadership (with CE)	2 December 2022
Suicide Intervention Skills Promoting Life, Crisis & Trauma Resource Institute Inc. (with CE)	6 October 2022
The Trauma Impact of Covid-19 Pandemic on Children & Adolescents, Singapore Association for Counselling	19 August 2022
Dealing with Difficult People, Achieve Centre for Leadership	13 August 2022
Walking With Grief Helping Others Deal With Loss, Crisis & Trauma Resource Institute Inc.	9 August 2022
Motivational Interviewing and The Language of Change	24 June 2022
Lifting Black Voices: Therapy, Trust, and Racial Trauma, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
Providing Inclusive, Respectful Care to Your Gender Questioning, Transgender, & Nonbinary Clients, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
When Client/Therapist Values Clash: The Diversity Training EVERY Clinician Needs Right Now, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
Healing Invisible Wounds: Working Through Past Sexual Trauma in Relationships, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
Disaster Mental Health: How to Help in the Aftermath of a Tragedy, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
Providing Inclusive, Respectful Care to Your Gender Questioning, Transgender, & Nonbinary Clients, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
Certificate for Creating an Ethical, Impactful Presence Outside the Therapy Room, from Books to Social Media to Podcasting, Clearly Clinical	20 June 2022
Attended Webinar: Endometriosis – What Health Care Professionals Need to Know , Global Pelvic Health Alliance	26 May 2022
Attended Headroom #LeanOnUsUkraine – EmotionAid® Demonstration Workshop	25 May 2022
Attended one-day Creative Captioning workshop by Singapore Repertory Theatre	17 Nov 2021
The Science of Suffering and Moving Forward- The Pandemic and Beyond, Clearly Clinical (with CE)	13 May 2021
Toys, Accessories, and Beyond! by Goody Howard, MSW, MPH under Sex Ed Lecture Series (with CE)	8 May 2021
Vicarious Trauma: Strategies for Supporting Resilience through The Crisis & Trauma Resource Institute (with cert)	21 April 2021
Understanding Violence on Coursera (with cert)	17 April 2021
Art & Activity: Interactive Strategies for Engaging With Art on Coursera (with cert)	12 April 2021
HPV-Associated Oral and Throat Cancer: What You Need to Know on Coursera (with cert)	7 April 2021
Be Your Best Creative Self on Coursera (with cert)	27 March 2021
Certificate for The Science of Well-Being on Coursera (with cert)	17 March 2021
Certificate for Use Canva to Create Social Media Marketing Designs on Coursera (with cert)	15 March 2021
Certificate for Community Organizing for Social Justice on Coursera (with cert)	15 March 2021
Certificate for Mind Control: Managing Your Mental Health During COVID-19 on Coursera (with cert)	15 March 2021
Certificate for Easing Physical Symptoms: It’s Not Just Hospice Anymore on Coursera (with cert)	15 March 2021
Certificate in Introduction to Integrative Therapies and Healing Practices on Coursera (with cert)	6 March 2021
Queering Identities: LGBTQ+ Sexuality and Gender Identity on Coursera (with cert)	2 March 2021
Pain Management: Easing Pain in Palliative Care on Coursera (with cert)	28 February 2021
What is Palliative Care on Coursera (with cert)	20 February 2021
The “Sexcessible” Practice: Sexuality and Disability for Somatic Sex Educators	19 February 2021
Positive Psychiatry and Mental Health on Coursera (with cert)	17 February 2021
Psychosocial and Spiritual Aspects of Palliative Care on Coursera (with cert)	10 February 2021
Community Awareness Course: Sexuality and Disability on Coursera (no cert)	4 February 2021
Healthcare Organizations and Health Systems on Coursera (with cert)	3 February 2021
Foundations of Virtual Instruction through Coursera (with cert)	31 January 2021
Disability Awareness and Support through Coursera (with cert)	28 January 2021
Anti Racism 1 on Coursera (no cert given)	26 January 2021
Muslim & Sexual Health: Exploring Islamic Perspectives	10 January 2021
Sexual Assault First Responder, Sexual Assault Care Centre, Aware Singapore	29 April 2020
The Science of Happiness, University of California, Berkeley through edX	9 May 2018
Psychology of Popularity, The University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Coursera	15 Feb 2018
Prepare/ Enrich Facilitator, Eagles Mediation & Counselling Centre, Singapore	8 July 2017
Diversity & Inclusion in the Workplace, Coursera, Online	July 2017
Advanced Certificate in Training and Assessment (ACTA), Institute for Adult Learning, Singapore	22 Aug 2016
Working with Clients Who Grapple with Sexual Compulsivity, Promises Healthcare, Singapore	11 May 2015
Managing Sexuality Issues of Adults with Intellectual Disabilities, Social Service Training Institute, Singapore	7 – 8 April 2015
Relationship Coach for Couples, Relationship Coaching Institute (RCI)	2015
Level 1 and 2 Teacher Training, The Art of Feminine Presence, Melbourne	Dec 2014
Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator, Star of Ishtar (Online)	June 2014
Associate Certified Coach, International Coach Federation	July 2013
Certificate in Meditation and Holistic Human Development, Inner Voyage (Online)	June 2013
Urban Tantra Professional Training, Barbara Carrellas	Oct 2013
Professional Sex Coach, Sex Coach University and World Association of Sex Coaches (Online)	2012
Certified Laughter Yoga Leader, Laughter Yoga International, Singapore	Mar 2012
Diploma for Master Hypnotist, Banyan Hypnosis Center, United States	2010
Certificate in Life Coaching, Life Coach Academy of Australia, Australia	2010
Certificate in Sex Therapy, Florida Sex Therapy Institute, Uniputed States	2009
Certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, United States	2008
Reiki Master (Level 3)	2008
Certificate in Practical Counseling, Academy of Human Development, Singapore	2006

Publications

Essay in Letter to My Mother edited by Felix Cheong	2021
Essay in Sex Positive Now edited by Allena Gabosch & Jeremy Shub	2019
{Un}Inhibited (My Fourth Book)	2019
From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (My Third Book)	2017
Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (My Second Book)	2015
Love, Sex and Everything In Between (My First Book)	2013
Sex in Love (Essay) in The World Book of Love edited by Leo Bormans	2013
The Ugly Duckling Who Became A Sexologist (Essay) in A Walk In My Shoes by Raymond Anthony Fernando	2013
Essay in Her Story: SCWO’s 25th Anniversary — Celebrating Womanhood  edited by Tisa Ng	2005

Affiliations

Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Sexuality Educator Supervisor, and Continuing Education (CE) Provider, AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)

Certified Sexologist, ACS (American College of Sexologists)

Provisional Clinical Member, Singapore Association of Counseling

Milestones

In 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2016, 2017, 2018, 2019, 2020, 2021 and 2022!