Become a Patron!This is a list of events/ articles/ media interviews which counts as my achievements of the year – big and small. I first started doing these annual milestones as a way for me to keep track of my own progress, and only decided to keep doing and resharing them later.
This is a bit of a spoiler. My reflections video at end of 2021:
Day/ Date What
JANUARY
- Jan 5 – Wrote How to Use Menstrual Cups, the Good and the Bad for Horny.sg
- Jan 10 – Attended Muslim & Sexual Health: Exploring Islamic Perspectives (I watched recording)
- Jan 11 – Did video review of Classic Period Panty from @fermatasg
- Jan 13 – Wrote and published Top 5 Sexuality Trends for 2021 for Horny.sg
- Jan 15 – Start of 5-week training The “Sexcessible” Practice: Sexuality and Disability for Somatic Sex Educators
- Jan 19 – Interview by Cosmic Children podcast. Listen to episode 41 here
- Jan 20 – Interviewed by and interviewed Heather Montgomery, Founder and CEO of PleazeMe.com
- Jan 24 – Attended Menstrual Nation: Periods, Pads and Panties (online)
- Jan 25 – Interviewed Dr Donna Oriowo for my YouTube channel
- Jan 26 – Completed online course Anti Racism 1 on Coursera (no cert given)
- Jan 26 – Wrote and released How Couples Can Overcome Sexless Marriages for The Home Ground
- Jan 26 – Wrote and released 2021 Valentine’s Day Guide for Horny.sg
- Jan 27 – Got Pfizer Covid vaccine (1 of 2)
- Jan 27 – Conducted virtual Penis Pleasure workshop (as part of three-part virtual workshop series Angels of Eros in partnership with Joyen and Nudista)
- Jan 27 – Released Masturbator Review: Ez-Grip Rechargeable Auto Penis Pump @ Horny.sg by Luke Elijah Lim
Jan 28 – Completed Disability Awareness and Support through Coursera (with cert) - Jan 28 – Released zoom interview Discussion on Vaginismus with Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee & Amirah Zaky
- Jan 31 – Completed Foundations of Virtual Instruction through Coursera (with cert)
FEBRUARY
- 1 Feb – Released video 1 of 4 from my interview with Sex Therapist Dr Donna Oriowo (about her work)
- 2 Feb – Interviewed Sgsupernanny Zoe Chu
- 2 Feb – Interviewed by Stuck Not Stopped (vaginismus podcast). Recording here
- 2 Feb – Completed Autism Spectrum Disorder on Coursera (with cert)
- 2 Feb – Released video 2 of 4 from my interview with Sex Therapist Dr Donna Oriowo on why Black Lives Matter
- 3 Feb – Released video 3 of 4 from my interview with Sex Therapist Dr Donna Oriowo on how to be an Anti Racist
- 3 Feb – Completed Healthcare Organizations and Health Systems on Coursera (with cert)
- 3 Feb – Quoted in Why Skin Hunder is 2021’s Most Pressing Issue in Vogue Singapore
- 3 Feb – Published 12 Sexual Enhancement Products for the 12 Chinese Zodiac Signs on Pink Lifestyle
- 4 Feb – Released video 4 of 4 from my interview with Sex Therapist Dr Donna Oriowo on Healing our Sexuality
- 4 Feb – Completed Community Awareness Course: Sexuality and Disability on Coursera (no cert)
- 5 Feb – Interviewed by Jacqueline van de Bilt about Vaginismus
- 6 Feb – Interviewed by Upand.out. Recording here
- 10 Feb – Completed Psychosocial and Spiritual Aspects of Palliative Care on Coursera (with cert)
- 11 Feb – Interviewed by The Ironing Board. S2, E1 here.
- 12 Feb – Completed What does it mean to identify as Transgender or Gender Non-Conforming (TGNC)? on Coursera (no cert)
- 14 Feb – Full-day Ask Me Anything based at Pink Lifestyle
- 15 Feb – Released 4-part interview with sleep coach SG Supernanny Zoe Chu
17 Feb – Podcast interview on Season 2, Episode 1 of The Ironing Board released- 17 Feb – Completed Positive Psychiatry and Mental Health on Coursera (with cert)
- 19 Feb – Completion of 5-week training The “Sexcessible” Practice: Sexuality and Disability for Somatic Sex Educators
- 19 Feb – Interviewed by Mental Dumbells. Ep 50 is here
- 19 Feb – 2nd Pfizer Covid-19 vaccine done
- 20 Feb – Completed What is Palliative Care on Coursera (with cert)
- 23 Feb – Published Bang for your Buck: 11 Tips on the Cleaning and Maintenance of your Sex Toys for Pink Lifestyle
- 28 Feb – Completed Pain Management: Easing Pain in Palliative Care on Coursera (with cert)
MARCH
- Mar 3 – Released 7 Basic Hygiene Practices that Every Woman Should Follow During and After Periods for Pink Lifestyle
- Mar 6 – Completed Certificate in Introduction to Integrative Therapies and Healing Practices on Coursera (with cert)
- Mar 6 -Interview by Cosmic Children podcast released. Listen to episode 41 here
- Mar 6 – Completed two-hour Body Positivity for Parents/ Allies of People with Disabilities through Disabled People’s Association on Zoom
- Mar 9 – Interview Katrin from Katrin with Love on Vaginismus
- Mar 11 – Interview with Cam Fraser released: #47 “It’s an Asian thing”: Sexuality, Culture and Appropriation (with Dr. Martha Tara Lee)
- Mar 12 – Zoom live on Sexual Harassment with IFN – Indonesia Family Network
- Mar 13 – Completed two-hour Body Positivity for People with Disabilities through Disabled People’s Association on Zoom
- Mar 15 – Completed Certificate for Mind Control: Managing Your Mental Health During COVID-19 on Coursera (with cert)
- Mar 15 – Completed Certificate for Community Organizing for Social Justice on Coursera (with cert)
- Mar 15 – Completed Certificate for Use Canva to Create Social Media Marketing Designs on Coursera (with cert)
- Mar 16 – Instagram Live with Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt. Recording here
- Mar 16 – Published Eco-friendly Sex Toy Materials: What to Look For and What to Avoid for Pink Lifestyle
- Mar 17 – Completed Certificate for The Science of Well-Being on Coursera (with cert)
- Mar 18 – Instagram Live on Intimacy in Dating & Relationship with Lunch Actually
- Mar 18 – Released 8 part interview with Upand.about as part of publicity for Sugar & Spice
- Mar 18 – Quoted in 4 Popular Sex Fantasies And How You Can Make Them Happen by Her World
- Mar 19 – Released interview series with Founder and Owner of The Curve Cult Rani Dhaschainey
- Mar 22 – Published blog post 17 Audio Erotica Sites to Check Out!
- Mar 23 – 27 – Organised third Sugar & Spice virtual sexuality festival attended by 175 people with 30 presenters, 12 sessions over 5 days. Playlist of some of the recordings are here
- Mar 23 – Released blog post Anal Sex – The Necessary Hygiene, and Safety for Pink Lifestyle
- May 24 – Published e-interview with Contemporary Jewellery Designer Maker @nadiaeloisejewellery
- May 24 – Part of Vaginismus Panel as part of Sugar & Spice
- May 26 – Quoted in After A Lifetime Of Being Sidelined, People With Disabilities Are Reclaiming Their Sexuality on Rice Media
- Mar 27 – Completed Be Your Best Creative Self on Coursera (with cert)
- Mar 28 – 29 – Recording with www.thehomeground.asia; was part of 2 panels, and coordinated and supported 3 other panels
- Mar 28 – Answered questions around our hymen for The V Spot on Instagram
- Mar 29 – Quoted on irenskin on how our skin is linked to our sexuality on Instagram
- Mar 30 – Published blog post How to Engage in Role Playing for Pink Lifestyle
- Mar 31 – Interview Everything About Toys on podcast Girl Code by Ladies First released.
APRIL
- April 6 – Released blog post Resource: Media Portrayals of Non-Monogamy
- April 6 – Released blog post Do Sex Toys Cause Addiction? for Pink Lifestyle
- April 7 – Completed HPV-Associated Oral and Throat Cancer: What You Need to Know on Coursera (with cert)
- April 7 – Conducted virtual workshop Vulva Pleasure under Angels of Eros series
- April 10 – Quoted in Sexual health: ‘I can’t tell my mum I’m having sex’ by BBC News
- April 10 – Interview on Instagram live and Takeover on Vaginismus on HappyVulvaClub
- April 11 – Published blog post I Love My Daddy
- April 12 – Completed Art & Activity: Interactive Strategies for Engaging With Art on Coursera (with cert)
- April 12 – Started Eros Coach Telegram channel
- April 12 – Interview Farzana Doctor on her novel Seven (about female genital mutilation)
- April 14 – Hosted Tease Me by Nudista under Angels of Eros series
- April 15 – Pre-order of book Letter to My Mother edited by Felix Cheong (I am one of 20 contributors)
- April 16 – Interview by podcast Wine, Dine and 69
- April 17 – Completed Understanding Violence on Coursera (with cert)
- April 21 – Hosted Art of Domination by Joyen under Angels of Eros series
- April 21 – Completed “Vicarious Trauma: Strategies for Supporting Resilience” through The Crisis & Trauma Resource Institute (with cert)
- April 28 – Organised the first Sugar and Spice monthly talks. Theme: Violence. Watch the recordings here
- April 30 – Recorded “Take Back Being Woman” for Healing My Sisters Summit (Invited for 3rd time)
MAY
- May 3 – Recorded for Magnetize Love Telesummit by Barbara Santen
- May 7 – Conducted in-person fellatio workshop Art of Fellatio for NRSC
- May 8 – Completed one-hour webinar Toys, Accessories, and Beyond! by Goody Howard, MSW, MPH under Sex Ed Lecture Series (with CE)
- May 13 – Completed one-hour webinar The Science of Suffering and Moving Forward- The Pandemic and Beyond by Clearly Clinical (with CE)
- May 14 – Organised 2nd Sugar and Spice Monthly Talks. Theme: Pleasure. Watch them here
- May 16 – Quoted in Female-friendly space for sexual well-being on Sunday Times, Life as Resident Sexologist of Pink Lifestyle
- May 17 – Part of this virtual telesummit Magnetize Love by Barbara Santen
- May 19 – Conducted virtual workshop Orgasmic Access under Angels of Eros 3
- May 19 – Quoted in 5 Ways Therapy Can Help Your Love, According to Experts on Elite Daily
- May 20 – Quoted in 5 Ways Sex with an Older Man is better by Her World Singapore
- May 23 – Coordinated this published panel of Singaporean women sharing about your sexuality for TheHomeGround.asia. Episode 3. Asked questions off camera.
- May 24 – 25 – Want part of virtual Healing My Sisters Summit conducted for 4th time (speaking for 3rd) and hosted by JJ Conway
- May 26 – Hosted Mistress and Masturbation by Joyen under Angels of Eros 3 series
- May 27 – Conducted one-hour Honest about Sex & Cancer virtual session for a private breast cancer support group
- May 28 – Zoom live and recording “Where does 100% at work leave you for your relationship?” with MindFi
- May 28 – Released YouTube video WFH tips for Couples affected by Covid Lockdown Measures
- May 31 – Released Masturbation facts for Masturbation Month on YouTube
JUNE
- June 2 – Hosted Mutual Desire: Masturbation with A Partner by Nudista under Angels of Eros 3 series
- June 5 – Conducted virtual workshop Navigating the Dating Scene 101 for Parents of Youths with Disabilities for Disabled Peoples Association
- June 12 – Conducted virtual session Sexual Health Post-Ostomy: Maintaining Healthy Sexual Life for Singapore Cancer Society
- June 12 – Conducted virtual workshop Navigating the Dating Scene 101 for Youths with Disabilities for Disabled Peoples Association
- June 18 – Conducted virtual workshop Orgasmic Access as part of One World Tantra Festival (returning for 3rd time)
- June 18 – Organised 3rd Sugar and Spice Monthly Talks. Theme: Pride. Watch them here
- June 19 – Conducted sexuality counseling sessions for parents and youths with disabilities for Disabled Peoples Association
- June 20 – Appointed the Resident Sexologist of Ofnoah.sg and Ofzoey.com
- June 25 – Asked relationship questions for one-hour under Showcase (Recharge series) with Wall Street English Indonesia (50+ attendees)
JULY
- July 3 – Appeared in Bedroom Issues in YouTube show Just Saying Episode 20. Recording here.
- July 11 – Received testimonial from client who overcame Vaginismus
- July 13 – Published How to have Best Sex Ever for Honeycombers Singapore
- July 16 – Video shoot with Channel News Asia with comedian @rishibudhrani
- July 16 – Published All about Silicon Lubricant for PinkLifestyle.com
- July 20 – Received shout out for my 2nd book Orgasmic Yoga on Healthline
- July 21 – Panelist on The F Word Part 2: On Intimacy and Relationships for Festival of Women: NOW organised by TWorks Singapore. Recording here
- July 21 – Video review of iroha Petit Plum
- July 22 – Quoted in 4 Ways To Enjoy Sex When You Feel Bloated (Like After A Big Meal) for Her World Singapore
- July 22 – Organised 4th Sugar and Spice Monthly Talks. Theme: Creativity. Watch them here
- July 23 – Interviewed for The Jamie Nonis Show and Speqtrum Podcast by Jamie Nonis
- July 27 – Published A Guide to Having Sex with Herpes
- July 27 – Quoted in How to get over the fear of emotional and physical intimacy with your partner on Channel NewsAsia
- July 30 – Quoted in 5 Sexologist-Approved Sex Toys To Check Out for Her World Singapore
AUGUST
- Aug 5 – Announced E-waste of sex toys initiative by sexual wellness boutique www.horny.sg (which I have facilitate to make happen)
- Aug 8 – Released IG deck 5 Myths and Misconceptions about Porn and Sex
- Aug 9 – Released IG deck on The New Neuroscience of Pleasure
- Aug 9 – Contributed 6 common relationship problems for Honeycombers Singapore
- Aug 13 – Published blog post Sex Ed Books on Menstruation
- Aug 15 – Quoted in Sex after 60: why it’s good for you on SCMP
- Aug 19 – Video recording with The Smart Local
- Aug 20 – Organised Sugar and Spice talks x August: Truth Seekers
- Aug 29 – Recorded Sexual Health & Wellness virtual training for Parents of Individuals with Disabilities for Disabled People’s Association
SEPTEMBER
- Sept 2 – Video recording with Clarity Co
- Sept 4 – Sexual Health & Wellness virtual training for Individuals with Disabilities for Disabled People’s Association
- Sept 5 – Print version of my interview with MustShareNews.com – S’pore Woman Shares What It’s Like To Be A Sex Expert Who Helps Struggling Couples
- Sept 9 – Article How Often Should Couples Have Sex released by Honeycombers Singapore
- Sept 9 – Part 2 of my interview with MustShareNews.com released – Everything You Wanted to Ask a Sexologist
- Sept 10 – Did IG Live video on Toxic Relationships with Frankie
- Sept 18 – Conduct virtual workshop Loving Well for Stellar Women x Lancome, Indonesia
- Sept 23 – Panel video recording for 6 Productions
- Sept 26 – Interview with Clarity.co was released: Episode 1 of Untypical series
- Sept 28 – Got mandatory MMR (measles) & Diphtheria vaccination because this is a new requirement by our government for healthcare workers
- Sept 29 – Video recording on What are the different types of sex toys? for SheThePeople.tv released
- Sept 29 – Quoted in Are you an Eco-Sexual and not know it? released by TheHomeGround.Asia
OCTOBER
- Oct 11 – Got 3rd Pfizer Covid-19 shoot
- Oct 12 – Quoted in Straits Times: When sex hurts: More women in S’pore seek help for vaginismus
- Oct 16 – Prostate Cancer talk for members of support group Walnut Warriors, Singapore Cancer Society
- Oct 17 – Release of my promo video on Sexual Health and Cancer for Singapore Cancer Society
- Oct 17 – Did Instagram Live sharing for event A Dialogue: Daughters on Loss of their Mothers due to Breast Cancer alongside Zai Miztiq
- Oct 21 – Panel video recording for 6 Productions
- Oct 22 – Article Common Reasons Couple Stop Having Sex for Her World Singapore
- Oct 22 – Released Why Women Shouldn’t Fake Orgasms for SheThe People TV
- Oct 23 – Did Sexuality and Breast Cancer public awareness talk for Singapore Cancer Society
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Oct 25 – Appeared in Most Common Reasons Couples Stop Having Sex on AsiaOne
- Oct 26 – Written form based on my video Why Women Shouldn’t Fake Orgasms for SheThePeople TV
- Oct 30 – Did Sexual Rights & Boundaries for Persons with Disabilities for Disabled Peoples’ Association
- Oct 30 – Released 5 Things Women Love in Bed @ SheThePeople TV
- Oct 30 – Appeared in OTRD X Unfiltered: Just Don’t Tell Mum
NOVEMBER
- Nov 5 – Release of How to Have Better Sex for SheThePeople TV
- Nov 5 – Release of episode We’re Sexual Wellness Advocates for Just Don’t Tell Mom, On The Red Dot on YouTube
- Nov 6 – Release of podcast interview on Vaginismus and Asian Sexuality on Wine, Dine & 69
- Nov 10 – My book review of A Drip, A Drop, A Deluge
- Nov 11 – Release of podcast Discussing a Healthy Sex Life, Sex Taboos, Sexuality Coaching and Everything In-Between with PleazeMe
- Nov 12 – Did virtual workshop Heal from Your Past, Move on Successfully for True Love
- Nov 12 – Release of video 5 Thing You Didn’t Know about the Clitoris for SheThePeople TV
- Nov 13 – My video book review of I’ll Walk With You: A Guide for Parents of Transgender Children
- Nov 16 – Podcast Interview with The Daily Ketchup
- Nov 17 – Attended one-day Creative Captioning workshop by Singapore Repertory Theatre
- Nov 17 – Release of podcast with Episode 35 Discussing a Healthy Sex Life, Sex Taboos, Sexuality Coaching and Everything In-Between with Heather C Montgomery
- Nov 22 – Received token of appreciation for my work seeing clients referred by Supreme Court of Singapore
- Nov 23 – Ran free virtual Ask Me Anything via Zoom
- Nov 23 – My article “Unhappy with your sex life? Here’s how to get what you want in bed, according to a sexologist” towards Honeycombers Singapore published
- Nov 25 – Conducted virtual workshop Pleasuring the Penis via Zoom
- Nov 26 – Answered a question from a questioning non-binary person on sexual orientation and sexual abuse for The Heartweavers on IG here.
- Nov 26 – Conducted virtual workshop Festive Fellatio via Zoom
- Nov 26 – Release of reaction video to the crowdsourced question that originally appeared on The Independent asking why bf doesn’t want sex
- Nov 27 – Conducted virtual Viva la Vulva via Zoom
- Nov 27 – Released video review of the documentary Procession
- Nov 30 – Release of Body Positivity videos in three parts from my DPA training earlier this year
DECEMBER
- Dec 2 – Answered a question around sex drive discrepancy for The Heartweavers here.
- Dec 2 – Released on What is Emotional Regulation for SheThePeople TV
- Dec 3 – Release of Dating 101 two-part videos from training I did for DPA earlier this year
- Dec 3 – Release of Sexual Health & Wellness videos from training I did for DPA earlier this year
- Dec 3 – Conducted virtual workshop ReBuild: Love via Zoom
- Dec 4 – Did virtual workshop Cord Cutting Ceremony at Evolve Festival
- Dec 4 – My video response on sexless relationship reposted on The Independent and The Bharat Express
- Dec 6 – Signed tenancy agreement for new office at Kim Hoe Centre, Kelantan Lane
- Dec 7 – Release of Would You Send Your GF To A Blowjob Workshop? on The Daily Ketchup Podcast
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- Dec 9 – Quoted in 18 Little Things To Do During Missionary To Make It Better on Romper
- Dec 9 – Release of video Things to know about the Vulva for SheThePeople TV
- Dec 9 – Release of reaction video to the crowdsourced question that originally appeared on The Independent asking how to get one’s wife to accept his ‘young & wild’ female colleague for sex
- Dec 10 – Received this 2021 Year in Review by Duolingo
- Dec 10 – Conducted virtual workshop ReBuild: Relationship via Zoom
- Dec 10 – Part of Creator Fest panel on Sex Ed and Social Media organised by SheThePeople TV
- Dec 11 – Release of reaction video to the crowdsourced question that originally appeared on The Independent asking: Is it normal to have a deep dislike for your husband?
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Dec 11 – The Independent publishes my reaction video to question: how to get one’s wife to accept his ‘young & wild’ female colleague for sex
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Dec 12 – Release of reaction video to the crowdsourced question that originally appeared on The Independent asking: Girl asks if she’s a homewrecker for ‘making out’ with her male best friend
- Dec 13 – Release of Sexologist Debunks No Nut November with The Daily Ketchup
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Dec 14 – Release of reaction video to the crowdsourced question that originally appeared on The Independent asking:
Ex-boyfriend’s name tattooed across her breast, woman worries what her fiancé might say -
Dec 15 – Answered a question on sexual confidence after contracting STI for The Heartweavers
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Dec 15 – Release of reaction video to the crowdsourced question that originally appeared on The Independent asking: His gf tests him with trivial arguments, insists on frequent dates and text bombards. What to do?
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Dec 16 – Answered a question on finding a partner for The Heartweavers
- Dec 17 – Quoted in The most common sex toy injuries — and how to avoid them on Mashable
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Dec 17 – Release of article You’re toxic, I’m slipping under: Don’t ignore these relationship red flags for Honeycombers Singapore
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Dec 17 – Conducted virtual workshop ReBuild: Sex/ Sexuality via Zoom
- Dec 18 – Attended four-hour virtual training Working with Families After Sexual Abuse Has Occurred by Safer Society Foundation
- Dec 22 – Quoted in 8world News about sex addiction (this is in Chinese)
- Dec 22 – Completed Black Lives Matter on Coursera (with cert)
- Dec 23 – Release of my video answer Why you should stop waiting for prince/ princess charming? for SheThePeople TV
- Dec 23 – Release of Show For Women By Women Episode 6: Women, Marriage and Intimacy where I was featured
- Dec 24 – Release of 3 Cute Christmas videos to thank followers
- Dec 25 – Updated blog post Books Read in 2021 (not many! )
This year has been incredibly busy. You may wish to check out my milestones from previous years here: 2011, 2012, 2013, 2014, 2016, 2017, 2018, 2019, 2020.
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; Singapore Cancer Society, and Ofnoah.sg and Ofzoey.com. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
