How to Engage in Role-Playing?

Posted On: March 30, 2021

How to Engage in Role PlayingThis article was first published for here.

  1. Engaging yourself in role-play seems to be a big hurdle when you are a beginner. If you are shy, do some research. Look at pictures, watch porn videos or just google the thoughts you have been thinking about.
  2. The next step is to share your idea with your partner. You can simply do it by speaking in a sexy accent, putting a bold red lipstick or wearing a hat or long gloves, etc.
  3. You can also do it by verbally pretending you a different character in your bedroom, or you can build a fantasy with your partner. For example, when you see a police officer, you might say, “A man in uniform is so sexy. You would look so erotic if you put on a costume like that”.

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  4. You can also show your partner a picture of a French maid costume to ask whether your partner would like to see you in that costume.
  5. It is good to create a scene by wearing your favorite costume, e.g., nurse, maid, schoolgirl, etc., as they allow you to play more authentic.


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14 Tips for Role-Playing With Your Husband Without Feeling Awkward. (2014, July 29). Cafe Mom.

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 12 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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