I Love My Daddy

Posted On: April 11, 2021

I love my daddy. I think of him often when I’m not with him. I wonder what he’s doing, if he’s eaten, and if he’s sleeping well. The love I have for my dad is more than just gratitude, more than just respect… but unconditional love.

Since my relationship with him improved after my mom’s passing, I’ve started to find him increasingly adorable. There’s a Chinese saying, “Those who have an elder at home are housing a treasure.” He’s definitely treasured as I miss hanging out with him.

He is the first man who loved me and is still doing what he can for me. He has spent more than half his life taking care of me, and I’d be honoured to take care of him the rest of his life. The last days I was able to spend with my mom are probably my most cherished menories. He will never be a burden.

I know of people who despise their parents and even mistreat them. It’s not my place to judge them but people who know better should do better.

There was a time I judged my parents for the parents they “should” have been for me until I realised because as the more educated one, I needed to let go of all that, lower my ego and forego all self-righteousness. I realised I couldn’t preach love and claim to support all my clients without being the daughter my parents deserve and worked through all those negative emotions.

My dad deserves the best and I am always so happy when he receives. When I get to buy him a meal, I think of the countless meals he’s bought for me out of love and without any expectation, and I’m happy as can be.

In my work, I often acknowledge the land I come from when in fact, I also need to give credit to my parents for who I am. I often give credit to my teachers, only to realise my parents have been my greatest teachers. All things being said and done, we need to give honor to those whose shoulders we stand on.

#daddysgirl #parents #love

Resharing about this upcoming performance by Sharul Channa at Drama Centre, Victoria Street

Back for one night only: Am I Old?, a comedic monologue by Sharul Channa on 24 April 2021. Savitri, a 68-year-old retired Singaporean school teacher, is looking for something exciting to do. So she tries stand-up comedy for the first time.

That is the premise of Am I Old?, a comedic monologue written and performed by local comedy pioneer Sharul Channa. This show was staged three times over the weekend of 6-8 March, 2020, at the Drama Centre Black Box at National Library. This was followed by eight virtual shows on Zoom during Singapore’s circuit breaker period, making Am I Old? the nation’s first pandemic-era virtual theatrical performance.

Now Channa is bringing Am I Old? back for one night only: 24 April 2021, 8pm at the Drama Centre. There will be a panel discussion after the performance with MP Carrie Tan (Nee Soon South) and others, moderated by Shailey Hingorani of AWARE (whose 2019 eldercare report “Make Care Count” provided foundational research for this show).

Show Details

Date and Timing: Sat, 24th April 2021, 8pm (ONE SHOW ONLY)

*There will be a panel discussion at the end of the show.

Venue: Drama Centre, 100 Victoria Street Level 3, National Library Building, Singapore 188064

Ticket price: (Standard) $40

Tickets from KLOOK

  • Old woman, new tricks! Hot off her hit show Cleavage Murukku Crusher, acclaimed Singaporean comedian Sharul Channa returns again this year with Am I Old?: a comedic monologue about ageing and caregiving
  • Am I Old? was first staged in March of 2020 and received an overwhelmingly positive response from audience members
  • It was one of the first zoom shows staged in Singapore during the pandemic later that year, and now, by popular demand, it will be re-staged with Sharul Channa performing this comedic monologue for a live audience
  • The brilliant Channa has a unique talent for finding the humour in serious, often neglected social issues, such as poverty and misogyny. Am I Old? presents the same actress-comedian, the same passion and the same razor-sharp truth—this time directed at ageing and caregiving
  • Make the panel discussion prominent after the performance with MP Carrie Tan (Nee Soon South) and others, moderated by Shailey Hingorani of AWARE

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 12 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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