The Evolution of Volunteer Work

The Evolution of Volunteer Work

Posted On: December 13, 2019

There were many times in my life when I didn’t know what I wanted to do with myself – but I did know that helping people gave me the most joy. Volunteer dynamics/ evolution (in my opinion): Can do it – At first, I volunteered because I finally could (I was in a toxic relationship […]

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Recap: Love, Sex & Spirit

Recap: Love, Sex & Spirit

Posted On: December 8, 2019

These are some pictures from the event Love, Sex & Spirit I conducted alongside my friends Luke Elijah Lim and Lionel on Fri 6 Dec 2019. Event details here. We are discussing doing another similar one for Fri 13 Feb 2020 so stay tuned by subscribing to my newsletter if you are not already on […]

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How to Get Over “Why me?” and “How come?”

How to Get Over “Why me?” and “How come?”

Posted On: December 7, 2019

Do you notice your “Why” or “How come” questions? Such as… Why this happening? Why is this happening again? Why is this happening to me? Why does this happen? Why does this happen to me? Why does this keep happening? Why don’t I see this happening to others? Why don’t I hear this happening to […]

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Book Review: The Awakened Woman by Dr. Tererai Trent

Book Review: The Awakened Woman by Dr. Tererai Trent

Posted On: December 2, 2019

It took me a while to finish reading this book because carrying it around for weeks doesn’t mean a book gets read – you actually need to read it, and I finally did. It took me a while because I really wanted to absorb not just the words, but the essence of who Dr Tererai […]

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I Inherited My Parents’ Heart

I Inherited My Parents’ Heart

Posted On: December 1, 2019

I didn’t grow up in a well-to-do family. I didn’t study in some elite school. Yet there is one thing I learned unconsciously from watching my parents: the “helper” spirit. My dad used to volunteer in the neighbourhood residents committee (RC). One of the things I remember doing alongside him regularly was going door-to-door collecting […]

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One Body Love Tip for Parents

One Body Love Tip for Parents

Posted On: November 24, 2019

Today, somebody complimented me on my eyes. It reminded me of my mom who repeatedly told me that I have almond-shaped eyes, and a melon-shaped face whenever I asked her anything about my looks. It wasn’t never expressed as a compliment, but as a fact. Younger me: “Mom, be honest with me… am I beautiful?” […]

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Responding to Somebody Grieving

Responding to Somebody Grieving

Posted On: November 21, 2019

A few months ago, I caught up with an acquaintance and this was how the conversation went: Me: “You know my mom passed away last year?” Her: “Yeah I know…” (with an empathetic look) “How are you?” Me: “I still miss her.” (start to tear up – one of those days I guess) Her: “You […]

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Why I Do What I Do: She’s been asked to watch people have sex

Why I Do What I Do: She’s been asked to watch people have sex

Posted On: November 21, 2019

Why I do what I do is a weekly series where AsiaOne showcases uncommon professions and what it takes to go down that career path. In their final episode, they feature me (Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and relationship counsellor). Having a desire at a young age to understand sex and how it […]

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For the Love of Books

For the Love of Books

Posted On: November 14, 2019

Even before I could read, I would remember the sounds of the mornings: when my dad would open the door to the flat to collect his ordered daily The Straits Times, turn on the light in the living room, and proceed to read it. He doesn’t know it (maybe he will now) but this is […]

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Overcome Your Hate of Small Talk

Overcome Your Hate of Small Talk

Posted On: November 5, 2019

I used to hate ‘small talk’ and know people who hate it too – preferring ‘big talk’ instead. Small talk is when you talk about something or anything of unimportant or uncontroversial matters. Yet even small talk is very telling of people. Depending on their answer, One can tell whether they are open, curious, happy, […]

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I Severed Ties with my First Coach. Here’s Why…

I Severed Ties with my First Coach. Here’s Why…

Posted On: November 1, 2019

Every teacher has a teacher. I hired my first coach at 24 when I was going through my first divorce. She, however, violated coaching ethics by calling me on the phone (while we were still undergoing coaching) crying about how worried she was about paying her flat instalment, and screaming about one of her trainees […]

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Our Relationship with our Sexuality is Important

Our Relationship with our Sexuality is Important

Posted On: October 29, 2019

I have been practising as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator since 2009 – long before it was fashionable, or sexy, or money-making to talk about sex and sexuality in Singapore, or for that matter in Asia as an Asian. Many people ask me why I do what I do. I am passionate about supporting […]

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