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20 Sexual Terms used by Millennials
- Ghosting – When someone abruptly stops all communication with another person without explanation.
2. Cuffing Season – The period of time during the colder months when people are more likely to seek out relationships.
3. Thirst Trap – A sexy photo or post shared on social media to attract attention.
4. Benching – When one person keeps another person around as a back-up option in case their first choice doesn’t work out.
5. DTR – Define the Relationship, a conversation between two people to discuss the status of their relationship.
6. Catfishing – Pretending to be someone else online in order to deceive another person.
7. FWB – Friends with Benefits, a relationship between two people who are friends but also have a sexual relationship with each other.
8. Sexting – Sending sexually explicit messages or photos via text message or other digital means.
9. Hookup Culture – A culture in which casual sexual encounters are accepted and encouraged.
10. Breadcrumbing – When someone sends flirtatious but non-committal messages to keep someone interested without actually making any promises or commitments.
11. Sliding Into DMs – Direct Messaging someone on social media in order to start a conversation with them, usually with romantic intentions.
12. Micro-Cheating – Small acts of infidelity, such as flirting with someone else or having an emotional connection with someone outside of your relationship.
13. Zombieing – When an ex-partner reappears in your life after a period of no contact, usually via text message or social media.
14. Ghostbusting – The act of trying to get an explanation from someone who has ghosted you.
15. Kittenfishing – When someone presents themselves in an unrealistically positive light on their online dating profile, either by using old photos or embellishing their interests and hobbies.
16. Orbiting – When an ex-partner continues to view your social media posts and stories without ever engaging or responding to them directly.
17. Thirst Follow – Following someone on social media for the sole purpose of getting their attention and/or admiration, usually without ever engaging with them directly or having any real connection with them outside of the platform itself.
18. Roaching – When one partner hides the fact that they’re seeing other people from their partner by not being honest about it and/or deleting evidence of it from their phone or social media accounts.
19. Slow Fade – Gradually reducing contact and communication with someone until it eventually stops completely without any explanation or closure given by either party.
20. Zombie Swiping – When you mindlessly swipe through profiles on dating apps without really paying attention to who you’re swiping on or why you’re swiping at all.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
