J is for Jilling Off – Dr Martha Tara Lee on A to Z of Sex™ by Dr Lori Beth

Posted On: June 25, 2017

I spoke about Jilling Off in the podcast A to Z of Sex™ by Dr Lori Beth, and below is a partial transcript from her. Enjoy!

Welcome to the A to Z of Sex™. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is J and J is for Jilling Off (otherwise known as masturbation).

Today’s discussion is about self-pleasure. Masturbation is something that most people do and many people are unjustly ashamed of. Joining me today to talk about this juicy subject is Dr. Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. For more, please go to https://www.eroscoaching.com/profile.

Welcome to the show Martha! Let’s start with some parameters. What do you see falling under the term masturbation? ‘All forms of self-pleasure and self-love.’

We went on to talk about the importance of masturbation in creating self-love, self-knowledge and learning to trust your body. Martha hosts Masturbation Month in May and spends this time educating others on masturbation and how it can heal. She talked about prolonged masturbation which lasts for hours and is used to help peel away layers so that the person can become completely comfortable with self and learn that love can come from within. She spoke about the epiphany she experienced when she was practicing prolonged masturbation (a date with herself) when she realised that love can come from within and that she is already complete and does not need to look externally. Martha said that this created a shift in her that has lasted and that she has attracted different types of people since this shift.

Martha spoke about sex magic and that this is when you make an intention for the energy you generate when masturbating or having sex. She pointed out that this is the most renewable and powerful energy source we have and talked about before orgasm (or during or even after) setting an intention for the energy and sending it to world peace, or to those you love, or even to connecting with all orgasms past, present and future.

We highlighted that many people are so ashamed of a desire to masturbate and many people have little education about how to pleasure themselves. We both agreed that getting rid of the shame and teaching self-pleasure is essential. Martha reminded me that when someone masturbates, they can give themselves pleasure whether they are in a relationship or not and so don’t feel as obligated to enter into sexual experiences that don’t serve them.

We also underscored how important trusting yourself is and that with masturbation you learn a deep level of self-trust. You learn to trust your body and what your body can do and that this makes your experiences with others better as well.

Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to drloribeth@atozofsex.com and visit both websites https://www.atozofsex.com and http://www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to https://www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now’. If you have enjoyed this podcast, please leave a review on iTunes and/or Sticher and please subscribe! Join me next week when the letter will be K and K is for Kinky.


About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to right this societal injustice in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and is currently pursuing her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling. In practice for more than seven years, she is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network. She has published two books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, and Orgasmic Yoga.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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