At a Glance: Sex Ed videos for SheThePeople TV

Posted On: October 24, 2021

This is a listing of all my sex ed videos for SheThePeople TV for your easy reference! Enjoy! 🙂

1 July 2022: Debunking myths about porn | Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

The topic of pornography is a difficult discussion to have for many people. There seems to be a cultural and social panic about it. There is a lot of wrong facts about porn that can be misleading. Here Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist, debunks some myths about porn.

10 June 2022: How do I ask my partner what I want in bed? | Answers Dr. Martha Lee

Having sex, thinking about it, yet not clearly being able to express your thoughts, concerns, or desires around it can lead to anxiety, arguments, dissatisfaction, and even panic. Communicating about sex isn’t always easy. One can be nervous about their body, their abilities, shy about their fantasies, and reluctant to use the language needed. The good news is that it doesn’t have to. Communication is just about the most important element of sex, and it is linked intimately with the physical aspect.

Dr. Martha Tara Lee. a clinical sexologist and Relationship Counsellor shares four tips for better communication in the bedroom.

3 June 2022: Why don’t I feel like having sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Lee

What to do if you don’t feel like having sex with your partner? Dr. Martha Tara Lee. a clinical sexologist and Relationship Counsellor gives four tips to deal with this.

27 May 2022: Tips for anal sex | Featuring Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Masturbation is self-stimulating your genitals in a sexual way to the point of reaching an orgasm. It is a very common behaviour among men and women and is a very normal thing. However, there are a lot of myths around masturbation and self-pleasure as well as side effects of overdoing it. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses whether masturbation can lead to weakness in the body and discusses safe ways to masturbate.

Discussed in the video:

  • Why you should relax and take things slowly during anal sex? To avoid bleeding and tearing which could lead to further diseases and infections.
  • Is lubricant necessary for anal sex?
  • What type of lubricant should you use for anal sex? Silicone base lubricants are suggested for anal sex as they stay on the skin.
  • How to stay relaxed during anal sex?
  • How to prevent cross contamination during anal sex? Preventing cross contamination will reduce chances of infections.

20 May 2022: Does masturbation cause weakness? | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Masturbation is self-stimulating your genitals in a sexual way to the point of reaching an orgasm. It is a very common behaviour among men and women and is a very normal thing. However, there are a lot of myths around masturbation and self-pleasure as well as side effects of overdoing it. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses whether masturbation can lead to weakness in the body and discusses safe ways to masturbate.

Discussed in the video:

  • Does masturbation cause weakness?
  •  What is the orgasm cycle?
  • Can masturbation cause erectile disfunction?
  • Why you should use lubricants while masturbating?
  • Why you should masturbate is different positions and ways?

13 May 2022: Sex during pregnancy: Is it safe? | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

t is advised for women to take rest and be careful during their pregnancy. So most couples try to avoid sex for the entire time. But is having sex unsafe for the baby? Couples have several doubts about their sex life during pregnancy but no one talks about it in the open. There are doubts about the safety of the baby and the mother.

In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses how couples can have sex and still have a safe pregnancy.

Discussed in the video:

  • Is it okay to have sex during pregnancy?
  • Does the baby get affected by the rise in movement in the body of the mother from sex?
  • Can sex lead to complications in pregnancy?
  • Should mothers inform their gynaecologists before trying to have sex?
  • Is first trimester not favourable for sex?

 

5 May 2022: Right way to do oral sex | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Oral sex is just as important as penetrative sex and doing that right is essential. But often many of us do not understand what is the right way to go about it? Is oral sex healthy? Should there be any particular set of precautions one should be keeping in mind before as well as while performing oral sex? While the questions around oral sex are endless, Please note that oral sex is something people engage in to derive pleasure. Hence here are a few basic facts about oral sex that you should know so that your experience of oral sex can be of pleasure and not stress. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses some ways to have better oral sex.

Discussed in the video:

  •  Should you brush before going for oral sex?
  • Should you worry about bad breath before going for oral sex?
  • What is the right way to perform a blowjob?
  • Should one accidentally bite the penis for better sexual arousal?

22 April  2022: How to have better sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Sex isn’t just fun. It’s good for you too. Every orgasm releases a flood of the hormone oxytocin, which improves your mood. Regular sex can improve your heart health, reduce stress and depression, improve your self-esteem, and help you sleep better. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses some ways to have better and healthy sex.

Discussed in the video:

  • How to establish boundaries before having sex?
  • How to communicate before having sex?
  • How to communicate while having sex?
  • How to help your partner understand what you like in bed?

15 April 20222: Relationship advice for couples | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Do couples in love fight and when they do how should they resolve it? In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses how the partners in a relationship can resolve their issues.

Discussed in the video:

  •  Is it okay for couples to fight?
  • How should couples resolve their fights?
  • Is it important for couples to treat each other as individuals rather than as a unit all the time?
  • How can couples spend a good time together?
  • How should couples talk about their partners with others?

8 April 2022: Can women initiate sex? | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

It is a common notion that only men should initiate sex. But isn’t that a wrong stereotype? In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses how both partners can enjoy sex and how to initiate it.

Discussed in the video:

  • Who should initiate sex?
  • What is the right way to initiate sex?
  • Does the person initiating sex have the upper hand?
  • How can having code words help with the initiation of sex?
  • What to do if a partner has a lower sex drive?
  • When should partners go to a sexologist?

1 April 2022: Role of touch in a relationship | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Physical touch is a big step of intimacy but is there restrictions to it too? In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses the importance and ways of dealing with physical touch in a relationship

Discussed in the video:

  •  How important is physical touch in a relationship?
  • What to do if one is touch adverse in a relationship?
  • Is touch a fundamental part of our being?
  • How to advocate for yourself and tell your partner what you like?

25 March 2022: Deal breakers you should avoid in the bedroom | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

There are certain non-negotiables in every relationship but what are some general deal breakers that should be maintained in the bedroom for healthy sex life? In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses some of these deal breakers in this video.

Discussed in the video:

  • Can a bad attitude kill the vibe of sex in the bedroom?
  • How important is appreciating your partner’s efforts in the bedroom?
  • Is sex all about one individual’s pleasure?
  • How important is communication among the partners for better sex life?
  • How to avoid calling the wrong name in the bedroom?

18 March 2022: What do women really want ? | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Women and men are built differently so how do men understand what their female partners really want from them in a relationship? In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses what women really prefer with some generalizations.

Discussed in the video:

  • Are the brains of women and men different?
  • What are the priorities of a woman’s life?
  • What do women expect their male partners to bring to the table?
  • What gives women a sense of security and happiness?
  • How to support women in the household and workplace?
  • What should be done by male partners to keep the relationship healthy?

 

11 March 2022: Don’t ignore these signs in your relationship! | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Every toxic person will show red flags, so understanding what they are and observing the red flags in your relationship is important In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses what are the major red flags in a relationship and partner.

Discussed in the video:

  • Are they a person of their word?
  • How do they treat people?
  • Do they treat you as an equal?
  • Is there abuse in the relationship?
  • Do they take responsibility for their actions?

4 March 2022: What are orgasms? How to have them? | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Orgasms look like a mystery to many and might be little hard to achieve at one go. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses what are orgasms, why do they happen and how to prepare for it.

Discussed in the video:

  • What are orgasms?
  • Why do orgasms happen?
  • What are the benefits of having an orgasm?
  • Where should you try for orgasms?
  • Where in your body should you expect the orgasm to happen?→ How important is having an orgasm for sexual and mental health?

Article: Expert Shares 4 Red Flags In A Relationship That You Should Be Aware Of

25 February 2022: Are you being shamed online? Here is how you can deal with it | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

People find it very easy to shame women online. But women don’t know how to deal with it all the time. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses what could be the ways to deal with the receipt of hatred on social media or any other form online.

Discussed in the video:

  • How does one understand why a person is shaming them?
  • How to analyse the basis of the offensive words?
  • How to decide what should be done about the situation?

18 February 2022: Are you being slut shamed? Here is how you can deal with it | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

People find it very easy to slut-shame women. But women don’t know how to deal with it all the time. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses what could be the ways to deal with situations involving slut shaming.

Discussed in the video:

  • How does one understand why another person is slut shaming?
  • How to analyse the basis of the offensive words?
  • How to decide what should be done about the situation?

11 February 2022: How to get aroused | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Sometimes people find it hard to get aroused. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses what could be the obstacles to get aroused during foreplay or sex and how to deal with it.

Discussed in the video:

  • Can you not feel anything while being intimate with someone?
  • How to feel your body and not be in your mind?
  • What is essential while having sex?

4 February 2022: Tips for better sexual communication | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Sex is a taboo topic and there is hardly any conversation around sexual health and experiences happening around. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses the importance of communication about sex and how can you communicate with your friends and partners regarding this topic.

Discussed in the video:

  • Why is speaking up about sex so important?
  • Whom should you start and practice talking about sex?
  • How to talk to your partner about sex?

28 January 2022: How long should sex really last? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee

There are various doubts related to what is the ideal duration of sex and how much time does it take for women to have an orgasm. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses the concepts of time required for a pleasurable sexual experience.

Discussed in the video:

  • Is penetration the only act of having sex?
  • How long does penetration last?
  • Which kind of orgasm is the easiest for vagina owners?
  • How long does an average sexual session last?
  • What is the orgasm gap or pleasure gap?
  • How long does the clitoral stimulation need to be done for an orgasm?

21 January 2021: The secret to an epic breast/nipple orgasm | ft. Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Many women get aroused and even have orgasms through breast and nipple simulation. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses the best way to massage breasts for an orgasm.

Discussed in the video:

  • How to start foreplay before arousing the breasts?
  • How to play with the nipples for an orgasm?
  • How to caress and massage the breasts for an orgasm?
  • How long does it take to reach nipple orgasm?
  • Can you play with the two nipples together?
  • Can breast simulation cause vaginal secretion?

14 January 2021: How to have better orgasms? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Most women find it difficult to achieve a strong orgasm during sex. But it doesn’t have to be this way. In this video, Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses the best tips to help you have more powerful and frequent orgasms.

Discussed in the video:

  • Do pelvic exercises help have better orgasms?
  • How to interact with yourself and understand what you feel?
  • How to figure out what ways are pleasurable for your body?
  • Is there a right way to have an orgasm?

7 January 2021: Things men love in bed | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

What do men actually like in bed? That’s a question many women don’t have an answer to. Dr. Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist discusses 5 things men love in bed.

Discussed in the video:

  • Should you be gentle with your male partner in the beginning?
  • How to deal with the phallus once it’s erected?
  • How to have fun and make sex about giving and receiving pleasure?
  • How important is overall intimacy for more sexual pleasure?
  • Is everyone different in bed?

30 December 2021: Watch this to stop having negative thoughts! | ft. Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Discussed in this video:

  • Why do bad words and behaviour stick in our minds for long?
  • Why are attracted to negative thoughts rather than positive thinking?
  • How to control the brain?
  • Why do we end up parenting ourselves as our parents did?
  • What is paralysis of the mind?
  • How can we heal ourselves from trauma?
  • How gentle should one be with themselves?

23 December 2021: Why you should stop waiting for prince/princess charming? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Discussed in this video:

  • Should you put the responsibility of your happiness onto someone else?
  • Is there one perfect person who will come into your life?
  • How to find your perfect match?
  • Is ‘better half’ a wrong word to use?
  • How to live your life at your best potential with or without a partner?

16 December 2021: Last longer in bed | Sex tips for men | Ft. Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Discussed in this video:

  • How to deal with premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation or difficulties with ejaculation?
  • How to look at your sexual difficulties from the perspective of your partner?
  • How to bring attention to your body if you cannot ejaculate?
  • Should you engage in positive talk with yourself in order to heal your sexual difficulties?

2 December 2021: What is Emotional Regulation | | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video:

  • How to use movement to regulate emotions?
  • What are passive ways to regulate emotions?
  • How to be gentle with yourself to regulate your emotions?
  • Why should you start regulating your emotions on regular basis?
  • How to let the negative emotions go from your body?
  • What is the process of letting go of negative energy from your body through breathing exercises?
  • How to engage your brain activity?
  • Can we control our brain too?

12 Nov 2021: Things to know about the clitoris | | Explains Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video:

  • What is the anatomy of the vulva?
  • How many nerves does a clit have?
  • Is the clit a button?
  • Do you need to pull the clit out of its hood?
  • How does the sensation work around the clit?
  • What is the structure of the clit?

5 Nov 2021: How to have better sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video:

  • How to get to know your own body for better sex?
  • How to know if your partner is the right one to have sex with?
  • How to have positive self-talk and attitude towards sex?
  • How to improve communication with your partner regarding sex?
  • How to acquire an attitude of life-long learning for better sex?

Article: Unable To Relax During Sex? Here Are Five Tips On How To Have Better Sex

29 Oct 2021:  Things Women Love in Bed | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video:

  • Do women like being soft and slow in bed?
  • Do women like sensuous and consistent touching in bed?
  • Do women like an indirect and non-linear approach from their partners?
  • Do women like a variety of positions to be tried in bed?

22 Oct 2021 Why women shouldn’t fake orgasms? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video:

  • Why do women fake orgasms?
  • Why women shouldn’t fake orgasms?
  • Does faking orgasms lead to real orgasms?
  • Does faking orgasms reduce your sex drive?

Article: Fake It Till You Make It. Here’s Why It Doesn’t Work For Sex

1 July 2021  Why don’t men care about female orgasm? FAQs about orgasm Part 2 with Dr. Martha Lee

Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Martha Lee answers FAQs about orgasms

  • Why don’t men care about the female orgasm?
  • Can women squirt like in porn?
  • Will sex toys help females orgasm faster?

23 June 2021: Can women orgasm every time with sex? FAQs about orgasm Part 1 with Dr. Martha Lee

Clinical Sexologist, Dr. Martha Lee answers FAQs about orgasms

  • Is orgasm a real thing?
  • How do I know for sure if I’ve had an orgasm?
  • Is penetration less enjoyable than clitoral stimulation?
  • Can women orgasm every time with sex?
  • I get orgasm with masturbation and not sex- Why?
  • Best position that can make me orgasm
  • How long should an orgasm last?

16 June 2021: Never got an orgasm with penetrative sex? | Explains Clinical Sexologist Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Discussed in this video:

  • Is it difficult for women to orgasm with penetrative sex?
  • Why don’t women orgasm with penetrative sex?
  • How can a vagina owner achieve orgasms?
  • What is a clit and clitoral orgasms?
  • What is vaginal muscles awakening?
  • How to use sex toys for masturbation?
  • What to do if your partner shames you during sex?

9 June 2021: Why do women get turned off easily during sex? | Answers Dr. Martha Tara Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video

  • Do women get turned off easily?
  • Why do people get turned off during sex?
  • How can women stay focused during sex?

2 June 2021: I can’t make my girlfriend orgasm- What should I do? | Answers Dr. Martha Lee, Clinical Sexologist

Discussed in this video

  • How can I make my girlfriend orgasm?- Asks a penis owner
  • Is it normal for my girlfriend to not masturbate?
  • What is an orgasm and how does it feel like?
  • How much time will it take for a vulva owner to orgasm with fingering?
  • How to proceed if your partner has never had an orgasm?
  • What is a clitoral orgasm and how does it work?
  • How can you locate the clitoris?
  • Important things to know if you want to make your partner orgasm

Watch the other videos in the playlist here! 

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well as Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

         
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