June Sugar & Spice Monthly Talk – Pride Month

Posted On: June 18, 2021

Date(s) - 18/06/2021
7:00 pm - 9:00 pm


The Sugar and Spice movement allows a discourse to transform conventional thinking that people raised in traditional societies are unable to express themselves with confidence and purpose when it comes to sex – preferences, attitudes, social discretion and judgement. What are the drivers that compel people to make certain choices in life that have a long lasting impact?

Perhaps it is their conservative upbringing or the fact that sex has often been a taboo topic not to be spoken of at home. We aim to impart positive messages and learning around sex, sexuality and sexual wellness. Empowering participants to listen, observe, learn and find sexual wellness by their own free will.

Throughout our events we will work together with participants to question and refine their mind-set, freeing them from any cultural measures that could have resulted in low sexual self-esteem and a fear of enjoying the pleasures of positive sexual wellness that generates happiness and overall self-positivity. Working closely with participants with care and privacy we aim to help close the gap on their lack of sexual education and positive role models regarding sexual wellness.

The online nature of our events allows participants from all over the world to connect and interact with others who may have a similar or comparable upbringing. To ensure that sessions are dynamic, interactive and helpful, speakers and facilitators are all skilful and empathetic experts in their field.

Come join us and embark on a new positive learning journey!

Date: Friday 18 June 2021

Time: 7 – 9 p.m. Singapore time

Where: Zoom


An examination of the different identities they take up as an individual that impacts their existence and activism. As a Fat Non Binary Bisexual South Asian born in Singapore, they share experiences of Fatphobia, Biphobia and of being a minority race. To drive home the fact that no one part of their identity can exist without the championing of the rest of them. Having always been activist at heart but only getting into it in their mid 30s, they delve into the challenges of coming out later in life in the public eye and coming to a place of true self acceptance.

About Aarti Olivia Dubey

Aarti Olivia Dubey is a former mental health therapist who took a leap of faith at 30 and started a plus size fashion blog known as Curves Become Her. Today, they exist both as a plus size fashion blogger and activist. Their activism spans across various intersections of their identity – from Fat Liberation to Human Rights and their Queer Identity. They have worked with local, regional and international publications, organisations, media outlets to advocate for marginalised bodies.

By definition, a proxy war is a war instigated by a major power which does not itself become involved. Growing up in a sheltered environment, they used to be ignorant and close-minded, but acknowledging their queerness helped them to open their eyes, mind and heart. Their introspection enabled their extrospection. Through this ongoing journey, they have come to learn of how the personal is political – and the lack of substantive action from the top is harming the lives of fellow LGBTQ+ folks. In this presentation, Elijah (they/them) shares about everything about and surrounding their queerness – coming out, facing discrimination, getting involved in advocacy, activism and politics, and simply being and becoming.

About Elijah Tay

Elijah Tay (they/them) is a passionate youth activist who has been involved in advocacy work since they were in secondary school. At the age of 16, they founded initiatives like @QueersOfLH and @MyQueerStorySG to uplift the voices of the LGBTQ+ community in school and in Singapore respectively. They have also shared extensively in live discussions and podcasts, such as on New Naratif’s Political Agenda, Sayoni’s webinars, SPEQ:TRUM podcast, Lesbeheard’s Instagram Live and Ferne Health’s online workshop. They believe in the importance of creating safe spaces while moving society towards becoming a safe space for all.

In My Utopia, Queer is the Default

Many of the stories we see in the media about “coming out” as LGBTQ highlight stories of people who knew very early on in their childhood that they were Queer, and thus searching for validation and support for their identity.  Some young people do have an inkling early on, but what gets left out of the narrative of queerness are folks who don’t unlearn their hetersexuality until their adult years.   In her journey of unlearning heterosexuality, Jayda shares her journey of feeling “queer enough” for the LGBTQ community, as a pansexual femme, and how our current culture of compulsory monogamy doesn’t leave enough room for many of us to explore our queerness or gender.

About Jayda Shuavarnnnasri

Jayda Shuavarnnnasri is a queer Southeast Asian sexuality & relationship educator. Also known as Sex Positive Asian Auntie, she works to liberate folks from sexual shame by creating space for authentic conversations about sexuality, relationships, identity and healing. The topics that excite her most are sexual exploration, identity, transformative justice, and non-conventional relationships.  She is also the co-producer of Don’t Say Sorry podcast, which centers the experience of Southeast Asian women navigating relationships, mental health and sexuality.

Curated by Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 12 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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