Posted On: December 13, 2011
This article first appeared on PublicHouse.sg. As a follow up to an earlier piece “Sexual Consent: When no is really no“, I would like to discuss when the act of saying no is actually a game women play; or, when no is actually a heavily coded yes. When I first read this piece “No” Means […]
Posted On: December 9, 2011
This article first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. As a sexologist in Singapore, I am interested in all news related to sex and sexuality; I’m also subscribed to the news feeds of fellow sexuality educators around the world. When I first read about the outrage of Canadian activists following the suggestion of Constable Michael […]
Posted On: June 4, 2011
I first learned about Lissa Rankin because of her work in creating and writing for Owning Pink, which is a community of women dedicated to celebrating all things feminine, successful, sexy and pleasurable. Needless to say, Rankin’s writing was insightful, funny and downright wonderful. I learned from the site that they were giving away review […]
Posted On: April 4, 2011
This article first appeared on the Good Therapy website. For the longest time, being a woman, to me, meant being: seen and not heard; expected to help, serve (for instance cook, clean, iron) and please people around me, especially the men; fertile, and being expected to bear children. expected to look good, smell nice, and […]
Posted On: March 12, 2011
This review first appeared on the Good Vibrations Magazine. Book Review: Shameless – How I Ditched the Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure… and Somehow Got Home in Time to Cook Dinner by Pamela Madsen I fell in ‘like’ with Pamela Madsen even before I heard about or read her first book Shameless. It happened […]
Posted On: January 20, 2011
This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. Gentlemen prefer blondes? All blondes are dumb? All redheads are passionate? A man is always sex-, porn- and/ or looks-obsessed? Therefore, he is expected to sow his wild oats? The gay person is promiscuous? A woman is seductive when she is slim, and that’s why every woman […]
Posted On: August 5, 2010
This article first appeared on The Online Citizen. A smile is a wonderful thing. Yet it appears that a smile can have more connotations than what is usually appreciated (on the surface) in our society. At the age of eleven, I was taught this poem when I joined the Brownies (a school uniform group similar […]
Posted On: August 1, 2010
Women have strengths that amaze men….. They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they hold happiness, love and joy. They smile when they want to scream. They sing when they want to cry. They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous. They fight for what they believe in.. They stand […]
Posted On: July 19, 2010
Killing Us Softly 3 Advertising’s Image of Women A lot of you may not know that I was a media student, and professional communicator before I became a sexologist. Hence, in my blog here, you will find me posting videos on how the media distorts reality, and objectifies women. I do so because I believe […]
Posted On: April 21, 2010
Imagine a Lover …for those seeking a man to love. Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility. Once imagined, it becomes your experience. Imagine a lover who accepts himself. A lover whose capacity to love you non-judgementally deepens as he is merciful toward himself. Imagine a lover who takes care of himself. A lover […]
Posted On: April 14, 2010
Imagine a woman who is interested in her own life. A woman who embraces her life as teacher, healer, and challenge. Who is grateful for the ordinary moments of beauty and grace. Imagine a woman who participates in her own life. A woman who meets each challenge with creativity. Who takes action on her own […]
Posted On: April 6, 2010
Imagine a woman who believes it is right and good she is a woman. A woman who honors her experience and tells her stories. Who refuses to carry the sins of others within her body and life. Imagine a woman who trusts and respects herself. A woman who listens to her needs and desires. Who […]
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