Imagine a Lover
…for those seeking a man to love.
Until you imagine something, it remains an impossibility.
Once imagined, it becomes your experience.
Imagine a lover who accepts himself.
A lover whose capacity to love you non-judgementally
deepens as he is merciful toward himself.
Imagine a lover who takes care of himself.
A lover who isn’t looking for a mother replacement.
Who participates in the everyday details of a shared life.
Imagine a lover who tells the truth.
A lover who trusts his experience and expresses it.
Who welcomes the exchange of truth with interest and respect.
Imagine a lover who acknowledges the full range of human emotion.
A lover who expresses his feelings clearly and directly.
Who witnesses your feelings with tenderness and grace.
Imagine a lover who is committed to a joyful life.
A lover who doesn’t create chronic crisis and conflict.
Who has the relationship skills to navigate challenging moments.
Imagine a lover who enjoys the moment. A lover who delights
in pleasurable sensations without a destination in mind.
Who allows your sexual intimacy to unfold spontaneously.
Imagine a lover with the depth to honor you as you age.
A lover who has moved beyond the “partner as ornament” mentality.
Who celebrates the fullness of your years, wisdom, and power.
And so it is!
Imagine a Lover (Seeking Man)© Patricia Lynn Reilly, 2003
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The version for men tomorrow!
News from Imagine a Woman International: April 2, 2010
Since 1995, the “Imagine a Woman” poem has circled the globe, inspiring books, screenplays, videos, life transitions, professional portfolios, ministries, coaching practices, relationships, virtual communities, social networks, and organizational missions. This year Imagine a Woman International is celebrating the poem’s 15th year anniversary with a new website and new programs and opportunities for personal growth and professional enhancement. You’re invited to the “Imagine a Woman” poem’s 15th Birthday Party throughout April at www.imagineAwoman.com. Invite your friends and come on over!