If you are a parent and are wondering what books are appropriate to begin initiating conversations around their sexuality, here are some resources by different age groups.
Ages 3 to 6
|Itʼs MY Body – A book to teach young children how to resist uncomfortable touch, Lory Freeman and Carol Deach
Preschool children can learn safe boundaries, how to distinguish between “good” and “bad” touches, and how to respond appropriately to unwanted touches. This is a powerful book for enhancing self-esteem. Parenting Press’s bestseller!
|Itʼs NOT the Stork! A book about girls, boys, babies, bodies, families and friends, Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
From the expert team behind IT’S PERFECTLY NORMAL and IT’S SO AMAZING! comes a book for younger children about their bodies — a resource that parents, teachers, librarians, health care providers, and clergy can use with ease and confidence.
Young children are curious about almost everything, especially their bodies. And young children are not afraid to ask questions. What makes me a girl? What makes me a boy? Why are some parts of girls’ and boys’ bodies the same and why are some parts different? How was I made? Where do babies come from? Is it true that a stork brings babies to mommies and daddies?
IT’S NOT THE STORK! helps answer these endless and perfectly normal questions that preschool, kindergarten, and early elementary school children ask about how they began. Through lively, comfortable language and sensitive, engaging artwork, Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley address readers in a reassuring way, mindful of a child’s healthy desire for straightforward information. Two irresistible cartoon characters, a curious bird and a squeamish bee, provide comic relief and give voice to the full range of emotions and reactions children may experience while learning about their amazing bodies. Vetted and approved by science, health, and child development experts, the information is up-to-date, age-appropriate, and scientifically accurate, and always aimed at helping kids feel proud, knowledgeable, and comfortable about their own bodies, about how they were born, and about the family they are part of.
|What’s the Big Secret? Laurie Krasny Brown, Ed.D. and Marc Brown
American Bookseller Pick of the Lists, 1997 Are boys and girls different on the inside? How do you tell girls and boys apart? Do girls and boys have the same feelings? Is sex a dirty word? Where do babies come from? What does being pregnant mean? How do you get a belly button? Tell me about when I was a baby…
“Mom, where do babies come from?” Many parents live in fear of the day their child asks this question?which inevitably happens, often as early as the preschool years. Here is a picture book designed especially for young children who are becoming aware of their bodies, but aren’t ready to learn about sexual intercourse. Written with warmth and honesty, Amazing You! presents clear and age-appropriate information about reproduction, birth, and the difference between girls’ and boys’ bodies. Lynne Cravath’s lighthearted illustrations enliven the text, making this a book that parents will gladly share with their young ones.
|How Was I Born, Lennart Nilsson
Ever since the publication of the magnificent third edition of A Child Is Born, Lennart Nilsson has devoted himself to retelling this magical story especially for children. How Was I Born? closely follows the experience of Mary who is nearly five and her family as they lovingly prepare to welcome a new baby. The book matches Mary’s insatiable curiosity, impatience, and concern with gentle, reassuring information. Nilsson’s spectacular photographs illustrate Mary’s actual questions: when she wonders how big the baby is, one photo shows an ant on her brother’s fingertip, opposite the exact image of her future sibling at that time. When she asks how the baby eats, the reader sees her drinking through a straw as the baby-to-be feeds through the umbilical cord. Meant to be read by a child alone or with a parent, How Was I Born? answers all the questions children ask about pregnancy and childbirth–the biological as well as the emotional ones. Perfect for children aged five and up, it is also a wonderful book of all ages.
|Look Inside Your Body, Gina Ingoglia
Geared toward young children curious about the way things work.
|Your Body Belongs To You, Cornlia Spelman
In simple, reassuring language, the author explains that a child’s body is his or her own; that it is all right for kids to decline a friendly hug or kiss, even from someone they love; and that you can still be friends even if you don’t want a hug now.
|A Touching Book:…For Little People and For Big People Jan Hindman|
|A Kid’s First Book About Sex, Joani Blank
An introduction to sexuality for young readers, discussing feelings, bodies, and developing a positive self-image.
|The Bare Naked Book, Kathy Stinson
Twenty years old and still going strong, The Bare Naked Book remains a favorite family introduction to the human body. There is nothing more ordinary and more special than the human body. After all, everybody has one, and for all the parts that are the same each comes in a different shape and size. The Bare Naked Book joyfully celebrates this wonderful ordinariness with a matter-of-fact introduction for toddlers to the parts of the body. From hair (dripping, straight, curly, and tangled) to toes (stamping, ticklish, skinny, and squishy) and the private bits in between, Kathy Stinson’s playfully simple prose identifies the parts of the body at rest and in motion. Meanwhile, the friendly realism of Heather Collins’s illustrations offers a variety of body types in familiar environments, from the bathroom to the beach.
|Human Body: Hidden World,Claude Delafosse and Gallimard Jeunesse
In Hidden World Human Body, young children will learn fascinating facts about the hidden world inside the human body and how it works!
|“Where Did I Come From”: The Facts of Life Without Any Nonsense and With Illustrations, Peter Mayle
Describes the reproductive process from intercourse to birth.
|Bellybuttons Are Navels, Mark Schoen
“Bellybuttons Are Navels” is designed for use with young children. Cheerful artwork and gentle words frame this engagingly told story of two children taking a bath. As Mary and her brother Robert splash about and play, they not only discover that boys and girls have some of the same body parts, but also that boys and girls have some distinguishing features- that have accurate names. Today, when the USA has among the highest rates of teen pregnancy, HIV and STD rates in the western world it is clear that we need to begin prevention early. “Bellybuttons Are Navels” is a tool to help assure your child becomes a sexually healthy adult. “New parents should get this as a present when their first child is born.” -Mary S. Calderone, M.D., M.P.H. “An easy, accurate introduction to anatomy to share with children.” -Booklist “…fulfills the requirement virtually all sex educators stress: It names body parts” -Redbook “…a fine resource.” -SIECUS Report
“What Makes a Baby is extraordinary! Cory is a Dr. Spock for the 21st century.”—Susie Bright
“A Truly Inclusive Way to Answer the Question ‘Where Do Babies Come From?’: The new book What Makes a Baby offers an origin story for all children, no matter what their families look like.” —The Atlantic
Geared to readers from preschool to age eight, What Makes a Baby is a book for every kind of family and every kind of kid. It is a twenty-first century children’s picture book about conception, gestation, and birth, which reflects the reality of our modern time by being inclusive of all kinds of kids, adults, and families, regardless of how many people were involved, their orientation, gender and other identity, or family composition. Just as important, the story doesn’t gender people or body parts, so most parents and families will find that it leaves room for them to educate their child without having to erase their own experience.
Written by sexuality educator Cory Silverberg, and illustrated by award-winning Canadian artist Fiona Smyth, What Makes a Baby is as fun to look at as it is useful to read.
|Mommy Laid An Egg: Or, Where Do Babies Come From? by
In this hilarious twist on one of the most difficult discussions in a child’s development, award winning author Babette Cole illustrates the one question all children are bound to ask: Where do babies come from? Mom explains that you can make babies out of gingerbread, grow them from seeds, or squeeze them out of tubes, while Dad says you can find babies under rocks. Amused by their parents’ silly answers, the children decide to set the adults straight. In a series of zany diagrams, the children show the adults exactly where babies come from. The offbeat illustrations are accompanied by a text that is short, simple, and anything but predictable. This is a funny book that will delight, entertain, and educate the entire family.
Who Has What?: All About Girls’ Bodies and Boys’ Bodies (Let’s Talk about You and Me) by Robie Harris
Young children are curious about almost everything. Asking questions is one of many ways they learn about themselves and the world around them. Now, this unique series for our youngest children provides easy-to-understand facts and answers to their delightful, thoughtful, and often nonstop questions. Launching the series is WHO HAS WHAT?, a simple story following Nellie and Gus on a family outing to the beach. Humorous illustrations, conversations between the siblings, and a clear text all reassure young kids that whether they have a girl’s body or a boy’s, their bodies are perfectly normal, healthy, and wonderful. Authoring the series is Robie H. Harris, whose nonfiction books are known as the source for addressing kids’ questions about themselves, their families, and their friends. Nadine Bernard Westcott’s accurate and entertaining illustrations offer an inviting way for children to discover straightforward, fascinating information about themselves.
|Ready, Set, Grow!: A What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Younger Girls by Lynda Madaras and Linda Davick
Ready, Set, Grow!
In her uniquely warm and funny style, Lynda wrote this entirely new book especially for younger girls to give them what they need to know to celebrate and accept the new and exciting changes that are happening to their bodies during puberty.
Illustrated with delightful drawings, Ready, Set, Grow! is the sixth book in the popular Madaras “What’s Happening to My Body?” series of growing-up books for girls and boys. Praised by parents, teachers, nurses, doctors, and especially kids, the bestselling “What’s Happening to My Body?” books for older girls and boys are on the “Best Books for Young Adults” list from the American Library Association, and have been translated into 12 languages. Over 2,000,000 copies of the “What’s Happening to My Body?” series are in print.
Ages 7 to 9+
|The Umbilical Family: Start a Loving Conversation about Adoption, Egg Donation, Step-parenting, Same Sex Families by Cate Sawyer and Adriana Avellis (illustrator)
Start a loving conversation about adoption, egg & embryo donation, step-parents, same sex couples, fostering, single parents, traditional couples, and grandparents. Together with your child explore the wonderful diversity and origin of family and love. Perfect for ages 5 – 8.
|It’s So Amazing! A book about eggs, sperm, birth, babies and families, Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
“An outstanding book. . . . Meets the needs of those in-between or curious kids who are not ready, developmentally or emotionally, for It’s Perfectly Normal.” —Booklist (starred review)
How does a baby begin? What makes a baby male or female? How is a baby born? Children have plenty of questions about reproduction and babies—and about sex and sexuality, too. It’s So Amazing! provides the answers—with fun, accurate, comic-book-style artwork and a clear, lively text that reflects the interests of children age seven and up in how things work, while giving them a healthy understanding of their bodies. Created by the author and illustrator of It’s Perfectly Normal, this forthright and funny book has been newly updated for its fifteenth anniversary.
|The Girls Body Book: Everything You Need To Know For Growing Up YOU! Kelly Dunham and Laura Tallardy
Growing up isn’t as easy as it looks. With changing emotions, friends, expectations, and bodies, some days it can seem like life is one big roller coaster ride. The Girl’s Body Book is here to help with expert advice, common sense tips, fast facts, and answers to all questions a girl might have. Topics include: From hair care to high heels, a head to toe guide to what’s happening with your changing body Dealing with your friends even when they don’t want to deal with you – and how to handle “Mean Girls” Your guide to the care and keeping of parents, teachers, brothers, and sisters Sports, music, math, art, reading: finding out what you like and learning to like who you are
|The Boyʼs Body Book: Everything You Need To Know For Growing Up YOU! Kelly Dunham and Steven Bjorkman
You have questions? We have answers to everything you need to know for growing up you!
Growing up isn’t as easy as it looks. With changing emotions, friends, expectations, and bodies, some days it can seem like life is one big roller coaster ride. The Boy’s Body Book is the #1 bestselling guide for boys, and it’s here to help with expert advice, common sense tips, fast facts, and answers to all questions a boy might have.
* From hair care to athlete’s foot, a head to toe guide to what’s happening with your changing body
|Just Because I Am: A Child’s Book of Affirmation, Lauren Murphy Payne
Young children need support and encouragement as they learn to value themselves and recognize their own worth—“not because of the things I do, not because of what I look like, not because of what I have . . . just because I am.” This book of sweet, simple affirmations for children helps them respect their bodies, acknowledge their own needs, and name their feelings. Just Because I Am invites little ones to love, accept, and feel good about themselves exactly as they are. A special section for parents, teachers, and caregivers includes activities and discussion questions to use with children
An honest and reassuring guide to puberty for elementary school children
Puberty can be an exciting?and confusing?time for children. In the follow-up to her bestselling Amazing You!, Dr. Gail Saltz navigates the curiosity and confusion that youngsters feel as they start to notice the changes their bodies undergo. She also talks about reproduction and emerging sexuality all with her renowned brand of warmth and candor. This refreshingly accessible picture book also includes an author?s note to parents
|You and Your Body, Susan Meredith, Kate Needham, and Mike Unwin
Covers anatomy, nutrition, diseases, reproduction, and human differences.
|Miles is the Boss of His Body (Safety) by Samantha Kurtzman-Counter and Abbie Schiller
The latest installment in The Mother Company’s award-winning “MILES” series, Miles Is The Boss Of His Body is a fun, engaging way to explore the potentially difficult topic of kids’ personal safety. On his 6th birthday, Miles’ excitement is dimmed when he finds himself being pinched, noogied, hugged too tight, picked up and tickled by his well-intentioned family and decides he’s had enough! When Miles decrees that he is the “Boss of his body,” his whole family expresses support and respect for his personal boundaries. In a colorful, comic-book style, young kids will laugh while learning this potentially life-saving concept that can benefit them for years to come.
|No Means No!: Teaching children about personal boundaries, respect and consent; empowering kids by respecting their choices and their right to say, ‘No!’ by Jayneen Sanders
‘No Means No!’ is a children’s picture book about an empowered little girl who has a very strong and clear voice in all issues, especially those relating to her body and personal boundaries. This book can be read to children from 3 to 9 years. It is a springboard for discussions regarding children’s choices and their rights. The ‘Note to the Reader’ at the beginning of the book and the ‘Discussion Questions’ on the final pages, guide and enhance this essential discussion. It is crucial that our children, from a very young age, are taught to have a clear, strong voice in regards to their rights — especially about their bodies. In this way, they will have the confidence to speak up when they are unhappy or feel uncomfortable in any situation. A strong, confident voice as a young child converts to a strong, confident pre-teen, teenager and adult. With the prevalence today of online and offline bullying and various forms of abuse, such as physical, emotional and sexual abuse; our young people need to learn (from a young age) to always speak up when their rights are not being respected. The aim of this book is to empower young children and to give them a voice so they can grow up into empowered adults. When a child, teenager or adult says, ‘No!’ to any form of coercion, this should be immediately respected. A world where ‘No!’ does actually mean ‘No!’ can be a world with far less violence and increased respect for humankind. By educating our children to have true respect for one another, this world can be a much safer and more positive place. Body Safety Education (aka sexual abuse prevention education) empowers girls and boys through knowledge, and teaches them they have the right to say, ‘No’ and to respect other’s personal boundaries. Both girls and boys need to learn to ask for consent and this can be taught from a very young age. Some of the scenarios in this book are typical of approaches used by sexual abusers (sexual predators/molesters/pedophiles) when grooming children for sexual abuse. Their aim is to desensitize the child to having their personal space violated and desensitize them to touch.
Ages 10 + older
|It’s Perfectly Normal! Changing bodies, growing up, sex and sexual health, Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
The definitive book about puberty and sexual health for today’s kids and teens, now fully updated for its twentieth anniversary.
For two decades, this universally acclaimed book on sexuality has been the most trusted and accessible resource for kids, parents, teachers, librarians, and anyone else who cares about the well-being of tweens and teens. Now, in honor of its anniversary, It’s Perfectly Normal has been updated with information on subjects such as safe and savvy Internet use, gender identity, emergency contraception, and more. Providing accurate and up-to-date answers to nearly every imaginable question, from conception and puberty to birth control and STDs, It’s Perfectly Normal offers young people the information they need—now more than ever—to make responsible decisions and stay healthy.
|The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Girls, Lynda Madaras with Area Madaras
Everything preteen and teen girls need to know about their changing bodies and feelings Written by an experienced educator and her daughter in a reassuring and down-to-earth style, The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Girls gives sensitive straight talk on: the body’s changing size and shape; the growth spurt; breast development; the reproductive organs; the menstrual cycle; body hair; diet and exercise; romantic and sexual feelings; and puberty in the opposite sex. It also includes information on anorexia and bulimia, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, and birth control.
Featuring detailed illustrations and real-life stories throughout, plus an introduction for parents and a helpful resource section, this bestselling growing-up guide is an essential puberty education and health book for all girls ages 10 and up.
|Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids: A Guide to Sharing Your Beliefs about Sexuality, Love, and Relationships by Amy Lang
You need to talk to your kids about sex, but have no idea where to start. This is the place. This book will provide years of answers to just about any question your kids may have. Spending a few short hours working through the engaging exercises and questions is an easy investment to make for years of open, comfortable, and give-and-take conversations. By clarifying your values and beliefs about sex, you will develop the foundation you need to tackle this tough and vitally important part of parenting. Stop fretting about doing it right and get down to what’s true for you, your family and your kids. Includes new chapters on talking about pornography, sexting and media
|Body Safety Education: A parents’ guide to protecting kids from sexual abuse by Janeen Sanders
‘Body Safety Education — A parents’ guide to protecting kids from sexual abuse’ is a step-by-step guide for parents and carers on how to protect children from sexual abuse through personal Body Safety Education. This guide contains simple, practical and age-appropriate ideas, as well as important information on how abusers groom and signs a child maybe being sexually abused. Body Safety knowledge empowers children. It goes a long way in keeping them safe from sexual abuse, and ensuring they grow up as assertive and confident teenagers and adults. There is no downside! This book is an invaluable guide for parents, caregivers, teachers and healthcare professionals to not only learn the key steps when teaching Body Safety Education (also known as protective behaviours or child sexual abuse prevention education) but to also educate themselves in the signs a child is being sexually abused, what to do if a child bravely discloses, how a predator grooms both the family and the child, valuable organizations and links, etc. In fact, 95% of sexually abused children will know their abuser and only 5% will be strangers. As noted ‘stranger danger’ is not really the issue. Pedophiles and child sex abusers are in our homes and in our families. Part of Body safety Education is teaching children that they must never keep secrets that make them feel bad or uncomfortable (in fact, we teach it’s best not to have secrets in families, only happy surprises). The trouble with secrets is that they are the main tool used by child molesters to ensure children remain silent about the abuse. Ensuring the secret is kept is of utmost importance to the perpetrator. Therefore, threats and insisting no-one will believe the child is used as a way of controlling the child to be silent. Through Body Safety Education parents and children will learn the importance of there being no secrets between us.
“What’s ‘Gay’?” Asked Mae by Brian McNaught Dave Woodford
Children often ask questions about sex that make many of us uncomfortable. And yet, they need age-appropriate, honest, meaningful answers. Brian McNaught has the perfect response to “What’s ‘Gay’?” Named the “godfather of gay diversity training” by the New York Times, Brian has traveled the world to answer such questions from adults who are asking for themselves, as much as for their children. In this book, his ninth on the subject, Brian provides a thoughtful, easy to understand answer to the often asked question, “What’s ‘Gay’?” This fun, beautiful, wise book is a perfect resource ,for parents , counselors, teachers, clergy, and anyone else who offers guidance to individuals from age 4 to infinity. Young Mae, and her cousin, Ray, find the answer to their questions from the birds that are perched in their garden. “What’s ‘Gay’?” “It’s a way to love,” said the Turtle Dove. And then, more questions need answering. The perfect illustrations of this book are by Dave Woodford, an art teacher, and private artist who collaborated with Brian McNaught, on a previous book, “Grogg is a Frog Without Polliwogs,” and on “The Witness,” magazine for the Episcopal Church.
|Sex, Puberty and All That Stuff: A Guide to Growing Up by Jacqui Bailey
A newly updated comprehensive and inclusive guide that is packed with useful information, presented in a way that teenagers will find user-friendly and appealing. Learn all about all about puberty, growth, fantasies, relationships, sex, contraceptives, abortion, giving birth as well as all things related to kissing, spots, feelings, hormones, periods, cyber safety, sexting, dating.
Checked by expert consultants and includes useful addresses and how to find out more.
‘Excellent. Informative and responsible. The best book of its kind that I’ve come across.’ Denise Robertson, Agony Aunt for This Morning
|Drawn to Sex: The Basics” by Erika Moen, Matthew Nolan
The first volume in a planned, 3-volume, sex-education series.
Erika and Matthew are ready to talk about sex!
Have you ever had a question about sex, but didn’t know who to ask? Well, Erika and Matthew have spent years learning, talking, and creating informative comics about all aspects of sex. Using comics, jokes, and frank communication, they’re here to demystify the world of sex and answer your questions—including ones you might not even know you had!
In this first book of the Drawn to Sex series, they explore the practical side of sex, from the basics of what defines sex, to barriers and testing, masturbation, and the ins-and-outs of having sex with other people.
Pick up this fun book if you’re looking to learn something new, understand sexuality better, or know someone (maybe you!) who might benefit from some judgment-free education. Erika and Matthew are here to help you out.
|What’s Going on Down There? Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask, Karen Gravelle with Nick and Chava Castro
Describes the physical and emotional changes that occur in boys (and, to a lesser extent, in girls) during puberty and discusses sexual activity, homosexuality, AIDS, and other related topics.
|Nonnie Talks about Gender, Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski and Alice M. Burroughs
Do today’s children have questions about gender? Of course! Nonnie Talks about Gender seeks to open the door to parent/child communication by addressing potentially complicated and controversial issues with sensitivity and warmth. Alice Burroughs’ lovely illustrations form the backdrop for the story of two best friend, Alex and Tamika, as their many questions about gender are answered by Alex’s grandma, Nonnie. Gender, gender roles, and gender identity are explored while reinforcing the need for respect and empathy while dealing with difference. The book is interactive. It is divided into brief chapters that allow readers to pause and consider each lesson. A parent/teacher/trusted adult guide, glossary and resources are included.
|Nonnie Talks about Puberty (Nonnie Series) (Volume 3), Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski
The Nonnie Series seeks to open the door to parent or adult/child communication by addressing potentially complicated issues with sensitivity and warmth. In Nonnie Talks about Puberty, Dr. Podgurski looks at growing up through a wide lens. Her inclusive language validates all children, regardless of gender or gender identity. Adult support is vital during puberty; children who are gender non-conforming need support as well. All children will benefit from the kindness in this book. Children who are not questioning their gender or who are cisgender (their body parts match their gender identity) will grow in empathy from these gentle lessons. Children who are gender non-conforming or gender fluid will find a safe place for learning. The Nonnie Series believes Each Person is a Person of WorthTM!
|Nonnie Talks about Pregnancy and Birth (The Nonnie Series) (Volume 4), Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski and Alice M. Burroughs
Pregnancy and birth are important parts of life; the fourth book in Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski’s Nonnie Series looks at these vital topics with honesty and care. As a birth advocate and certified childbirth educator since the 70s, Dr. Podgurski brings a lifetime of experience in pregnancy and birth; she combines knowledge with an open, honest, interactive, joyful, respectful approach to education for young people. Although the Nonnie Talks about Pregnancy and Birth is suggested for children in grades 3 – 8, parents and trusted adults should consider their young person’s curiosity, maturity, and developmental readiness for the information. Each young person is unique. The chapters can be read sequentially or as needed. Topics including anatomy and what happens during pregnancy end in two different types of births in Tamika and Alex’s families. Diverse topics like experiencing a miscarriage and fertility challenges are briefly explored. Dr. Podgurski knows children are curious, yet may not know how to start a conversation with adults. Conversely, parents and educators may not know how to begin. The power of the Nonnie Series is the message “It’s OK to talk about this together” – for adults and children!
|Nonnie Talks about Sex…& More (The Nonnie Series) (Volume 6), by Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski and Alice M. Burroughs
Adults often dread ‘The Talk’! The Nonnie Series seeks to open the door to parent or adult/child communication by addressing potentially complicated issues with sensitivity and warmth. In Nonnie Talks about Sex…& More, the subject of sexuality is explored for trusted adults and young people in an honest, inclusive way. Building on the Circles of Sexuality conceptualized by Dr. Dennis Dailey and Pam Wilson, MSW, Nonnie guides the young characters, Tamika and Alex, as they react to a sexting scandal and grow as people. Nonnie empowers her young characters and the reader as they look at the Five Circles of Holistic Sexuality: Sexual Health and Reproduction, Sensuality, Sexual Identity, Sexualization, and Intimacy. Adults and children alike will grow from the learning activities and conversation in this important book. Cutting edge topics are covered with respect and empathy. The Nonnie Series believes Each Person is a Person of WorthTM! This 6th edition to the Series models a positive, accessible path to adult/youth communication.
|Where Willy Went…: The Big Story of a Little Sperm!, by Nicholas Allan
Willy is a sperm. He lives inside Mr Browne. The trouble is, Willy is one of 300 million sperm and they all want the same prize – an egg. The egg is inside Mrs Browne, to get it, he must win a race against the other 299 million sperm. Join Willy on his quest for the ultimate prize and find out where he went …Hilariously funny, warm, endearing and totally non-threatening – this small masterpiece from Nicholas Allan presents the facts of life to young children in a unique but totally accessible way. A Godsend for any parent faced with awkward questions.
|Talk to Me First: Everything You Need to Know to Become Your Kids’ “”Go-To”” Person about Sex, by Deborah Roffman
We live in a time when kids of all ages are bombarded with age-sensitive material wherever they turn; “sexting” and bullying are on the rise at an increasingly younger age, and teen moms are “celebrified.” What is a concerned–and embarrassed–parent to do? With wit, wisdom, and savvy, Deborah Roffman translates her experiences gleaned from decades of teaching kids and parents, and as a mom, into strategies to help parents navigate this tricky terrain. Talk to Me First is for any parent who wants to become and remain the most credible and influential resource about sexuality in their children’s lives.
|From Diapers to Dating: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children – From Infancy to Middle School, by Debra W. Haffner
This widely recommended parenting guide offers a wealth of practical techniques to help you identify and communicate your own values about sexuality to your children, infants to age twelve. In this revised edition, acclaimed parenting educator Debra Haffner covers the latest research and addresses issues of timely concern, including Internet safety. The book includes:
“I believe it is up to you and your partner to decide on the messages and values you want to give your child about sexuality,” Haffner writes. “It is your right and your responsibility to share them with your child.”
|30 Days of Sex Talks for Ages 12+: Empowering Your Child with Knowledge of Sexual Intimacy (Volume 3) by Educate and Empower Kids
The most meaningful discussions you will have with your teen—made easy! This book contains downloadable, bonus content! Included with this book is a code that will allow you to download topic cards which can be printed and placed in strategic locations, such as a mirror, refrigerator or in your pocket, to remind you and your child to start talking! Written by parents and reviewed by professionals, 30 Days of Sex Talks makes it simple for you to discuss sex in the context in which it belongs; as part of a healthy relationship that also includes joy, laughter and the full range of emotion that defines human intimacy. This book includes topics like creating healthy relationships, consent, social media, pornography exposure and emotional intimacy. Each topic has bullet points and numerous questions to act as conversation starters. These will facilitate vital talks while allowing you to express your own thoughts, feelings and cultural beliefs. Teenagers generally have more mature and complicated concerns about love, sex, and relationships and how they fit together. This book is meant to help you approach these subjects and create meaningful dialogue about them. All of these topics have been thoroughly researched and will initiate an ongoing, layered dialogue that will continue into the future. As you progress through these talks, your relationship with your child will be strengthened and you will be able to discuss anything that follows as your teen grows into a healthy, knowledgeable adult.
|GIRL: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You, by Karen Rayne PhD
GIRL: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You is an inclusive growing-up guide for teen girls with information on gender and identity, dating and romance, relationships, and sex. It gives teen girls practical information that is uncensored, factual, and unbiased, and aims to help readers develop into responsible and informed adults and prepare them for healthy romantic relationships. This book also includes self-reflection questions, media resources lists, illustrations, and diary entries as additional supplemental materials. This book is unique in that it is accessible and nonjudgmental to all who self-identify as a girl.
|Breaking the Hush Factor: Ten Rules for Talking with Teenagers about Sex by Karen Rayne
“Breaking the Hush Factor is a joy to read! Dr. Karen Rayne is a trusted, expert authority on speaking with children about sex and sexuality. Her voice is caring and compassionate as she guides parents with practical tips and common sense advice for starting “the talk” and keeping them going. Parents will want to read this. Parents need to read this.”
“A powerful message to parents, straight from the heart of a mother and sexuality educator. Breaking the Hush Factor means listen more, talk less, reach out for community, and seize your golden chance to help your kids develop sexual intelligence that will last them a lifetime—perhaps even save their lives.”
– Gina Ogden, PhD, LMFT, Award-winning author of Expanding the Practice of Sex Therapy
|For Goodness Sex : Changing the Way We Talk to Teens about Sexuality, Values, and Health by Al Vernacchio
This book is really quite phenomenal, filling a much-needed niche in between the basic “birds and bees” discussion, and the point where you turn young adults out in the world to navigate everything themselves. This book is for parents who accept that their kids will have sex at some point, and want it to be a positive experience within responsible parameters, rather than something they undertake with information gleaned from friends and the internet (which both tend to offer huge amounts of misinformation along with any accurate info they may have). Even if you want your kids to wait until X point to have sex, this is a great book to read ahead of time, so you can have a bigger toolkit for knowing how to discuss particular topics with your teen. If you want to get a better sense of the author’s approach to things, do an internet search for “Vernacchio TED Talk sex metaphor” and watch the video that comes up (it overlaps with one chapter of this book). The book is very “sex positive,” meaning that he teaches that sex can be a good thing if approached responsibly, rather than being an uncomfortable or fear-based approach to sex.
|Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner
Screenwise offers an encouraging perspective on how to thoughtfully guide kids
in the digital age. Many parents and educators worry that kids are addicted, detached, or distracted because of their digital devices. Digital Citizenship expert Devorah Heitner, however, believes that technology offers huge potential to our children–if parents help them.
Screenwise helps parents recognize that the social wisdom they have gained throughout their lives is a relevant and urgently needed supplement to their kid’s digital savvy. These skills can help set kids up for a lifetime of success in a world fueled by technology.The core message of the book is that kids need mentoring, not (just) monitoring, and that kids deserve more empathy from adults about growing up in the digital age. Texting, gaming and social media are social spaces requiring social skills. The book offers advice on helping kids navigate friendship and identity issues that are common among new texters, gamers and social media users.
Screenwise is a guide to understanding what it is like for children to grow up with
Screenwise presents practical parenting “hacks”: quick ideas that you can implement today that will help you understand and relate to your digital native. The book empowers parents to recognize ways that wisdom that they have gained throughout their lives is a relevant and urgently needed supplement to their kid’s digital savvy.
Based on real-life stories from families, the latest research, and Dr. Heitner’s experience working with schools, Screenwise teaches parents what they need to know in order to raise responsible and empathetic kids in the digital age.
What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: Revised Edition by Lynda Madaras and Marcia Herman-Giddens
Everything preteen and teen boys need to know about their changing bodies and feelings
Written by an experienced educator and her daughter in a reassuring and down-to earth style, The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Boys gives sensitive straight talk on: the body’s changing size and shape; diet and exercise; the growth spurt; the reproductive organs; body hair; voice changes; romantic and sexual feelings; and puberty in the opposite sex. It also includes information on steroid abuse, acne treatment, sexually transmitted diseases, AIDS, and birth control. Featuring detailed illustrations and real-life stories throughout, plus an introduction for parents and a helpful resource section, this bestselling growing-up guide is an essential puberty education and health book for all boys ages 10 and up.
As surprising as it may be to parents, young people today are immersed in porn culture everywhere they look. Through Internet porn, gaming, social media, marketing, and advertising, kids today have a much broader view of social and sexual possibilities, which makes it difficult for them to establish appropriate expectations or to feel adequate in their own sexuality. Even more important, no one is talking to kids directly about the problem. Parents tend to convince themselves that their children are immune to cultural influences, wait until it comes up, or hope schools and pediatricians will address the issues. Educators and doctors may be able to start the conversation but it is fundamentally a parent’s job to provide information about sex and relationships early and often to help young people find their way through their social and sexual lives. Delaying the necessary but awkward conversations with their kids leaves them vulnerable. The media, marketers, and porn and gaming industries are eager to step in anywhere parents choose to hold back. Sexploitation exposes the truth to parents, kids, educators, and the medical profession about the seen and unseen influences affecting children, inspiring parents to take the role as the primary sexuality educator. With more information, parents will gain conviction to discuss and develop values, expectations, boundaries, and rules with their kids. Kids who enter their teens with accurate information and truths stand a better chance of developing an “inner compass” when it comes to sex and relationships, which sets them up for a healthy adulthood. In her comic and straightforward style, Pierce brings together the latest research with anecdotal stories shared with her by high school and college students in the thick of it. Above all else, her goal is to get people to develop more comfort around those difficult conversations so that kids gain more confidence and courage about drawing boundaries based on their own values not those put upon them.
|There’s No Place Like Home. . .for sex education by Mary Gossert
Young people’s natural questions, behaviors and curiosities around sexuality create some of life’s awkward and challenging moments for parents. Yet these opportunities invite parents to have important conversations – to share personal values, beliefs, and age-appropriate information with their children. There’s No Place Like Home
|The Girls’ Guide to Sex Education: Over 100 Honest Answers to Urgent Questions about Puberty, Relationships, and Growing Up by Michelle Hope
“If you want your girl to know and understand what healthy sexuality really and truly is, it’s up to you. The information in The Girls’ Guide to Sex Education will make all the difference for you both.”—AMY LANG, MA, Parenting & Sexuality Educator, founder of Birds & Bees & Kids®
When it comes to sex education, parents of adolescent girls often know just as little about where to start as girls themselves. Even the mention of sex education or puberty can make everyone feel uncomfortable, nervous, or insecure. In The Girls’ Guide to Sex Education, award-winning youth sex education expert Michelle Hope offers down-to-earth, supportive sex education guidance as she addresses the most pressing questions that girls have about sex, puberty, and relationships—directly and without judgment.
Honest, straightforward, and understanding, The Girls’ Guide to Sex Education includes:
The Girls’ Guide to Sex Education will arm girls with a complete understanding of their body and, as a result, will empower them to make informed, healthy decisions.
|Inside Out: Your Body is Amazing Inside and Out and Belongs Only To You by Mary Jo Podgurski
Inside Out: Your Body is Amazing Inside and Out and Belongs Only to You is an innovative approach to child abuse prevention that is body-positive, affirming, and empowering. Replacing programs that place the burden on prevention on the child, the diverse children in this interactive coloring book teach seven “big” lessons to their peers. With a focus of targeting third and fourth graders, Dr. Podgurski conducted four focus groups to ascertain content: 1. Third graders; 2. Parents of third graders; 3. Adolescent survivors of sexual and physical abuse; and 4. Adult survivors of sexual and physical abuse. Inside Out is meant to be a communication aid for trusted adults and children. Parents of little ones as young as 6 have used the book with their children; opening the door to a conversation about bodies, privacy and personhood is vital in today’s culture. Ideally each child will have a trusted adult or parent to guide them through this material. Two school districts are currently piloting the program in fourth grades. Dr. Podgurski has been honored to work with young people and families since the Seventies; Inside Out is a gift to them. The resiliency of the children she’s been privileged to serve motivates her to seek educational tools that respect diversity, honor difference, and empower youth.
|Tell Me about Sex, Grandma by Anastasia Higginbotham
Patiently forthcoming with lessons your parents redacted, this necessary conversation stresses consent, sex positivity, and the right to be curious about your body. The dialogue focuses on the dynamics of sex, rather than the mechanics, as Grandma reminds readers that sex is not marriage or reproduction, and doesn’t look the same for everyone. Instead, each person’s sexuality is their very own to discover, explore, and share if they choose.
Anastasia Higginbotham’s tell stories of children navigating trouble with their senses on alert and their souls intact. Her previous books include Divorce Is the Worst and Death Is Stupid.
|The Care and Keeping of You Journal (Revised): for Younger Girls (American Girl)by Cara Natterson
This companion to our bestselling book, The Care & Keeping of You, received its own all-new makeover! This updated interactive journal allows girls to record their moods, track their periods, and keep in touch with their overall health and well-being. Tips, quizzes, and checklists help girls understand and express what’s happening to their bodies–and their feelings about it.
|Guy Stuff: The Body Book for Boys by Cara Natterson
From the author of the bestselling Care & Keeping of You series! This book will provide you with the answers that will help you take care of yourself better, from hair care to healthy eating, bad breath to shaving, acne to voice changes, and everything in between. With tips, how-tos, and facts from a real pediatrician, it’s the perfect book to help you learn about your body’s changes.
2016 Winner of the Norma Fleck Award for Canadian Children’s Non-Fiction
A comic book for kids that includes children and families of all makeups, orientations, and gender identies, Sex Is a Funny Word is an essential resource about bodies, gender, and sexuality for children ages 8 to 10 as well as their parents and caregivers. Much more than the “facts of life” or “the birds and the bees,” Sex Is a Funny Word opens up conversations between young people and their caregivers in a way that allows adults to convey their values and beliefs while providing information about boundaries, safety, and joy.
The eagerly anticipated follow up to Lambda-nominated What Makes a Baby, from sex educator Cory Silverberg and artist Fiona Smyth, Sex Is a Funny Word reimagines “sex talk” for the twenty-first century.
|Changing Bodies – Changing Lives, (14+) Ruth Bell and others
“It seems like everyone else has the script. Everyone else knows what’s happening and I look around and say, Duh.”
Of course, the truth is that no one has the script because there is no script to follow. Chances are you’d find that almost everyone else has questions and worries a lot like yours, if you could get them to admit it. This brand-new, completely updated and revised edition of Changing Bodies, Changing Lives is full of honest, accurate, nonjudgmental information on everything teenagers need to know about today.
Am I the only one who
can’t get up the nerve to ask someone out?
Changing Bodies, Changing Lives has helped hundreds of thousands of teenagers make informed decisions about their lives, from questions about sex, love, friendship, and how your body works to dealing with problems at school and home and figuring out who you are. It’s packed with illustrations, checklists, and resources for the answers you really need. Best of all, it’s filled with the voices, poems, and cartoons from hundreds of other teenagers, who tell you what makes them feel worried, angry, confused, sexy, happy, and, yes, even excited and hopeful about their lives. (Check out the first two pages for a sample of the quotes you’ll find inside.)
Being a teenager is tough. With the information and the ideas inside this book, you’ll have what you need to make these years the best they can be.
|Body Drama – Real Girls, Real Bodies, Real Issues, Real Answers, (14+) Nancy Redd
“You’d think a Miss America swimsuit winner would feel completely confident about her body, right? Not always! So I decided to write the book I wish I’d had as a teen and in college—an honest, funny, practical, medically accurate, totally reassuring guide to how women’s bodies actually look, smell, feel, behave, and change. Alongside real-deal photographs of women just like you and me (no airbrushing, no supermodels, no kidding) you’ll find medical pictures of things you need to be able to recognize, true confessions by yours truly, and the encouragement you need to appreciate the uniqueness, strength, and beauty of your body. What are you waiting for?”—Nancy Redd
From fashion magazines to taboo Web sites, curious young women have access to tons of old wives’ tales about and thousands of airbrushed and inaccurate images of the female body—misinformation and harmful portrayals that can lead to low self-esteem, self-destructive acts, or even disturbing plastic surgery procedures. Teaming up with a leading physician specializing in adolescent health issues, Harvard graduate and former Miss Virginia Nancy Redd now offers a down-to-earth, healing, and reassuring response to those damaging myths. In Body Drama, Redd gives girls insight into the issues they’re often too ashamed to raise with a doctor or parent. She also reveals her own experiences with the culture of “American beauty,” and shows readers all the many versions of “normal.” From body hair and bras, to acne and weight issues, along with crucial issues such as the importance of a healthy self image, Body Drama is a groundbreaking book packed with informative fast facts, FYIs, how-tos, and moving personal anecdotes as well as hundreds of un-retouched photographs. A highly visual book, it’s the first of its kind for women: filled with real information and real photographs of real bodies, to celebrate all our different shapes and sizes.
Named by Glamour magazine as one of America’s top-ten college women “most likely to succeed—at anything,” Redd has spent the most recent years of her life on a mission to tackle the issues least discussed but most significant in young women’s lives. Celebrating the many versions of “normal,” and replacing seriously erroneous information with the honest, medically proven truth in a language all girls can understand, Body Drama dares to empower a new generation—with facts instead of fantasies, and the priceless gift of self-knowledge.
|GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Queer and Questioning Teens Kelly Huegel and Steven Cozza
The teen years are full of challenges.
For gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, and questioning teens, these challenges can include prejudice, discrimination, rejection, reprisals, insensitive remarks (even among friends and families) and, sometimes, violence.
But being a GLBTQ teen can also be fun and enlightening—when you are comfortable with who you are.
Kelly offers practical advice, knowing encouragement, accessible resources, and real-life testimonials from teens who’ve “been there.” Topics include coming out (the pluses and minuses), facing prejudice and pressure, getting support, navigating relationships, staying safe, making healthy choices, surviving and thriving in high school, and more.
The message throughout is strong and clear: By accepting yourself, you take charge of your own future.
Created with feedback and suggestions from individuals at PFLAG (Parents, families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), GLSEN (the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network), GLAAD (the Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation), and other organizations, this book is for any GLBTQ teen—and any straight friend, parent, teacher, counselor, youth leader, or other adult who cares and wants to understand.
|Growing Up: All About Adolescence, Body Changes and Sex, Susan Meredith
Revised and updated, this award-winning book provides practical advice to anyone aged 10 or over. Describes in an approachable and straightforward way exactly what happens in puberty – the role of hormones and the changes in the body. Sections on sex, contraception as well as on food, exercise, hygiene, drugs and HIV. (“Excellent reference book for the older child… Amusing illustrations and reassuring words of wisdom.” Practical Parenting) Paperback
|The ABC’s of LGBT+ by Ashley Mardell
The ABCs of LGBT+ is a #1 Bestselling LGBT book and is essential reading for questioning teens, teachers or parents looking for advice, or anyone who wants to learn how to talk about gender identity and sexual identity. In The ABCs of LGBT+, Ashley Mardell, a beloved blogger and YouTube star, answers many of your questions about:
lgbt and lgbt+
The trusted voice of Ashley Mardell: We are living in a post-binary world where gender fluency and awareness of gender identity and a real understanding of our LGBT family is essential. Ashley Mardell, one of the most trusted voices on YouTube, presents a detailed look at all things LGBT+ in this remarkable book. Along with in-depth definitions, personal anecdotes, helpful infographics, resources, and more; Mardell’s LGBT book is proof it does get better every day in a world where people are empowered by information and understanding. In Mardell’s own words, “This book is also for allies and LGBT+ people simply looking to pack in some extra knowledge… a critical part of acceptance. Learning about new identities broadens our understanding of humanity, heightens our empathy, and allows us different, valuable perspectives.”
|Being a Teen: Everything Teen Girls & Boys Should Know About Relationships, Sex, Love, Health, Identity & More by Jane Fonda
This thorough, concise guide offers straight talk about:
• The male and female body as it changes and matures.
Praise for Being a Teen
“A frank and candid resource for adolescents.”—People
“Being a Teen should be in the hands of every teen in the world. It is a myth-busting, fact-filled treasure full of life information all teens want and need to know.”—Christiane Northrup, M.D., New York Timesbestselling author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom
“Clear, unflinching, and nonjudgmental . . . a reliable guide to the turbulent physical and social transitions of adolescence.”—Michael Kimmel, Distinguished Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies, Stony Brook University, and author of Guyland
“Detailed, accurate and practical . . . an excellent resource.”—Paul Kivel, author of Boys Will Be Men
|Dating and Sex: A Guide for the 21st Century Teen Boy by Andrew P. Smiler by Andrew Smiler
This is a thoughtful book that covers an incredibly wide range of topics many of which often get ignored in our society. It is well written and easy to read with some good use of humor. Teens should have no problem reading it. I appreciate the holistic view Smiler takes, looking beyond just the basic steps of going on a date or having sex. The book will help teens understand the complexities of dating, relationships, sex, sexuality, and knowledge of self without bogging them down in too much detail, discussion, or dry information. The book recognizes its limits and points out when the reader may need to go to other resources for more complex issues. I’m a therapist and this book will be very useful in my practice as I work with teen boys and their parents. I highly recommend that parents also read this book, both so they can see how a teen may think about these things and to make sure they as parents are aware of and talking about the many nuances involved. All in all a great resource!
|Girls & Sex: Navigating the Complicated New Landscape by Peggy Orenstein
The author of the New York Times bestseller Cinderella Ate My Daughter offers a clear-eyed picture of the new sexual landscape girls face in the post-princess stage—high school through college—and reveals how they are negotiating it.
A generation gap has emerged between parents and their girls. Even in this age of helicopter parenting, the mothers and fathers of tomorrow’s women have little idea what their daughters are up to sexually or how they feel about it. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over seventy young women and a wide range of psychologists, academics, and experts, renowned journalist Peggy Orenstein goes where most others fear to tread, pulling back the curtain on the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important possibilities of girls’ sex lives in the modern world.
While the media has focused—often to sensational effect—on the rise of casual sex and the prevalence of rape on campus, in Girls and Sex Peggy Orenstein brings much more to the table. She examines the ways in which porn and all its sexual myths have seeped into young people’s lives; what it means to be the “the perfect slut” and why many girls scorn virginity; the complicated terrain of hookup culture and the unfortunate realities surrounding assault. In Orenstein’s hands these issues are never reduced to simplistic “truths;” rather, her powerful reporting opens up a dialogue on a potent, often silent, subtext of American life today—giving readers comprehensive and in-depth information with which to understand, and navigate, this complicated new world.
|Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon and kd diamond (illustrator)
Girl Sex 101 is a sex-ed book like no other, offering helpful info for ladies and lady-lovers of all genders and identities, playful and informative illustrations on each page, and over 100 distinct voices, plus a hot narrative that shows you how to put the info to good use!
Learn how to navigate the twists and turns of female sexuality, with special guidance from thirteen guest sex educators including Nina Hartley, Sex Nerd Sandra, Jiz Lee, Julia Serano, Reid Mihalko, and more!
Girl Sex 101 will teach you…
You’ll gain confidence to please your girl, no matter what your hands-on experience. Buckle your seat belt and get ready to ride!
Additional contributors include: Claudia Astorino, Kelly Shibari, Tobi Hill-Meyer, Tina Horn, Megan Andelloux, Ignacio Rivera, Sophia St. James, Carol Queen, Tristan Taormino, and Ducky Doolittle
Topics include: Safer Sex, STIs, Cunnilingus, Strap-on sex, Trans Women, Intersex, Sex and Disability, Gender Identity, Coming Out, Menopause, Pregnancy, Dyke Drama, Relationship Skills, Sex for Survivors, Consent, Flirting, Vibrators and Other Toys, Lesbian Identity, Bisexual and Pansexual Identity, and much more!
|Love, Sex and No Regrets for Today’s Teens by Elizabeth Clark
Teen counselor Elizabeth Clark created this book for teens as a tool for initiating discussions on sensitive topics. In her research with teens and their world, she became aware of how things have changed for teens in the last 10 years. Internet access to porn, with its emotional disconnection in sexual encounters and distorted depictions of sexuality, has lead to a whole range of disturbing consequences. Elizabeth has devised a unique approach that speaks frankly to the reader without condescension or judgement. A 19-year-old girl is the book’s narrator. She warns and educates in a style teens will read more readily than conventional self-help books. Her narrator discusses privately and openly what she has learned about attraction, feeling sexual, setting limits, abusive situations, respecting yourself, and much more.
|Queer: The Ultimate LGBT Guide for Teens by Kathy Belge, Marke Bieschke, and Christian Robinson (Illustrations)
Teen life is hard enough with all of the pressures kids face, but for teens who are LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender), it’s even harder. When do you decide to come out? To whom? Will your friends accept you? And how on earth do you meet people to date?
Queer also includes personal stories from the authors and sidebars on queer history. It’s a must-read for any teen who thinks they might be queer – or knows someone who is.
|Sex Plus: Learning, Loving, and Enjoying Your Body by Laci Green
This groundbreaking book from sex educator and YouTube phenomenon Laci Green has everything you’ve ever wanted to know about sex, sexuality, pleasure, and your body.
Let’s be honest: most of us think about sex A LOT, and we have plenty of unanswered questions: What’s the best way to talk to my partner about what I want? How do I figure out my sexuality? How do I have sex safely? What does an orgasm actually feel like?
Laci Green—a sex educator and YouTuber who’s been hailed by Time magazine as the millennial Dr. Ruth—has built a platform of millions of followers by answering sex-related questions frankly, nonjudgmentally, and hilariously.
Now Laci brings her signature style and voice to a comprehensive book about the multitude of issues and concerns that go along with sexuality: anatomy, consent, LGBTQ issues, STI and pregnancy prevention, sexual empowerment, healthy relationships, myth-busting, and more.
Sex Plus is the first book of its kind: empowering, sex-positive, and cool. Comprehensive, honest, and vetted by a range of medical experts, this book will help you take control of your sex life.
After all, knowledge is pleasure.
|This Book is Gay by James Dawson and Juno Dawson
Lesbian. Bisexual. Queer. Transgender. Straight. Curious. This book is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual preference. This book is for anyone who’s ever dared to wonder. This book is for YOU.
There’s a long-running joke that, after “coming out,” a lesbian, gay guy, bisexual, or trans person should receive a membership card and instruction manual. THIS IS THAT INSTRUCTION MANUAL. You’re welcome.
Inside you’ll find the answers to all the questions you ever wanted to ask: from sex to politics, hooking up to stereotypes, coming out and more. This candid, funny, and uncensored exploration of sexuality and what it’s like to grow up LGBT also includes real stories from people across the gender and sexual spectrums, not to mention hilarious illustrations.
You will be entertained. You will be informed. But most importantly, you will know that however you identify (or don’t) and whomever you love, you are exceptional. You matter. And so does this book.
One of The Guardian’s Best Books of the Year
“This egregious gap has now been filled to a fare-thee-well by Dawson’s book…” – Booklist (Starred)
|S.E.X., second edition: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by
Heather CorinnaThe go-to sex ed guide for teens and young adults, tackling everything you want to know about sex, from consent, safe sex, emotional health and more, from the founder of scarleteen.com.As a teen or emerging adult, dealing with all the changes going on in your life, body, and mind can be mighty overwhelming. When it comes to sex, everyone seems to have strong feelings and opinions about who you should be and what you should (shouldn’t) do. How do you decide who to listen to? Heather Corinna and Scarleteen have provided sex education and information to millions of young people, parents, and mentors since 1998; S.E.X. tackles all the big topics:
Whatever your gender or sexual identity, whether you’ve already been actively exploring your sexuality or are only just getting curious, S.E.X clearly spells out what you need and want to know–no shame, no judgement, just comprehensive and accurate info in a clear, straightforward language.
|Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and Their Allies by Ellen Bass and Kate Kaufman
Free Your Mind is the definitive practical guide for gay, lesbian, and bisexual youth — and their families, teachers, counselors and friends. For too long, gay youth have wanted to be themselves and to feel good about it, but most have been isolated, afraid, harassed, or worse. Their very existence has been ignored, whispered about, or swept under the rug.
But each day more and more lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth are standing up, speaking out, breaking down stereotypes, demanding rights and recognition — shining. In this book, young people share their joy and their pain, their hopes and fears, the formidable obstacles they have faced and overcome, and the exciting opportunities they have discovered.
Free Your Mind speaks to the basic aspects of the lives of gay, lesbian and bisexual youth: Self-Discovery; Friends and Lovers; Family; School; Spirituality; Community. Alive with the voices of more than fifty young people, rich in accurate information and positive practical advice, Free Your Mind talks about how to come out, deal with problems, make healthy choices about relationships and sex, connect with other gay youth and supportive adults, and take pride and participate in the gay and lesbian community. Free Your Mind also presents detailed guidance for adults who want to make the world safer for lesbian, gay and bisexual youth.
|Streetwise to Sex-Wise: Sexuality Education for High-Risk Youth by Steve Brown and Bill Taverner
Streetwise to Sex-Wise provides an easy to use yet comprehensive model for a basic series on human sexuality for high- risk teens. It applies a current “state-of-the-art” methodology of sexuality education to teens in non-traditional settings who often have limited academic skills and are resistant to classroom- based learning. The lessons are simple, concrete and actively involve group members in the learning process. They extend beyond mere factual information and address attitudes, values, and skills, an approach that experts find is more likely to lead to positive behavior change in young people. In addition, this manual provides background information on teaching sexuality education to high-risk teens, including profiles of the sexual health concerns of four specific high-risk populations. And finally it includes a resource section of books, audio-visuals, and other teaching tools especially appropriate for high-risk youth.
|Affirmative Psychotherapy and Counseling for Lesbians and Gay Men by Jeffrey N. Chernin and Melissa R. Johnson
Affirmative Psychotherapy and Counseling for Lesbians and Gay Men offers a broad base of research, practice, and advocacy information about the special counseling needs of gays and lesbians. Authors Jeffrey N. Chernin and Melissa R. Johnson discuss universal themes as they apply to lesbian and gay clients, as well as issues unique to lesbians and gay men, including the treatment of same-sex couples and families, ethnic minority issues, and living with HIV/AIDS. They present sensible information on how to provide a safe therapeutic environment and how to interpret and apply psychological assessments.
|Deal with It! A Whole New Approach to Your Body, Brain, and Life as a gURL by Esther Drill, Rebecca Odes and, Heather McDonald
Deal With It! offers a whole new approach for dealing with your life as a girl. It’s a resource to help you learn about, laugh about, and figure out the stuff you go through on your way through life. It won’t tell you what to do, because you’ll need to decide that for yourself. But whether you’re wondering about your body, your feelings or your changing relationships with the people around you, this book provides accurate information and outlines your options. Hilarious illustrations point out the humor in even the sorriest situations. And with hundreds of excerpts from real-girl conversations on the gURL.com website, you can see for real that whatever you’re going through, you’re not alone.
|Cyber Rules: What You Really Need to Know About the Internet by Joanie Farley-Gillispie and Jayne Gackenbach
The Internet socializes people in new ways, encouraging the development of innovative approaches to communication and online identity. As new technology and media emerge, cyber behaviors will continue to affect us, our relationships, our communities, and the world, both on- and offline.
Timeless issues such as depression, fear, loneliness, addiction, and sexuality so visible in our everyday lives are being transferred and transformed online. How do today’s therapists, parents, and educators negotiate the online and wireless world? We can’t assume that traditional theories of human development, learning, and psychology can just be uploaded to cyber space and still be useful. This is especially true when it comes to children and adolescents. They personify what makes the Internet so exciting and confusing: it is young, constantly changing, pushing boundaries, and rejecting the status quo.
Cyber Rules is a practical and comprehensive look at how the Internet is changing us. Making sense of the social, psychological, and global impact of the Internet and its associated technology and media can be overwhelming. Joanie Farley Gillispie and Jayne Gackenbach show you how to make sense of it for yourself and those you love. Filled with sound research, personal stories, creative exercises, and advice, Cyber Rules is one way to get it about the Internet.
Gillispie and Gackenbach begin the book by discussing how Internet communication affects identity. The Internet presents a broad range of new definitions that challenge traditional ways of thinking about how we see ourselves. Chat lines, discussion boards, and role-playing games present opportunities to try on alternate selves and craft a personality (or many different personas). What does all this mean in terms of identity formation and development, especially in regards to children? The Internet facilitates both connection and disconnection, increased attention and impulsivity. How children are actually using media is explained, along with effective discipline methods as it relates to children’s media use.
Next, the authors take the reader into the world of online relationships. The unique characteristics and challenges of finding love and establishing relationships online are presented. Cyber sex is considered as both a purely online phenomenon, and as an extension of offline sexuality, particularly in relation to adolescents and their developing sexuality. Video games, which facilitate a new kind of online relationships among gamers, are examined. The authors also explore health online, focusing on how to find the most accurate health information online and appropriate psychological treatment in cyberspace.
Cyber Rules is intended for use by clinicians, educators, and parents, as all three of these groups grapple with cyber issues. It is packed with practical advice, as well as quizzes and exercises that let the reader absorb and apply what has been learned. Readers are encouraged to solve the cyber problems presented in clinical vignettes by imagining themselves as the clinician, educator, or parent who must decide whether the cyber behavior under discussion is healthy, and why. Questionnaires assess knowledge and measure use patterns, while personal stories offer examples of real-life applications of the theoretical issues discussed. Interactive exercises require the reader to conceptualize ways to organize thinking about what’s happening online, while testing knowledge of and challenging assumptions about cyber space.
For those who want and need to understand the power of today’s Internet culture, Cyber Rules is essential reading.
|Virgin Sex for Girls: A No-regrets Guide to Safe and Healthy Sex by Darcy Luadzers
90% of girls under the age of 16 regret their first sexual experience. Because losing your virginity is a taboo subject in many families and schools, you could be lacking the real sex education and guidance that will help you decide if you are truly physically and emotionally ready–and how to say no if you aren’t.
Get the real story on:
Virgin Sex for Girls features more than 40 true stories from teens and adults about their first experiences–the physical, emotional, and social consequences of having (and not having) sex. This girl’s guide to safe and healthy sex uncovers the real truths on how to have sex without getting hurt–the first time and every time.
“This is the real talk about sex, beyond the talk from your mom and dad, or the talk your friends gave you. It’s the truth from a real, live sex therapist. I wrote this book for YOU.”
|Virgin Sex for Guys: A No-regrets Guide to Safe and Healthy Sex by Darcy Luadzers
Even guys have second thoughts about having sex. Whether you are concerned about getting a STD, your religious values, or what your partner will say about you afterwards, Virgin Sex for Guys teaches you the physical, emotional, and social consequences of having (and not having) sex. This guy’s guide to safe and healthy sex uncovers the real truths on how to have sex without getting hurt–the first time and every time.
Get the real story on:
“This is the real talk about sex, beyond the talk from your mom and dad, or the talk your friends gave you. It’s the truth from a real, live sex therapist. I wrote this book for YOU.”
|The Real Truth About Teens and Sex: From Hooking Up to Friends with Benefits — What Teens Are Thinking, Doing, andTalking About, and How to Help Them Make Smart Choices by Sabrina Weill
The former editor-in-chief of Seventeen magazine draws on hundreds of letters, e-mails, interviews, and a nationwide survey to provide a revealing look at teens and sex, covering such topics as virginity, celibacy, the role of the media, birth control, sexually transmitted diseases, peer pressure, sex education, and the latest trends.
Parents + caregivers
|So Sexy So Soon – The New Sexualized Childhood and What Parents Can Do to Protect Their Kids, Diane Levin and Jean Kilbourne. How to deal with all that sexy stuff coming at our kids.
Risqué Halloween costumes for young girls. T-shirts that boast “Chick Magnet” for toddler boys. Sexy content on almost every television channel, as well as in movies and video games. Popular culture and technology inundate our boys and girls with an onslaught of graphic sexual messages at earlier ages than ever before. Without the emotional sophistication to understand what they are doing and seeing, kids are getting into increasing trouble emotionally and socially. Parents are left shaking their heads, wondering: How did this happen? What can we do?
Diane E. Levin, Ph.D., and Jean Kilbourne, Ed.D., internationally recognized experts in, respectively, early childhood development and the impact of the media on children and teens, offer parents essential, age-appropriate strategies to counter the assault. Filled with savvy suggestions, helpful sample dialogues, and poignant stories from families dealing with these issues, So Sexy So Soon provides parents with the information, skills, and confidence they need to discuss sensitive topics openly and effectively–so their kids can just be kids.
|Protecting the Gift, Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane), Gavin De Becker. One of the best sexual abuse prevention books ever written.
Safety skills for children outside the home
Warning signs of sexual abuse
How to screen baby-sitters and choose schools
Strategies for keeping teenagers safe from violenceAll parents face the same challenges when it comes to their children’s safety: whom to trust, whom to distrust, what to believe, what to doubt, what to fear, and what not to fear. In this empowering book, Gavin de Becker, the nation’s leading expert on predicting violent behavior and author of the monumental bestseller The Gift of Fear, offers practical new steps to enhance children’s safety at every age level, giving you the tools you need to allow your kids freedom without losing sleep yourself. With daring and compassion, he shatters the widely held myths about danger and safety and helps parents find some certainty about life’s highest-stakes questions:How can I know a baby-sitter won’t turn out to be someone who harms my child? (see page 103)
What should I ask child-care professionals when I interview them? (see page 137)
What’s the best way to prepare my child for walking to school alone? (see page 91)
How can my child be safer at school? (see page 175)
How can I spot sexual predators? (see page 148)
What should I do if my child is lost in public? (see page 86)
How can I teach my child about risk without causing too much fear? (see page 98)
What must my teenage daughter know in order to be safe? (see page 191)
What must my teenage son know in order to be safe? (see page 218)
And finally, in the face of all these questions, how can I reduce the worrying? (see page 56)
|100 Questions You’d Never Ask Your Parents: Straight Answers to Teens’ Questions About Sex, Sexuality, and Health by Elizabeth Henderson and Nancy Armstrong
Teens have questions about sex. This simple manual answers their questions–honestly, simply, and reliably.
What does an orgasm feel like?
Does masturbating have any long-term negative effects?
Does alcohol kill brain cells?
Teens have questions about sex; it’s a matter of who they ask and how reliable the answers are. Collected directly from teens and presented in a simple and accessible Q&A format, Elisabeth Henderson and Dr. Nancy Armstrong’s 100 QUESTIONS YOU’D NEVER ASK YOUR PARENTS provides information about sex, drug, body, and mood in a way that’s honest, nonjudgmental, and responsible
|Spare Me ‘The Talk’!: A Girl’s Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Growing Up by Jo Langford
If you have a teenage girl, there’s a 50 percent chance she’s already sexually active and a 33 percent chance she’s been solicited by an online predator in the past year. How prepared is she for the risks and realities of sex?
You hold in your hands a comprehensive crash course for girls into staying safe ― emotionally, mentally, and physically ― while navigating the danger-laden worlds of teenage sex and sexuality in a digital age. This book is the first of its kind for girls and young women ages 12-24, and for parents of girls as young as 8.
Your teen will learn proven, effective ways to:
In language that’s relatable, unflinchingly honest (and often funny), veteran sex educator Langford offers a powerful supplement to those notoriously awkward parent-daughter sex talks, answering the tough questions that teenage girls really have ― but would rather die than ask.
Jo Langford is a certified counselor and sex educator who for two decades has provided outreach programs in high schools, residential medical, and psychiatric settings. He is the author of Spare Me the Talk: A Guy’s Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Growing Up, a Sex Offender Treatment Provider and adjunct faculty for Saybrook University’s Washington campus. He can be reached at beheroes.net.
|Spare Me ‘The Talk’!: A Guy’s Guide to Sex, Relationships, and Growing Up by Jo Langford
If you have a teenage boy, there’s a 50 percent chance that he’s already sexually active, and a 33 percent chance that he’s been solicited by an online predator in the past year. How prepared is he for the risks and realities of sex?
Unflinchingly honest, unfailingly complete, immensely readable (and often funny), Spare Me ‘The Talk’! is the first book of its kind by a guy, for guys ages 12-24, and for parents of boys as young as 8.
With real-world stats and tips for both parents and their sons, this is not the typical, “what’s happening down there?” book with a blue cover instead of a pink one. It’s a comprehensive crash course for boys on staying safe ― emotionally, mentally, and physically ― while navigating the danger-laden worlds of teenage sex and sexuality in a digital age.
Your teen will learn proven, effective ways to:
Avoid pregnancy, and HIV and other sexually transmitted infections
|The TALK – What your kids need to hear from you about sex, Sharon Maxwell, Ph.D.
View our feature on Sharon Maxwell’s The Talk.
A groundbreaking resource to help jump start an ongoing discussion between parents and teens about sex and sexuality Internet chat rooms, boy/girl sleepovers, reality TV . . . there’s more to “the talk” than ever before. Faced with a culture that pushes our kids to be “sexy” before puberty begins, how do we explain the power of sexuality in a way that promotes healthy, age-appropriate behavior?
The Talk is a breakthrough resource for parents and educators that prepares kids for a hypersexualized world and lays the foundation for ethical sexual behavior that can guide our children from elementary school through college.
Using real-life situations, Dr. Sharon Maxwell demonstrates how dramatically the world of preteen and teen sexual exploration has changed. She helps parents think through the message they want to give to their kids about sexual behavior, and how that message must evolve as their kids get older. Focusing on the importance of love and intimacy, Dr. Maxwell helps parents define their values about sex and gives concrete ways to share those values with teens.
The Talk shows parents how to:
Dr. Maxwell connects the dots between reproduction, the potent power of sexiness, sexual desire, emotional intimacy, and the spiritual dimension of sexuality. Offering an innovative framework for looking at human sexuality, this book has the potential to change the national conversation on sex education.
|Let’s Talk About S-E-X: A Guide for Kids 9 to 12 and Their Parents by Sam Gitchel and Lorri Foster
First created by Planned Parenthood/Mar Monte in the late 1980’s, this well loved, updated guide insures that children will be given accurate, age-appropriate information about sex. This read-together book helps to begin an open dialogue in the family.
Parents and educators will find discussions of feelings, respecting oneself and others, what’s normal, making sense of love and sex, and helpful advice. The book is filled with sound information, illustrations and diagrams, appropriate body terminology, information on STDs and more. Here, the changes all preteens go through are explaned in a simple, straight-forward manner.
In the Parent’s Guide (in the back of the book) is the information on how approach the BIG TALK in a way that is comfortable and positive.
|How to Talk to Your Child About Sex: It’s Best to Start Early, but It’s Never Too Late — A Step-by-Step Guide for Every Age by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre
Linda and Richard Eyre stress that it’s never too soon-or too late-to start discussing sex and values with your children, and they’ve got proven strategies to make it easier. For parents who want to go beyond the birds and the bees talk, How to Talk to Your Child About Sex provides thoughtful, clear, specific guidance on when and, most important, how to help children begin to learn and understand sex, love, and commitment from the most positive viewpoint possible.
Preliminary “as needed” talks with three-to eight-year-olds
|How and When to Tell Your Kids about Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character (God’s Design for Sex) by Stan Jones and Brenna Jones
Stan and Brenna Jones help parents establish a biblical view of sexuality in their homes. Building on a biblical foundation, they discuss how to talk with your children about sexual issues and when it’s appropriate to tell them what. With stark honesty and practical suggestions, they address
|Sex and Sensibility: The Thinking Parent’s Guide to Talking Sense About Sex by Deborah M. Roffman
With a rare directness and clarity about sex and reproduction, sexual values, and cultural influences on sexuality, Deborah Roffman challenges and teaches readers how to develop a blueprint for opening the lines of communication with children of all ages. Sex and Sensibility introduces the five core parenting skills that parents need to confidently interpret and comfortably respond to virtually any question a child might pose or any situation that arises. Powerfully instructive and thought provoking, it should be required reading for parents; it will inspire honest talk about sex and sexuality, helping all of us be better parents for the effort.
|What’s Going on Down There?: A Boy’s Guide to Growing Up by Karen Gravelle
With 150,000 copies sold, this appealingly illustrated guidebook to puberty–now updated with brand new content relevant to today’s kids–is the perfect companion for boys and parents preparing for this important milestone. Written in consultation with preteen boys, this guide offers a supportive, practical approach, providing clear and sensitive answers to common issues–from what physical changes you might experience, to what puberty is like for girls, to how to handle the sexual feelings you may be starting to experience.
This revised edition features new sections on:
Complete with funny and informative interior illustrations, What’s Going on Down There? will give boys the facts they need to feel confident about this new phase of their lives.
|The What’s Happening to My Body? Book for Boys: A Growing-Up Guide for Parents and Sons by Lynda Madaras, Area Madaras and Dane Saavedra
Discusses the changes that take place in a boy’s body during puberty, including information on the body’s changing size and shape, the growth spurt, reproductive organs, pubic hair, beards, pimples, voice changes, wet dreams, and puberty in girls.
|How to Talk with Teens About Love, Relationships, & S-E-X: A Guide for Parents by Miron Ph.D., Charles D. and Miron M.S., Amy G.
Many parents find it difficult, even impossible to talk with their kids about love, relationships, and especially sex.
But the real choice parents face is not if their kids will learn about these topics, but how they will learn and who will do the teaching
This candid guide covers everything you might ever want to discuss with your teen about intimacy and sex.
In more than two decades of working with parents and teens, authors Amy and Charles Miron have heard and discussed it all—from the things your kids probably have heard about to the things you probably haven’t.
Openly, comfortably, without mincing words, they share their expertise so you can be the expert your kids come to for answers.
There’s no “right” way to teach teens about love, relationships, and sex. That’s why the Mirons encourage you to personalize your home education program to your child’s needs, your family values, and your comfort level (it does get easier).
How you use the information in this book is up to you. What you talk about or don’t is your decision.
But with this book close at hand, you’ll always have a place to turn, strategies to try, ideas for what to say, and guidance for meeting one of the biggest challenges parents face: communicating openly, honestly, and appropriately about these life-shaping, life-changing topics.
|The Secret Lives of Teen Girls: What Your Mother Wouldn’t Talk about but Your Daughter Needs to Know by Resh MPH CNM, Evelyn
In The Secret Lives of Teen Girls, Evelyn Resh, the mother of a teenage daughter and a certified nurse-midwife specializing in the treatment of teenage girls, explores the mysterious world of female, adolescent sexuality and how parents—especially mothers—can help their daughters through this tumultuous time.Secrets divulged by teenage girls during consultation have made Resh realize that, with rare exception, most adolescents are left to develop a sexual identity without any adult guidance and often without the most basic knowledge of what is happening to them physically and emotionally. She also realized that many girls are frequently subject to criticism and shaming about their normal, adolescent behavior. Resh believes these issues are what underlie many of the problems teens face during this crucial step into becoming a fully developed adult woman capable of making good, sound, safe, and independent decisions throughout life. Through compelling, frank, and sometimes humorous stories from both Resh and her patients, The Secret Lives of Teenage Girls explains to parents just want is going on with their teenage daughters during this essential phase of their development. She discusses many of the complicated problems she’s seen in practice, including not just sexual activity but also eating disorders, substance abuse, mental illness, unplanned pregnancies, violence, and STDs. She also looks at less serious but still troubling issues like under-achievement, battles with parents, and lack of emotional and social support. In this insightful book, Resh provides parents with the tools to help their teen daughters negotiate the waters of their sexual development and emerge with their strength, their sexuality, and their self image intact.
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than nine years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network. She has published three books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga and From Princess to Queen.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.