Infographic: What “Rape Culture” Means

Posted On: October 23, 2017

In case you were still wondering about the trending Twitter hashtag #MeToo that happened in Oct 2017, men and women were speaking up to show the world just how common sexual harassment and sexual assault are. It started with a tweet from actress Alyssa Milan. More here.

Sexual assault victims in Singapore felt empowered to speak up. You can read the Channel NewsAsia report here.

Just to be clear, empowerment is not about speaking up only. It is about taking back your power to do what is right for you speaking up or not. It’s not about making those who wish to remain silent to feel bad.

I read about men asking if there was a space for them to report their sexual harassment and sexual assault. I read about men asking other men to stay silent and hold space for women. Depending on which angle you were looking at it, it can all become quite confusing not empowering. I didn’t like all the talk about us vs. them. I don’t see how hating or blaming men will resolve anything.

Take responsibility. Learn. Get healed. Let go of pain.


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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee decided to take it upon herself to right this societal injustice in 2007. She set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality, then launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and is currently pursuing her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling. In practice for more than seven years, she is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network. She has published two books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, and Orgasmic Yoga.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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