One FB Picture. Close to 1,500 Shares!
And it’s not even work-related.
It’s a picture I snapped because I was shocked.
I was so affected I asked two people what they thought about it before posting it on my personal Facebook wall.
One is Japanese and said, “This won’t happen in Japan”.
That part didn’t get printed in Straits Times
(our national newspaper in Singapore if you didn’t know).
I next wrote to the building management at The Marina One Heart.
This is the picture:
The shares climbed to about 800 shares within the next 24 hours (I think – and it is now closer to 1,500).
In less than 24 hours, a Straits Times journalist contacted me for an interview, but I didn’t actually revert in time before the story was filed.
I am happy with the resulting article + outcome though.
Read the Straits Times article here.
I’ve sharing this piece of national fame because of a few take-away points for all of us:
1) Do vs. wait – As mentioned, I took the picture, posted it, wrote to the building management.
Rather than wait for somebody else to do something about this, to fix, to save the day…. sometimes in life, you’re it!
You have to save the world. You have to save the day for yourself. You’re your own superhero.
2) Do what’s right – I’m not sure the previous me (before being a Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist) would have done anything.
I didn’t become the doer I am today overnight. I’ve been living by the mantra of “Do what you say, say what you do” and holding myself to the highest integrity and standard for years.
When the time came, I had to do what was right – period.
3) Do it anyway – Did I pause and wonder whether I should even bother taking the picture, asking my friends for their opinions, posting on my Facebook wall, and writing to the building management?
Yes! It’s natural to question yourself – about relevancy, effectiveness, constraints you already have, but I had to do something
(for me – not even to prove anything to anybody, not even if nothing came from it – see 2).
And of course, there were all these shares because people care.
We are not that different – we don’t like discrimination, racism, and inflicting pain on others.
The world is a little better because of one picture.
Oh yes, and never ever give up on life, people, and always, always have hope.
That’s the whole premise of my work.
I don’t give up. I always have hope.
I do what I do. I do what’s right. I do it anyway.
What about you?
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and completed her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in 2017. In practice for eight years, she is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network. She has published three books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga and From Princess to Queen.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.