You Know When You Know…

Posted On: August 4, 2019

How do you know the difference between…
sharing how you feel AND complaining?
setting boundaries because you are taking care of yourself AND being controlling?
going through a phase when you need to rest AND are depressed?
being a difficult person because you won’t do what others want to you to AND simply older and wiser?

I’ve had people mess with my head many times.
They try to tell me how to think, what to feel, and of course, what to do…
They try to manipulate me into doing things their way.
Coincidentally (or not), it is something that is aligned with their own agenda…
Make me buy something…
Sign up for something…
Help them with something… usually for free…

If there’s something I’ve spent a lot of time doing… that is getting to know myself.
To know yourself… you need to be comfortable to be alone…
Then listen to your inner voice, dialogue with, and journey with yourself.

To have such a deep relationship with yourself…
is to love spending time with you..
is to fall in love with you..
is to love you.

When you truly know and love you,
you no longer put up with negative behaviour and people in your life.
You no longer spend time doubting, second-guessing or even defending yourself.
You simply know your inner truth… and that is enough.

If you need support learning
how to listen to yourself,
how to take care of yourself,
how to love yourself,
how to relate with others

Check out my services here.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ― Anais Nin

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.


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