Love Even Though It Will End Anyway

Posted On: February 20, 2020

When I was younger, I didn’t like endings – play time, be a movie, book, drama series (30+ episodes). I would cry at the end of TV shows because it was so good and I enjoyed it so much – why did it have to end? Later as I grew older and understood that everything had to have an end, I would grief what is to come way before it was going to happen!

When I attended my first week-long sexuality training more than 10 years ago, I got so close to the group in so short a time that I cried uncontrollable and for a long time at the parting. In fact, I was amazed how others didn’t feel to the intensity I did after the processes we went through.

It was so emotionally heart wrenching for me that over time, I would psych myself up for the reality of partings before I even met people involved in such intense process by not allowing myself to get too close to the entire group but only selective people. We’re going to be at opposite ends of the world anyway; keep to the learning; and move right on, I would tell myself.

Because I feel so deeply, I was afraid to let people into my heart for fear of getting sad/ hurt. Over time, I realised I was short-changing myself and the world by not letting people into my heart, and loving them the way they deserve. I’ve learned many emotional releasing techniques over the time and they have supported me to let go of overwhelm, and negative emotions.

Since I can heal myself, and since I let go of whatever comes (good or “bad”), I do not need to be or stay afraid – instead I can just love. This is why I created my free online program Clean & Clear to support you in your own healing journey. Get it here. You can always unsubscribe at any point.

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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