Soulmate Relationships Aren’t All Meant to be Happily Ever After

Posted On: February 13, 2020

Recalling from years ago… my marriage was on the rocks.

Psychic: “… You have to leave him or you will lose everything including everything you worked so hard for (aka my practice). In the end… he will still be unfaithful to you… you will lose your mind… leave him. You have to leave him by this year…. Don’t bring this to next year.”

Me: “What about him? Who will take care of him?”

Psychic: (I could energetically sense her rolling her eyes as she said this) “Somebody else will take care of him… He will find somebody else.”

And herein lies the problem with people who stay in toxic relationships: they tend to be naturally loving and giving people (and targeted for this trait). In their need to be needed or need to give, they worry more about the wellbeing and future of the toxic person than for themselves.

As her words sunk in, it dawned on me that I was disposable: “If not me, somebody else” (my own interpretation). I realised I was standing in his way to his next willing victim, and I had to leave to save my sanity, practice, and soul.

We were soulmates. We had a psychic connection, but it was still toxic. I was increasingly as negative and depressed as he was constantly. Using my heart not my head wasn’t working out for me in this life. He was psychological abusive, unwilling and determined to never change or grow.

I didn’t leave because of what the psychic said. I left because I knew I had to.

Leaving him broke my heart – but saved my life.

#lifeislikethat #cannotmakethisup #toxicrelationships

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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