Yesterday I posted that I went for Covid vaccine (1st of 2 jabs).
Today, I got some sex educator posting the comment “Experimental Biological Agent” on my IG wall
(which has since been deleted – not by me).
It hurt.
I explained that I work with cancer survivors who cannot get vaccinated due to their treatments.
I also work with people with disabilities and I do not wish for any of my clients to get the virus from me.
In an ideal world, none of us need to even think about vaccines.
(paraphrasing from memory).
In case you didn’t know…
people undergoing cancer CANNOT get vaccinated
people who STILL have cancer CANNOT get vaccinated
(and I won’t claim to know who else cannot get vaccinated)
and I work directly with people with cancer and/ or going treatments.
I do relationship and sexuality counseling for cancer survivors,
people with disabilities AND their parents
AND many other types of clients.
Supporting people with cancer IS a very important part of my work,
because my mom battled breast cancer (and died from it).
For me, supporting people (with cancer or otherwise) IS a privilege
and one which I take extremely seriously.
Why did I need to explain? I didn’t need to – that person was putting their ignorance and stupidity onto me.
I was so hurt
(even though yeah, yeah, yeah I shouldn’t be hurt, shouldn’t care, but I did).
To be honest, getting vaccinated IS a sore point for me. I would not choose to get vaccinated IF NOT FOR MY WORK.
But because of my work, it wasn’t even a question.
It was the right thing to do.
I did not need this “friend” to post thoughtless 1 sec comment
like “Experimental Biological Agent” on my IG wall.
I wasn’t asking for their opinion.
By the time, this person decided to shit on my IG wall –
I already got it done, didn’t need to feel worse than I already felt.
Whether one get vaccinates is THEIR choice.
It’s so funny that as 40+ year old,
people STILL think they have a right to tell ME what do with my body.
Before getting vaccinated,
friends were telling me, “don’t do it”, “people die” etc.
I wasn’t ASKING for your opinion.
If I was asking, I would tell you.
I was telling you I was going to it, and then I did it.
So please, just shut up if you have nothing good to say to people
– about vaccines or otherwise.
Really.
Your flippant remarks/ comments HURT others more than the jab ever will.
Whether you get vaccinated is your choice.
You need to be prepared to live with the consequences.
This is also an invite to think before you open to speak.
#covid #vaccinecovid19 #coronavirus
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
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