I was eating dinner with Dad at our regular Japanese restaurant and again served two slices of orange that came with the set meal tonight. Towards the end of my meal, I contemplated whether to skip my orange (again) and pass them to Dad. Instead I decided to be good and eat my fruit.
As I bit into my orange and asked myself why I don’t like the citrus taste of orange anymore, I suddenly remembered all the times when I was a kid and how Dad would cut up either an apple or orange for us. I remember watching him skillfully cut up and serve us fruits day in and out, year in and out. A fruit after every meal is a regular part of my growing up memories.
Not everybody has a dad who cut them fruits after every meal. Back then, I didn’t know. I thought about the thousands and millions of acts of service my parents did for me but the time I reached adulthood.
Not everybody has a dad who reads Reader’s Digest monthly or the newspapers daily either. My love for reading, learning and the English language came from my parents. My honesty, work ethic, integrity and desire to help people came from them too.
I feel so grateful to still have my dad with me. I had so much to say to him and so many things to thank him for, but instead I turned to him and asked him as he was eating his dinner, “Is it nice?”
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
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