Personal Story: “I am reminded anew of the need for empathy”

Posted On: August 3, 2022

10 digital files with name made of alphabets and numbersYesterday I decided on a whim to use the wet wipe in my hand to clean my keyboard with my laptop still on. Not long after, I realised half my keyboard wasn’t working as it should. I was given troubleshooting advice which failed.

I scolded myself for giving away my one external keyboard thinking I wouldn’t need it when I moved office. I tried to do what I could with my laptop but as evident in the image here… I couldn’t name my new video recordings properly. It felt futile to even try to work.

Because I couldn’t work as I usually did, I felt this sense of nagging sensation, irritation and displacement throughout the day. I was tired, restless, and unsure what to do with myself. Exaggerated as it sounds, it felt like the world wasn’t the same and didn’t make sense anymore.

I thought of people who have a hard time navigating through life, people I work with illness and people with disability, and people being displaced by natural disasters and war. When they’ve described how everything seemed more difficult than other people, things being always difficult, things being always out of reach for them… I could empathise to an extent but after yesterday, I am reminded anew from all this how this felt in my body and a small glimpse of how it might feel for others.

The good news is my friend Elmer Tan has helped fix my keyboard and I’m so grateful for his friendship.

Technology enables and through technology, I  support my clients, generate content, and continue to try to reach out to more people.

P.S. I’ve been reminded not to have any water source around my laptop. One of my laptops died when I spilled water on my keyboard. Consider yourself reminded too.

(Image description: 10 digital files with names made of alphabets and numbers)

(Written: 2 April 2022)

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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