Become a Patron!✨ What an absolute blast! I had so much fun being on this podcast episode, diving into one of those taboo-but-essential conversations that too often get swept under the carpet: women’s pleasure.
Did you know that 3 out of 4 women do not climax during sex? In this episode (sponsored by Durex), we unpacked why that happens, the cultural and relational factors behind it, and of course, the age-old phenomenon of faking orgasms. We also got to nerd out a little on the differences in anatomy between women and men — and why those differences matter when it comes to intimacy.
It wasn’t just serious talk either — there were plenty of laughs, real stories, and moments of honesty that made the conversation so refreshing. Personally, I loved being able to bring in both my clinical perspective and my playful side. Conversations like these remind me why I do this work — because pleasure, confidence, and connection should be available to everyone.
And yes, we also explored how products like Durex Mutual Climax can play a role in bridging the “orgasm gap” by supporting couples to enjoy intimacy more fully. You can find it at your nearest pharmacy if you’d like to give it a try.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Master’s in Counseling, she founded Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualized and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples in unconsummated marriages, individuals with sexual inhibitions or desire discrepancies, men facing erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. She welcomes people of all sexual orientations and offers both online and in-person consultations in English and Mandarin.
Dr. Lee is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region since 2011, and became an AASECT-certified sexuality educator supervisor in 2018. Her fun, educational, and sex-positive approach has been featured in international media including Huffington Post, Newsweek, and South China Morning Post. She currently serves as Resident Sexologist for the Singapore Cancer Society, Of Noah.sg, OfZoey.sg, and Sincere Healthcare Group, and is the host of the podcast Eros Matters.
An accomplished author, Dr. Lee has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013), Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019). Her contributions have been recognized with numerous honors, including Her World’s Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40 (2010), CozyCot’s Top 100 Inspiring Women (2011), Global Woman of Influence (2024), the Most Supportive Relationship Coach (Singapore Business Awards, APAC Insider, 2025), and the Icon of Change International Award (2025).
You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.
