I regularly get asked about the safety of remote-control sex toys in my Singapore practice.

The short answer? No. But let’s dive into the science because pleasure deserves facts, not fear.

As Singapore’s leading clinical sexologist with over 15 years of experience, I’ve guided thousands of individuals and couples through intimacy questions—including introducing them to the world of sex toys. Technology has revolutionized how we connect and explore, but misinformation spreads faster than good science.

Today, we’re separating fact from fiction.

Are Remote-Control Toys Safe?

Here’s the simple comparison: The radiation from a remote-control toy is less than what you get from standing next to your Wi-Fi router.

Remote-control intimate toys use Bluetooth or low-frequency radio waves—the same technology in your smartphone, smartwatch, or wireless earbuds.

The science is clear:

• Non-ionizing radiation: Cannot damage DNA or accumulate in tissues
• Ultra-low power: Weaker than your home router or mobile device
• Global safety confirmation: WHO and international radiation boards confirm no health risks

Look for proper safety certifications when shopping:

• CE marking (European safety standards)
• FDA approval (US safety standards)
• ISO certifications (international quality standards)

In 15 years of clinical practice, I’ve never seen health issues from properly certified remote-control toys. The technology itself isn’t the concern—material quality and hygiene practices matter far more.

Why You Shouldn’t Charge and Play

Charging Dos & Don’ts

Modern rechargeable toys are safer than old battery-operated designs, but timing matters.

Never use while charging because:

• Electrical safety: Moisture + live connections = shock risk
• Battery health: Simultaneous use degrades performance
• Water resistance: Charging ports aren’t waterproof when plugged in

My professional tip: Charge in a dry place (never the bathroom), disconnect completely, then enjoy. This protects both you and your investment.

Anatomy Over Gender: Everyone Deserves Pleasure

In my practice, I focus on anatomical compatibility, not outdated gender assumptions. This inclusive approach helps all clients find what truly works for their bodies.

For vulva owners: Clitoral stimulators, G-spot vibrators, wearable couples’ toys For penis owners: Vibrating rings, strokers, prostate massagers

Here’s something many don’t realize: couples often share each other’s toys—and that’s completely normal! The technology responds the same way across all anatomies. What differs is nerve density, optimal placement, and personal preferences.

Technology can bring couples closer, not push them apart.

Where to Shop Safely

Through years of product testing and client feedback, I recommend retailers that prioritize safety and education. Horny.sg consistently stocks certified, body-safe products—crucial in Singapore’s market where quality varies dramatically.

When it comes to specific brands, I’m particularly fond of Lovense products. Their app connectivity is reliable, the materials are consistently body-safe, and their customer support actually understands the technology. In my experience, Lovense devices have fewer connectivity issues and more intuitive controls than many competitors—important factors when you’re exploring intimacy, not troubleshooting tech problems.

Lovehoney is also available in Singapore and maintains excellent safety standards and educational resources.

Full transparency: I maintain affiliate relationships with retailers I genuinely recommend to clients. Use code EROSMATTERS for exclusive discounts on products I’ve personally vetted.

Check out my YouTube channel for honest, educational product reviews and demonstrations.

Long-Distance Love: Staying Connected Across Miles

One area where remote-control toys truly excel is maintaining intimacy across distance. In my practice, I work with many expat couples, military families, and business travelers who use long-distance sex toys to stay connected.

The couples who succeed with remote control vibrator apps treat it as one tool among many for connection—not a replacement for emotional intimacy.

If you’ve never tried a toy before, starting with a simple app-controlled vibrator can be a gentle, fun introduction to exploring your sexuality.

Clinical Safety Checks

From a professional perspective, here are my non-negotiables:

• Medical device interactions: Consult your physician if you have pacemakers, insulin pumps, or electronic implants.
• Material safety: I only recommend medical-grade silicone, surgical steel, or body-safe ABS plastic. Avoid anything jelly, rubber, or porous.

Hygiene Matters

• Lube compatibility: Use water-based lubricants with silicone toys to prevent material breakdown. Silicone-based lubes can degrade silicone toys over time.
• Hygiene protocols: Use toy-safe cleaners or warm water with mild soap. Proper cleaning prevents UTIs, yeast infections, and other issues I frequently treat.
• Listen to your body: Stop immediately if you experience pain, numbness, or irritation. Your body’s signals matter more than any instruction manual.

Data Privacy & Security

• App security: Stick to reputable brands that use encrypted apps—cheap knockoffs may not secure your data or your pleasure. Look for apps that don’t require excessive personal information and have clear privacy policies.

Final Word: Confidence in Play

Remote-control intimate toys are scientifically safe when properly manufactured and used correctly. The electronic components pose zero inherent danger—focus on material safety, proper hygiene, and reputable brands.

Pleasure isn’t just fun—it’s self-care. And self-care deserves science, not fear. In my clinical experience, these products help clients overcome intimacy challenges, maintain long-distance connections, and explore healthy pleasure.

You deserve to play with confidence, backed by science.

Ready to Explore Safely?

Curious about trying your first remote-control toy? Worried about how your partner might react? Let’s talk.

Book a session with me or my team at Eros Coaching and we’ll guide you with science-backed, shame-free advice on:

• Safe product selection tailored to your needs
• Communication strategies for introducing toys with partners
• Overcoming intimacy concerns and performance anxiety
• Building stronger emotional and physical connections

Science, safety, and satisfaction don’t have to be complicated—let’s explore them together.

P.S. You may wish to purchase recorded training on Navigating the World of Sex Toys here.

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee