Become a Patron!Certified psychologist and intimacy/sexual wellness therapist Krish (Underneath the Moon Singapore) explains Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages—physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service—and why conflicts arise when partners “speak” different ones.
He clarifies that physical touch is broader than sex, and that sex involves more than touch, emphasizing that long-term sexual disconnection often stems from lack of erotic curiosity rather than lack of love. Krish shares a three-layer framework for love languages (how you give love, want to receive love, and love yourself), arguing self-love is often missing yet crucial for erotic connection.
Practical bedroom examples include non-demanding touch, extended non-goal-oriented foreplay, aftercare, and acts of service like preparing a calming space, plus the power of specific words of affirmation.
About Krish Phua
Krish Phua is a registered Counsellor, Psychotherapist, and certified Clinical Supervisor specializing in Gender and Sexuality, HIV and AIDS, and Couple and Family Therapy. With over 10 years of experience in various settings, Phua provides therapy for individuals, couples, families, and groups. He also offers crisis management, intervention, and psychosocial support to marginalized communities.
Phua holds a Master’s degree in Social Science (Professional Counselling) and is currently pursuing a PhD in Counselling Psychology. He is also an adjunct faculty / lecturer and a trainer in some educational institutions for adult learners. He is fluent in English, Chinese, and Cantonese. Book a session with him here.
