Evolution is a Choice

Posted On: June 10, 2020

There was some lapse/ delay on my mobile while at the office today. I was scrolling through my Facebook feeds… and I came upon a FB post by a ‘friend’. For some reason, I couldn’t see their profile picture but I could see the name. I read the post and was impressed by the depth of his post.

I was puzzled as this did not seem like the words this particular friend could be capable of writing. I have come to know him as always negative, cynical, and bitter about life. I tried to support him as a friend, but eventually had to distance myself as I always found myself depressed-like after sending time with him. I was quite happy ‘loving’ him from afar especially since it seems he has a new love interest in his life.

As my Facebook wall loaded, it turned out to be a different person of the SAME name. No wonder. One is into tantra and conscious. The other (the ‘friend’ I thought it was) happy to wallow in his self-pity. People do change. People are capable of evolving – but not people who are happy to hold onto their ways.

I wondered if my friends think the same way of me – “Good riddance, she left the room! Why is she always so negative? I can’t stand her.”

Just as I could ask those questions of my ‘friend’, I asked myself the same questions now: Can I change? Am I evolving? Am I so attached to my old ways that I refuse to let go of what doesn’t serve me anymore?

#lifeislikethat #cannotmakeitup #reflection #selfawareness #evolution #mirror

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 10 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.



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