Recordings of May Sugar & Spice Monthly Talk (S&Sx). Theme: Pleasure

Posted On: May 19, 2021

We run three virtual sexuality festivals with the one in March comprising of 30 presenters, 12 presenters over 5 days. You can watch past recordings we’ve put up here.

We are taking a pause on Sugar & Spice festival but launched our monthly talk as of 28 April 2021. The theme was Violence. The recordings are here. And the 2nd one on Fri 14 May was on Pleasure as below.

Complete recording S&Sx2: Pleasure

1. Matters of the Heart: Finding Magic in Mutual Masturbation by Kat Vergara

Relationships are not just about intimacy. In this 15 minute talk, witch, spiritual counselor, and author, Kat also known for her witch handle as Bramblevitch, will walk you through how mutual masturbation served as a gateway for healing, unlearning old beliefs about sex, and self-discovery not only for her but also for her partner.

About Kat Vergara

Kat is a practitoner of magic and the arts as well as a businesswoman. Under the moniker Bramblevitch, she serves as a spiritual counselor for those in need of guidance in their life and runs a blog dedicated to help educate those who wish to take that leap of faith into the Craft.
Outside of her witch activities, she is a writer and an advocate of mental health, equal rights, and proper sex education. Currently, she’s the Chief Creative Officer of Tavern, Inc., the owner of a mindful wellness business, Alkeme Apotheke, and the host of Bramble Faerie Tales podcast.




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2. A Man’s Journey to Living a Pleasurable Life One Stroke by Oliver Damian

In this 15-minute talk Oliver will share with you what he has learned from all the inner work and social experiments he has done in the last 7 years after he deconstructed his former life based on the fear of missing out towards his new lives oriented on the complex pleasures of being in the joy of the moment.

About Oliver James Damian

Oliver James is an experience curator always seeking to transcend and include. He collects experiences like how some people collect fine bone china. He has been regularly practicing orgasmic meditation all over the world since 2014. It’s a key practice to his living life in the realms of the erotic.



3. Sexual Healing after Female Genital Cutting: One Khatna Survivor’s experience​ by Farzana Doctor

In this 15 minute presentation, author, psychotherapist and #endFGM activist, Farzana Doctor, will talk about her experiences of activism, healing and her sex and relationships column for survivors, Dear Maasi.

About Farzana Doctor

Farzana Doctor is a Toronto-based Registered Social Worker who has been working with individuals and couples since 1993. As a  consultant and educator, she has supervised and taught clinicians about LGBTTTIQ issues, anti-oppression and FGM/C.
She is also a founding member of and the End FGM/C Canada Network. She has written four critically acclaimed novels. Her latest, Seven, which Ms. Magazine described as “fully feminist and ambitiously bold”, addresses FGM/C in her Dawoodi Bohra community and was inspired by her experiences as a survivor and activist. Farzana is also the Maasi behind Dear Maasi, a new sex and relationships column for FGM/C survivors.
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We like to thank our sponsor Pink Lifestyle and grateful that because of their support we are able to provide our presenters an honorarium.
The topic of pleasure is an important one, and we would really appreciate your feedback and reshares! The theme for June will be Pride Month. Please follow our work and support us! 🙂
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About the Curator Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than 12 years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore. She is also a Red Tent Women’s Circles Facilitator from Star of Ishtar.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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