Do You Know These 3 Levels of Listening?

Posted On: March 21, 2022

Do You Know These 3 Levels of Listening?I’m teaching a three-week Counseling Skills for Couples. I’m so passionate about teaching counseling skills and been waiting to run for a long time because I truly believe it is a life skill each of us should have.

Many years ago (close to 20 years ago), my counseling teacher explained real listening wasn’t just about listening to words or to understand verbally.

There are actually three levels of listening:

1) Facts (hear, words expressed)

2) Feelings/ emotions (see, feel, sense)

3) Beyond (what is not spoken, more on intuition)

I was intrigued, and of course wanted to be a third level listener. In all honesty, I couldn’t get to this third level even after all the training I went through. But I kept trying to by listening with my whole being repeatedly.

Two years into my practice, it all came together and clicked. You can too… It’s about intention and practice.

Check out the upcoming Virtual Counseling for Couples here!

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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