Personal Story: "I Was Attending a Free-Form Movement Class Regularly..."

I Was Attending a Free-Form Movement Class Regularly... Years ago, I was attending a free-form movement class regularly and got to know a person whom I knew was a popular NLP coach in Singapore. Since I knew little about NLP, I was curious about his work.

After one session, I found myself walking with him and his followers to the MRT station and took the opportunity to ask more about his work. I was actually mentally prepared and eager to be his student.

Yet the moment he started doing name-dropping of his students who are famous in their own right, I was completely turned off. If he could boost about having famous students (undoubtedly without consent), he could easily do this to me and seemingly take credit for all my achievements even if his teaching might just a small part of my body of training and knowledge. He felt unsafe.

As coaches, we are honed in the importance of ethics, confidentiality, and privacy of clients so this was a big no-no – what more coming from a master trainer NLP practitioner.

After that, my impression of him totally changed – from interest in his work, to disgust of his character, and avoidance of the person totally. How we do something is how we do everything. Yes, people are capable of change but there’s absolutely no honor in putting ourselves in harm’s way either.

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.