Laugh… but Never Look Down on our Parents

Posted On: June 15, 2022

Laugh... but Never Look Down on our ParentsMy mom used to go “fard” when she got mad. It took me a while… fard? Fart?  Did she mean to swear as in fuck?
I never corrected her. Instead of being alarmed or scared, I couldn’t take her seriously. I used to always laugh inside whenever she went “fard”!
My mom’s first language isn’t English. My mom might have intended to express frustration and be cool in some way, but ended up being more funny than anything.
Once I shared this with my BFF Pearly Phua and her daughter Ricarda (who was probably 6), we all started laughing.
I turned to Ricarda and asked if she would ever look down on her mother when she mispronounces words in the future. Ricarda solemnly said she would never – her mom was the best.
That didn’t stop Ricarda and I from laughing about “fard” for the rest of the day though.
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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