This is why I Used to Get Upset with my Mom...

This is why I Used to Get Upset with my Mom... I used to get upset with my mom when I saw her giving up her seat on public transport. The irony would strike me: an elderly and unwell person giving up her seat to an even more elderly person.

What would not be obvious to outsiders was that my mom was battling stage four breast cancer. My mom had a history of losing her balance and falling down, so I would be worried, angry, and helpless all at the same time when she would do that.

I would feel so upset that younger and healthier-looking people would ignore the very people my mom was giving up her seat for. I would worry about her doing this when I wasn’t around to help her if something happened.

Recently all these memories came back to me as I am starting to experience unexplained aches in my body especially around my joints. Would I give up my seat for an older person? Would I give up my seat if I was carrying many things which I often found myself doing? Would I help others if I was going through cancer like my mom did?

The answer was yes.

Like my parents, I’ve always wanted to help others. Rather than point fingers, I rather do what I can. And it’s not just me. My siblings are real softies.

I’m my parents’ daughter and I’m so proud to come from them.

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.