What’s the Cost of Being Kind?

Posted On: November 29, 2022

What’s the Cost of Being KindI was just about to take the empty seat on the train when I saw an elderly couple about to board the train from the platform.

I made sure to stand by the seat in case they needed. They spotted two empty seats and were walking slowly towards it when a young person scooped down and took one of the seats. Now the couple looked on helplessly and I waved at them to take my seat.

The elderly woman took my intended seat and the person next to it immediately vacated it so the man can sit next to his partner.

I waved again for the man to take the seat, realising I was probably drawing unwanted attention to them… and didn’t care.

He looked tentatively and mouthed through his face mask: “Just two stops.”

I replied without missing a beat: “Just take it.”

Even a short rest is rest. I wouldn’t want either of them to fall down. And I know how comforting it is to be seated next to each other.

If either of them were my parents, I would want them to be seated, to have a rest, and to be safe.

It doesn’t cost us anything to be kind. We just need to fill our own cup so we have the emotional and physical capacity to extend ourselves.

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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