The Secret to Staying Healthy (and Sexual) at 75: Insights from Presidential Candidate Ng Kok Song + Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee

Posted On: September 1, 2023


As the presidential election in Singapore runs on 1 September 2023, it is essential to gain insights into the candidates and their perspectives on various aspects of life. In a recent media interview, one of the candidates, Ng Kok Song, shared his secrets to staying healthy at the age of 75. Watch it here. In this blog post, we will delve into Ng Kok Song’s valuable advice on maintaining good health and well-being as we age using the acronym SHIELD.

1. Sleep – Prioritize 7 Hours of Quality Rest: Ng Kok Song emphasizes the importance of getting sufficient sleep for optimal health. He recommends aiming for a consistent 7 hours of quality rest each night. Adequate sleep not only rejuvenates the body but also plays a crucial role in cognitive function and emotional well-being.

2. Handle Stress – Practice Meditation: To combat stress, Ng Kok Song advocates for the practice of meditation. Engaging in regular meditation sessions can help calm the mind, reduce anxiety, and promote overall mental well-being. By incorporating mindfulness techniques into his daily routine, Ng Kok Song effectively manages stress and maintains a balanced outlook on life.

3. Interaction – Engage in Meaningful Conversations and Relationships: Ng Kok Song believes that social interaction is vital for maintaining good health. He encourages engaging in meaningful conversations and building strong relationships with others. Meaningful connections provide emotional support, stimulate intellectual growth, and contribute to a sense of belonging and purpose.

4. Exercise – Incorporate Physical Activity into Your Routine: Physical fitness is a cornerstone of Ng Kok Song’s health regimen. He engages in activities such as tennis, playing 9 holes of golf, and swimming. Regular physical activity not only improves cardiovascular health but also enhances muscle strength, flexibility, and overall well-being.

5. Learn – Embrace Technology and Continuously Expand Your Knowledge: Ng Kok Song emphasizes the importance of lifelong learning, particularly in the realm of technology. He believes that staying up-to-date with technological advancements and continuously expanding one’s knowledge is essential for personal growth and adaptability in an ever-changing world. Ng Kok Song also highlights the value of learning new skills, such as video editing, to stay mentally sharp and engaged.

6. Diet – Prioritize Fruits and Vegetables: Ng Kok Song recognizes the significance of a balanced diet for maintaining good health. He emphasizes the importance of incorporating plenty of fruits and vegetables into one’s daily meals. These nutrient-rich foods provide essential vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants that support overall well-being and help prevent age-related diseases.

Presidential candidate Ng Kok Song offers valuable insights into maintaining good health at the age of 75. By prioritizing quality sleep, managing stress through meditation, engaging in meaningful interactions, incorporating regular exercise, embracing lifelong learning, and following a balanced diet rich in fruits and vegetables, we can enhance our overall well-being as we age. As the election approaches, let us reflect on these wise words and strive to prioritize our health and well-being for a fulfilling life at any age.

In addition to the insights shared by Ng Kok Song, as a Sexologist, I like to offer my unique perspective on maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual life as we age also using the acronym SHIELD, which stands for Sexual Health, Intimacy, Education, Liberation, and Diversity.

1. Sexual Health: I like to emphasize the importance of prioritizing sexual health by practicing safe sex, regular check-ups, and addressing any concerns or issues related to sexual well-being. This includes discussing topics such as contraception, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and maintaining good sexual hygiene.

2. Intimacy: Building and nurturing intimate connections is crucial for a satisfying sexual life. I encourage individuals to prioritize emotional intimacy, open communication, and exploring each other’s desires and boundaries. They would emphasize the importance of maintaining a strong emotional connection with one’s partner as it can enhance sexual satisfaction and overall well-being.

3. Education: A sex-positive approach involves continuous education and learning about one’s own body, sexual desires, and preferences. I like to encourage individuals to seek out reliable sources of information, attend workshops or seminars on sexual health, and engage in open conversations about sexuality. This ongoing education can help individuals make informed decisions and foster a positive attitude towards their own sexuality.

4. Liberation: As a sexologist, I promote the idea of sexual liberation, which involves breaking free from societal norms or taboos surrounding sexuality not for rebelling but for self-actualisation. I encourage individuals to embrace their own desires and preferences without judgment or shame. This liberation allows individuals to explore their own unique sexual identities and experiences, leading to greater self-acceptance and fulfillment.

5. Diversity: Recognizing and celebrating the diversity of human sexuality is another important aspect of a sex-positive approach. I advocate for inclusivity and acceptance of different sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures. I would emphasize the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental environment where individuals can express their authentic selves and explore their sexuality without fear or discrimination.

By incorporating the principles of SHIELD into my approach, I aim to empower individuals to embrace their sexuality, prioritize their sexual health, and foster fulfilling and satisfying sexual lives as they age. With my expertise and experience in the field, I can provide you with the guidance and support you need to navigate and enhance your sexual well-being and intimate connections. Together, we can work towards achieving a fulfilling and satisfying sexual life. Contact me today to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards a healthier and happier you.

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Dr. Martha Tara Lee has been a passionate advocate for positive sexuality since 2007. With a Doctorate in Human Sexuality and a Masters in Counseling, she launched Eros Coaching in 2009 to help individuals and couples lead self-actualised and pleasurable lives. Her expertise includes working with couples who have unconsummated marriage, individuals with sexual inhibitions and discrepancies in sexual desire, men with erection and ejaculation concerns, and members of the LGBTQIA+ and kink communities. Dr. Lee welcomes all sexual orientations and is available for online and face-to-face consultations. Martha speaks English and Mandarin.

She is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in the region (as of 2011) and is also an AASECT certified sexuality educator supervisor (as of 2018). She strives to provide fun, educational, and sex-positive events and is often cited in the media including Huffington PostNewsweek, South China Morning Post, and more. She is the appointed Resident Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society, Of, and Virtus Fertility Centre. She is the host of radio show Eros Evolution for OMTimes Radio. In recognition of her work, she was named one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women under 40’ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the author of Love, Sex and Everything In-Between (2013),  Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between (2015), From Princess to Queen: Heartbreaks, Heartgasms and Everything In-Between (2017), and {Un}Inhihibited (2019).

You can read the testimonials she’s received over years here. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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