My New Words Learned From 2023

Posted On: December 30, 2023

Language is ever evolving and new words are developed to better communicate what we mean. Check the new relationship and sex terms I wrote about in 2017 which was published in Huffington Post, and 2022!

This year, I decided to gathering new words that I’ve learned.

These are my new words from 2023! Let me know if they are new to you?

  1. Aegosexual is generally defined as a disconnect between the self and the object or experience of one’s sexual arousal.
  2. Anti-Ghosted – refers to letting a person you’ve gone out with know that you don’t want to continue seeing them, often via a text message.
  3. AutosexualPeople who tend to prefer masturbation over partnered sex, although they may engage in partnered sex either to show affection, to feel close with their partners, or because they get pleasure out of it—just generally not as much as solo sex. 
  4. Box theory – the theory is that “when a guy meets a girl in a romantic setting − so like a dating app date or a blind date or something − he will put her into one of three boxes: He wants to date her, he wants to sleep with her or he wants nothing to do with her.
  5. Destroy Dick December (DDD) – it involves masturbating one more time for every day spent in December. Basically, the challenge starts with masturbating once on 1 December and…, you guessed it, 31 times on 31 December!
  6. Delusionship – Single folks often idealize potential partners prior to really knowing anything of substance about them. It often is a first step in trying to form a relationship.
  7. Fexting, also known as fighting over text
  8. Mid-Mute Dating – when the person you are dating mutes your notifications, commonly during the mid-week, as they only see you as a weekend thing.
  9. Shallowing – is a form of sexual play that typically involves lightly stimulating the entrance to the vagina.
  10. Zero date – defines as a “one drink, one hour” meeting that comes before an official first date. The goal of a zero date is to determine if you’d like to have dinner with the other person — not to decide if they’re your soulmate.

There you go! From A to V, all ten of them. Do you have some more new words to suggest to me – this Gen X?


  1. Borresen, K. (2023, September 20). Have You Been “Anti-Ghosted”? Here’s How To Know (And How To Respond). HuffPost.
  2. Corbett, K. (2022, July 8). Does Vabbing Actually Work? Some TikTokers Swear By It. Distractify.
  3. Gernez, L. (2023, November 16). Destroy Dick December: Is it possible to masturbate too much? A sexologist answers. Ohmymag UK.
  4. King, T. (2023, December 20). What does it mean to be aegosexual? Cosmopolitan.
  5. Jones, C. (2023, December 22). Experts are recommending new sex trend called “shallowing.” UNILAD.
  6. Oliver, D. (2023, May 24). What is a “delusionship”? That made-up relationship in your head, explained. Yahoo! News.
  7. Schmidt, B. (2023, December 23). How the “Zero Date” could be the key to not wasting your time. Glam.
  8. Walters, M. (2023, July 3). What is Mid-Mute Dating? the toxic trend of the digital age.
  9. Yasharoff, H. (2023, August 28). When should you have sex with someone new? Consider “box theory” before deciding. USA TODAY.

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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