According to a study released by Australia’s eSafety Commissioner in September, 6% of male respondents were first exposed to porn before hitting their teens, while 13 was the average age for all young people surveyed. ๐ฒ
- Unintentional Exposure: Only 22%, however, admitted to intentionally seeking it out, with more accidentally stumbling upon X-rated material via social media or pop-ups on other parts of the internet. ๐ฎ
- Porn Literacy Programs: ๐ Porn literacy programs can help young people navigate and critically analyze explicit content. ๐ต๏ธโ๏ธ
- Comprehensive Education: ๐ก Comprehensive education on consent, respect, and the portrayal of sex in porn is essential. ๐ฃ๏ธ
- Restricting Access: ๐ซ Restricting access to online porn sites may not be effective due to the digital native nature of today’s generation. ๐ง
- Open Conversations: ๐ฃ๏ธ Fostering open conversations and providing frameworks for understanding unrealistic aspects of porn can empower young people to make mindful choices. ๐ช
- Multi-Faceted Approach: ๐ Ultimately, a multi-faceted approach combining education, open dialogue, and critical thinking skills is needed to promote healthier attitudes towards sex and relationships among young people. ๐
As a Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist, I feel parents worldwide should:
- Start conversations about sex and pornography early on with their children, in an age-appropriate manner. ๐
- Educate themselves about healthy sexual relationships and consent to be able to guide their children effectively. ๐๐ช
- Monitor their children’s online activities and use parental control software to restrict access to explicit content. ๐ซ๐
- Encourage critical thinking skills and media literacy to help children navigate and analyze explicit content they may encounter. ๐ค๐ญ
The government in Singapore should:
- Develop comprehensive sex education programs that address healthy relationships, consent, and the impact of pornography. ๐๐
- Collaborate with schools to implement age-appropriate sex education from an early age. ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ซ
- Support research on the effects of pornography on young people and use the findings to inform policies and interventions. ๐๐ฌ
- Provide funding for porn literacy programs and initiatives aimed at promoting healthy attitudes towards sex and relationships. ๐ฐ๐ช
As a society, Singapore should:
- Challenge societal norms that perpetuate harmful stereotypes about sex and relationships. ๐ซโ
- Foster a culture of open dialogue about sex and provide safe spaces for discussions. ๐ฃ๏ธ๐ฌ
- Promote positive role models and media representations of healthy relationships. ๐ซ๐
- Support organizations and initiatives that provide resources and support for young people navigating the impact of pornography. ๐ค๐
Parents in Singapore should:
- Be proactive in discussing sex and pornography with their children, emphasizing consent, respect, and healthy relationships. ๐จ๐ฉ๐ง๐ฆ๐
- Stay informed about the latest trends in technology and social media platforms to better understand potential exposure risks. ๐ฑ๐ฒ
- Encourage their children to ask questions and provide accurate information about sex rather than relying solely on pornographic material. โ๐
- Seek professional help from relationship counselors or clinical sexologists if they need guidance in addressing the impact of pornography on their children. ๐๐ฅ๐ผ
By implementing these recommendations, parents worldwide and the Singaporean government, society, culture, and people can work together to create a healthier environment for young people, promoting positive attitudes towards sex and relationships while mitigating the potential negative effects of pornography. ๐๐คโค๏ธ
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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex andย sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree โ a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointedย Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of โTop 50 Inspiring Women Under 40โฒ by Her World in July 2010, and one of โTop 100 Inspiring Womenโ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between,ย Orgasmic Yoga,ย From Princess to Queenย andย {Un}Inhibited.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile,ย click here.ย Email herย here.