Vaginismus and Inhibition around Sex

Posted On: April 12, 2024

Vaginismus and Inhibition around Sex

What is Vaginismus?

Vaginismus is a condition characterized by involuntary muscle tension in the pelvic floor muscles surrounding the vagina, making penetration painful or impossible. It can greatly impact a person’s sex life and overall well-being. 🌺

Myths and Misconceptions around Vaginismus

There are many myths and misconceptions surrounding Vaginismus, such as it being purely psychological or that it can be easily overcome with relaxation techniques. In reality, Vaginismus is a complex condition that may have physical, emotional, and psychological components that require specialized treatment and support. 🧠

Myth 1: Vaginismus is just a mental issue.
Truth: Vaginismus is a complex condition that can have physical, emotional, and psychological components. It is not solely a mental issue.

Myth 2: Vaginismus can be easily overcome with relaxation techniques.
Truth: While relaxation techniques can be helpful, overcoming vaginismus often requires a comprehensive treatment plan that may include physical therapy, counseling, and other interventions. In my experience working with people with Vaginismus since 2009, I have come to call it a fear of the unknown with sexuality education and counseling helping the most.

Myth 3: Vaginismus only affects women who are inexperienced or anxious about sex.
Truth: Vaginismus can affect women of all ages and sexual experiences. It is not solely related to anxiety or inexperience.

Myth 4: Vaginismus is rare.
Truth: Vaginismus is more common than many people realize. It is estimated to affect around 1-7% of women.

Myth 5: Vaginismus is untreatable.
Truth: Vaginismus is a treatable condition. With the right support, resources, and treatment, many individuals with vaginismus can overcome their symptoms and improve their quality of life.

Myth 6: Vaginismus is just a result of not trying hard enough or not using enough lubrication.
Truth: Vaginismus is a medical condition characterized by involuntary muscle spasms in the pelvic floor muscles. It is not simply a matter of trying harder or using more lubrication during penetration.

Myth 7: Vaginismus can be cured by forcefully inserting objects into the vagina.
Truth: Forcefully inserting objects into the vagina is not a recommended or effective treatment for vaginismus. In fact, it can cause further pain and trauma, exacerbating the condition.

Myth 8: People have vaginismus because it is “God’s will” or a punishment for their actions.
Truth: Vaginismus is a medical condition with physical and psychological causes. It is not a punishment from a higher power or a result of any specific actions. Blaming vaginismus on divine will can perpetuate harmful misconceptions and hinder individuals from seeking proper treatment and support.

Myth 9: Vaginismus only affects women.
Truth: While vaginismus is more commonly reported in women, it can also affect individuals assigned male at birth. It is important to recognize that vaginismus can impact people of all genders.

Myth 10: Vaginismus will go away on its own over time.
Truth: While some cases of vaginismus may improve over time, many individuals require treatment and support to effectively manage and overcome the condition. Seeking help from healthcare professionals is crucial for addressing vaginismus effectively.

Team of Practitioners

I specialize in working with clients with Vaginismus and inhibition around sex and sexuality for the past 15 years. Check out my testimonials here.

I’ve tried to flag the issue of Vaginismus many times in the media without success and am glad this is getting more coverage in The Straits Times yesterday. 📰

I train practitioners around supporting clients to overcome Vaginismus. I wish the media report included perspective not just from public hospitals though. 💪 I have a batch of dedicated practitioners offering pro bono/ discounted sessions to people with Vaginismus (undergoing training) right now. 🤝

Let me know if you’re keen by emailing me at Sessions can be in-person depending where you’re at or virtual. #vaginismus 💖

About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice since 2009, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Clinical Sexologist for Singapore Cancer Society. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic YogaFrom Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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