Posted On: January 2, 2020
Many years ago, a client who overcame Vaginismus (inability to have vaginal penetration) came back with her husband to thank me for my work with them and complete our last session. She said this and I would never forgot it: Her: “Martha.. it wasn’t what you taught us that mattered… Honestly, we could have learned […]
Posted On: December 29, 2019
In present time, I would look at the beautiful orchids in my office and feel sad knowing they will die one day soon. Why do they have to die? Do they know they are going to die? If they knew, would they bother to bloom so brightly and as radiantly as they do? One might […]
Posted On: December 8, 2019
These are some pictures from the event Love, Sex & Spirit I conducted alongside my friends Luke Elijah Lim and Lionel on Fri 6 Dec 2019. Event details here. We are discussing doing another similar one for Fri 13 Feb 2020 so stay tuned by subscribing to my newsletter if you are not already on […]
Posted On: December 7, 2019
Do you notice your “Why” or “How come” questions? Such as… Why this happening? Why is this happening again? Why is this happening to me? Why does this happen? Why does this happen to me? Why does this keep happening? Why don’t I see this happening to others? Why don’t I hear this happening to […]
Posted On: December 2, 2019
It took me a while to finish reading this book because carrying it around for weeks doesn’t mean a book gets read – you actually need to read it, and I finally did. It took me a while because I really wanted to absorb not just the words, but the essence of who Dr Tererai […]
Posted On: November 24, 2019
Today, somebody complimented me on my eyes. It reminded me of my mom who repeatedly told me that I have almond-shaped eyes, and a melon-shaped face whenever I asked her anything about my looks. It wasn’t never expressed as a compliment, but as a fact. Younger me: “Mom, be honest with me… am I beautiful?” […]
Posted On: November 21, 2019
Why I do what I do is a weekly series where AsiaOne showcases uncommon professions and what it takes to go down that career path. In their final episode, they feature me (Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and relationship counsellor). Having a desire at a young age to understand sex and how it […]
Posted On: October 29, 2019
I have been practising as a Clinical Sexologist and Sexuality Educator since 2009 – long before it was fashionable, or sexy, or money-making to talk about sex and sexuality in Singapore, or for that matter in Asia as an Asian. Many people ask me why I do what I do. I am passionate about supporting […]
Posted On: October 22, 2019
When I was going through my divorce, the last thing I wanted to do was go into circle with other women going through the same thing because I did not view what I was going through as same-same as others. I didn’t want to be surrounded by more pain, negativity, fears, drama, and stories. […]
Posted On: October 22, 2019
In August, I ran a free month-long online dance challenge Dance Yourself Free (for Women) – Online for women alongside co-hosts Hannah Lee and Danielle Ajanta. The idea came about because I knew that I worked well with accountability and wanted to commit to dancing at least once a day and share my dance (in the hopes it might serve […]
Posted On: October 13, 2019
There is the archetype of the Maiden, Mother, and Crone in Triple Goddess. More here In my own words Maiden – Prime of her youth Mother – Prime of her fertility Crone – Prime of her wisdom Behavioral Maiden – Young, fun, open, learning, beautiful (Shadow side: Wilful, childish, spoilt, manipulative) Mother – Mature, nurturing, […]
Posted On: October 10, 2019
“Do you know what the word ’empowered’ means?” I used to volunteer in the only women advocacy group in Singapore, and this question was one of the first questions one of the ex-Presidents and my one-time mentor asked me. I didn’t know. I felt I should have. I certainly heard it many times. So cool […]
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