Love Even Though It Will End Anyway

Love Even Though It Will End Anyway

Posted On: February 20, 2020

When I was younger, I didn’t like endings – play time, be a movie, book, drama series (30+ episodes). I would cry at the end of TV shows because it was so good and I enjoyed it so much – why did it have to end? Later as I grew older and understood that everything […]

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Soulmate Relationships Aren’t All Meant to be Happily Ever After

Posted On: February 13, 2020

Recalling from years ago… my marriage was on the rocks. Psychic: “… You have to leave him or you will lose everything including everything you worked so hard for (aka my practice). In the end… he will still be unfaithful to you… you will lose your mind… leave him. You have to leave him by […]

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Keep Walking – One Sign of a Toxic Relationship

Keep Walking – One Sign of a Toxic Relationship

Posted On: January 21, 2020

I started to date a new person only a few times, yet he already brought up marriage a couple of times. Recently when he brought it up again, I replied why it won’t work between us. Instead of trying to understand my point of view, he went into blame of how I was hurting him […]

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“It’s Not You” is Likely True!

“It’s Not You” is Likely True!

Posted On: January 20, 2020

Several years ago, a guy I started to see and liked a lot called it quits saying he felt intuitively that I wasn’t the “right person” ending with “It’s not you. It’s me.” Even then, I took it quite personal and wondered if I did anything wrong. Shortly after, he started to date somebody else […]

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A Story on Being Who I Want for My Clients

A Story on Being Who I Want for My Clients

Posted On: January 2, 2020

Many years ago, a client who overcame Vaginismus (inability to have vaginal penetration) came back with her husband to thank me for my work with them and complete our last session. She said this and I would never forgot it: Her: “Martha.. it wasn’t what you taught us that mattered… Honestly, we could have learned […]

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Are You Fearlessly Living or Just Existing?

Are You Fearlessly Living or Just Existing?

Posted On: December 29, 2019

In present time, I would look at the beautiful orchids in my office and feel sad knowing they will die one day soon. Why do they have to die? Do they know they are going to die? If they knew, would they bother to bloom so brightly and as radiantly as they do? One might […]

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Recap: Love, Sex & Spirit

Recap: Love, Sex & Spirit

Posted On: December 8, 2019

These are some pictures from the event Love, Sex & Spirit I conducted alongside my friends Luke Elijah Lim and Lionel on Fri 6 Dec 2019. Event details here. We are discussing doing another similar one for Fri 13 Feb 2020 so stay tuned by subscribing to my newsletter if you are not already on […]

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How to Get Over “Why me?” and “How come?”

How to Get Over “Why me?” and “How come?”

Posted On: December 7, 2019

Do you notice your “Why” or “How come” questions? Such as… Why this happening? Why is this happening again? Why is this happening to me? Why does this happen? Why does this happen to me? Why does this keep happening? Why don’t I see this happening to others? Why don’t I hear this happening to […]

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Book Review: The Awakened Woman by Dr. Tererai Trent

Book Review: The Awakened Woman by Dr. Tererai Trent

Posted On: December 2, 2019

It took me a while to finish reading this book because carrying it around for weeks doesn’t mean a book gets read – you actually need to read it, and I finally did. It took me a while because I really wanted to absorb not just the words, but the essence of who Dr Tererai […]

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One Body Love Tip for Parents

One Body Love Tip for Parents

Posted On: November 24, 2019

Today, somebody complimented me on my eyes. It reminded me of my mom who repeatedly told me that I have almond-shaped eyes, and a melon-shaped face whenever I asked her anything about my looks. It wasn’t never expressed as a compliment, but as a fact. Younger me: “Mom, be honest with me… am I beautiful?” […]

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Why I Do What I Do: She’s been asked to watch people have sex

Why I Do What I Do: She’s been asked to watch people have sex

Posted On: November 21, 2019

Why I do what I do is a weekly series where AsiaOne showcases uncommon professions and what it takes to go down that career path. In their final episode, they feature me (Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and relationship counsellor). Having a desire at a young age to understand sex and how it […]

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