Posted On: February 20, 2020
When I was younger, I didn’t like endings – play time, be a movie, book, drama series (30+ episodes). I would cry at the end of TV shows because it was so good and I enjoyed it so much – why did it have to end? Later as I grew older and understood that everything […]
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Posted On: February 13, 2020
Recalling from years ago… my marriage was on the rocks. Psychic: “… You have to leave him or you will lose everything including everything you worked so hard for (aka my practice). In the end… he will still be unfaithful to you… you will lose your mind… leave him. You have to leave him by […]
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Posted On: January 21, 2020
I started to date a new person only a few times, yet he already brought up marriage a couple of times. Recently when he brought it up again, I replied why it won’t work between us. Instead of trying to understand my point of view, he went into blame of how I was hurting him […]
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Posted On: January 20, 2020
Several years ago, a guy I started to see and liked a lot called it quits saying he felt intuitively that I wasn’t the “right person” ending with “It’s not you. It’s me.” Even then, I took it quite personal and wondered if I did anything wrong. Shortly after, he started to date somebody else […]
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Posted On: January 8, 2020
Your sexuality is an innate part of who we are. So many people suffer from lack of or misinformation about sex and sexuality though, and as a result suffer in silence and often for long periods of time – not knowing where to go to seek support and who to trust. My non-coaches friends share […]
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Posted On: January 2, 2020
Many years ago, a client who overcame Vaginismus (inability to have vaginal penetration) came back with her husband to thank me for my work with them and complete our last session. She said this and I would never forgot it: Her: “Martha.. it wasn’t what you taught us that mattered… Honestly, we could have learned […]
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Posted On: December 29, 2019
In present time, I would look at the beautiful orchids in my office and feel sad knowing they will die one day soon. Why do they have to die? Do they know they are going to die? If they knew, would they bother to bloom so brightly and as radiantly as they do? One might […]
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Posted On: December 8, 2019
These are some pictures from the event Love, Sex & Spirit I conducted alongside my friends Luke Elijah Lim and Lionel on Fri 6 Dec 2019. Event details here. We are discussing doing another similar one for Fri 13 Feb 2020 so stay tuned by subscribing to my newsletter if you are not already on […]
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Posted On: December 7, 2019
Do you notice your “Why” or “How come” questions? Such as… Why this happening? Why is this happening again? Why is this happening to me? Why does this happen? Why does this happen to me? Why does this keep happening? Why don’t I see this happening to others? Why don’t I hear this happening to […]
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Posted On: December 2, 2019
It took me a while to finish reading this book because carrying it around for weeks doesn’t mean a book gets read – you actually need to read it, and I finally did. It took me a while because I really wanted to absorb not just the words, but the essence of who Dr Tererai […]
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Posted On: November 24, 2019
Today, somebody complimented me on my eyes. It reminded me of my mom who repeatedly told me that I have almond-shaped eyes, and a melon-shaped face whenever I asked her anything about my looks. It wasn’t never expressed as a compliment, but as a fact. Younger me: “Mom, be honest with me… am I beautiful?” […]
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Posted On: November 21, 2019
Why I do what I do is a weekly series where AsiaOne showcases uncommon professions and what it takes to go down that career path. In their final episode, they feature me (Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist and relationship counsellor). Having a desire at a young age to understand sex and how it […]
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