Testimonial from the husband of somebody who had Vaginismus:
“Never in my wildest dreams did I believe that I would one day be able to experience penetrative sex (what more after only two hours worth of consultation with her!). Martha is akin to a miracle worker. Someone who knows her stuff extremely well.” – Anonymous Male Client, 18 Dec 2018
This came in from his wife on 2 Jan 2019:
“Coming to Martha for help was one of the best decision ever! I have been visiting the hospital for a year regarding vaginismus and I still wasn’t able to get the necessary help to overcome this issue that I have been suffering from. We managed to overcome vaginismus within a span of 2 months, after 2 sessions with Martha. I’m happy to say that we are now expecting a baby! Thanks Martha, couldn’t be more grateful to have met you! 🙂 “ – Anonymous Female Client, 2 Jan 2019
We only had two one-hour sessions after they unsuccessfully sought help from a multi-disciplinary team (gynae, psycho, and even the in-house sex therapist) at a leading hospital in Singapore. There was no nudity or touch. They came to me hopeless and helpless, bewildered about what they have done “wrong” – they didn’t. Instead this is a healthcare system that has failed them.
I’ve worked with more than 500 couples with unconsummated marriage or Vaginismus for close to 10 years and my approach is pleasure-focused, progressive, and practical. Many of my clients, Vaginismus ones in particular, are amazed how quickly they can overcome their condition. It’s not about how good I am, and more about support them to understand what they need to do and how. I am very grateful that I’ve been able to support them, and I know I can help you if you suspect you have Vaginismus.
WHAT IS VAGINISMUS? – It is a condition that happens when the vagina shuts down making penetration difficult of impossible. In my experience, this usually happens out of fear of pain. It could be the result of painful penetration, pain during childbirth, or sexual trauma. However, most people who have Vaginismus who I have worked with have NEVER had any sexual trauma or abuse. It is psychological and very much linked to the lack of sexuality education growing up.
About Dr. Martha Tara Lee
Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.
She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than nine years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.
Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network. She has published three books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga and From Princess to Queen.
Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.