Resources: Talking Dirty

Posted On: June 1, 2020

Have you ever thought of talking dirty? Have you had your partner ask you to do erotic talk with them? Perhaps you really like to learn how to do this so as to keep the romance and passion going in your long-distance relationship. Actually “dirty talk” is not difficult, these are my tips: sounds, words, sentences.

As you can probably guess:

  1. First be comfortable with more sounds (a moan “Hmm”, “Ahhh”, or even a sigh)…
  2. Then comes words (“Yes!”, “More”, “Baby…”, “So good”)…. and finally
  3. Sentences, “You are so good”, “You make me so hot”, “Wow, you’re so xyx”.”

I’m recommending these books and hope they support you in your erotic journey! Let me know how it goes!

  1. The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty: Ignite Your Sex Life with Naughty Whispers, Hot Desires, and Screams of Passion, Ruth Neustifter

Talking dirty doesn’t need to make you feel dirty. This sexy and fun guide shows how to wildly enhance your sexual experience without making you or your lover feel uncomfortable. The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty provides everything you need to spice up your sex life, including:

  • Tips for overcoming shyness
  • Tricks to becoming more confident
  • Sample scripts and spicy vocabulary
  • Arousing games for exploring fantasies
  • Exciting exercises for building intimacy

Master the three levels of dirty talk and go from shy girl to verbal seductress:

  1. Heighten desire with sensual descriptions
  2. Seduce with expressions of lust
  3. Explore fantasies with trust and openness
2) The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk: How To Entice, Excite, And Enchant Your Lover With Words, Bonnie Gabriel

A whispered term of endearment, a flirtatious phrase, a secret suggestion, a cry of passion–words can be the most intimate gift that lovers share.

This guide to their sensual power invites us to explore the erotic potential in verbal communication, as sexuality counselor and seminar leader Bonnie Gabriel shows how words can arouse desire, reveal and fulfill fantasies, and infuse lovemaking with romance and fire.

3) Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover: Lust-Inducing Lingo and Titillating Tactics for Maximizing Your Pleasure, Yvonne K Fulbright

Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Any Lover provides couples with engaging exercises and dialogues that will introduce the art of erotic talking into their sex lives. Readers will learn how to use sex talk to heat up foreplay, safely explore fantasies, and create anticipation that leads to hotter sex and bigger climaxes. Specific exercises will help readers get past inhibitions that could trump their game and effectively communicate desires to their partner.

4) How to Talk Dirty: Hundreds of Dirty Talk Examples to Turn up the Heat and Drive Your Partner Wild, Em Quinn

Step-by-step instructional guide for heating up the bedroom with smoldering dirty talk

Talking dirty can be an incredibly powerful aphrodisiac that gets you and your partner in the mood and elevates the intimacy and romance!

Need to master the art of dirty talk fast?

With this guide you will be armed with a vast array of sexy phrases and words, as well as an understanding of what to say and when to say it, and also what not to say!Here is a preview of what you will learn in this guide:

  • Chapter One: How To Introduce Dirty Talk Into Your Relationship
  • Bringing it up to your partner
  • What if you’re the one asked to try dirty talk?
  • Dirty talk for newbies
  • What’s next?
  • Main takeaways
  • Chapter Two: Seduction And Dirty Talk Before Sex
  • How to seduce through text
  • Like a good old-fashioned letter?
  • Dirty talking in public
  • Finding your seductive voice
  • Dirty talk and consent
  • Main takeaways
  • Chapter Three: Dirty Talk During The Deed
  • The three most arousing dirty-talk techniques
  • What if the dirty talk isn’t going well?
  • Dirty talk over Skype
  • Dirty talk after sex
  • What not to do
  • What about dirty talk and role-playing?
  • Main takeaways
  • Chapter Four: Dirty Talk and Fantasies
  • How to bring it up
  • Easing into role-play
  • Dirty talk ideas for different fantasy scenarios
  • Main takeaways
  • Chapter Five: Is Dirty Talk Different Across Gender Lines?
  • Dirty talking to women (or anyone with a vagina)
  • Dirty talking to men
  • Non-binary dirty talk
  • Main takeaways
  • Chapter Six: Other Resources For Inspiration
  • Movies
  • TV shows
  • Books
  • Other resources
  • And so much more!

Even if you have never talked dirty before, with this guide in your hands you will be a master of using words to elevate the experience for you and your partner. Quickly learn how to talk dirty like a master when you grab this guide now!

5) Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot!, Carol Queen

Exhibitionism as a consensual erotic pleasure and a means to overcome shyness and body image issues. Featuring suggested exercises and discussions of erotic dress, talk, personas and roleplay, involving your partner, exhibitionism and the sex industry, and more. Interviews include Annie Sprinkle, Nina Hartley, Candye Kane, Juliet Anderson, Vanessa del Rio, Lily Burana, Shar Rednour, and others. Updated version (in press) will include a new chapter on Internet exhibitionism and new interview material with Margaret Cho, Violet Blue, Audacia Ray, and Brian Alexander.

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About Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and has most recently completed her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling. In practice for more than seven years, she is the only certified sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the local media, Dr. Lee is the appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She is the host of weekly radio show Eros Evolution on the OMTimes Radio Network.  She has published three books: Love, Sex and Everything In-BetweenOrgasmic Yoga and From Princess to Queen.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again. For her full profile, click here. Email her here.

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